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Top Five Male Fantasies: How To Float His Boat
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Last week we talked about how one of the best ways to keep your wife from straying is to understand and find ways to fulfill her fantasies. Well, it should come as no surprise to anyone that just like anything else related to romance and sexuality, this is a two-way street.
Satisfying your man's inner fantasies is just as important to keeping him faithful as it is for you. The problem is that many women don't understand what men really want. This happens for several reasons. For one, many of us try to figure out men by reading Cosmopolitan or other women's magazines – none of which have a clue. Trust us, your man isn't sitting around hoping you'll masturbate him with your scrunchies, pour marbles over the bed – as Gawker noted in a now-famous column. Most of the sex advice in these magazines will either bore him or scare him.
Another reason we get confused is that we tend to think men are as complex sexually as we are. They aren't. They may try to make us think they are because they don't want us to think they are simple, but they really are.
So, in order to be fair and help you keep his interest, we are now going to discuss the top five things that men really fantasize about – and that will keep him rushing back for home cooking, rather than hitting the local bar for take out sushi.
- Unexpected, non-reciprocal oral sex. Men want head. They just don't ask for blowjobs as often as they would, because they think you'll demand immediate sexual gratification in return. Plus, they are worried you'll turn them down. So, every so often when he doesn't expect it, walk up to him, give him a kiss, get down on your knees, give him a blowjob, then zip him back up and go back to what you were doing – without saying a word. He'll think you love his cock and you are the best partner he's ever had in his entire life. This is true no matter how “sensitive” a man he pretends to be.
- Thinking about you with another woman. No, you don't have to actually eat the furry chalice in front of him or seduce one of your girlfriends. He just wants to be able to think about you doing so. Therefore, when you are in bed or want to get him into bed, tell him about a time you “experimented” in college tripping the clit fantastic. Don't worry if you never actually did so. This is a time when it's completely OK to lie to him. Just make sure you invent a person and don't talk about someone he's going to run into in real life. If talking about this makes him want you to try it again, simply tell him that once you had sex with him, you realized that dick was the only thing you ever wanted. Then, give him a blowjob.
- Believing you are always thinking about sex with him. He wants to think that he is such a stud that you are doing nothing with your life other than thinking about his dick. Really. This is an easy fantasy to satisfy. A couple times a day, send him a dirty text message. If you are daring, send him a dirty picture to his cell phone. Can't think of what to say in your dirty text message? Here's a few suggestions: “I can't wait to suck your cock” and “God, I keep thinking about when I sucked your cock last night” and “I'm wet thinking about sucking your cock.” I think you see where this is going.
- Picking up a girl in a bar and scoring a quickie. When dudes are hanging out, they talk about two things: Sports and “that one time I scored when I met that girl in the bar and she took me to the bathroom/alley/backseat of my car/whatever.” Most of the time the dudes are talking shit – but that doesn't matter. They talk about it because it's what they want. So, make it happen. Set up a scenario where you get to a bar early, he shows up and you two act like strangers and you let him pick you up. You'll get bonus points if you are flirting with another guy when he shows up and then you blow off the other guy in favor of him. Then, after letting him buy you a few drinks and chatting you up, take him into the bathroom, alley or the backseat of his car and give him a blow job. You'll probably get flowers, a back rub and taken out to the dinner of your dreams. If you are just dating, you might get a proposal afterward.
- Anal sex. I know for a lot of us this is a little scary. It already hurt when we lost our first virginity – do we really want to go through that again? Don't worry that much about it. Many women find anal sex really pleasurable, and you can even read our guide to anal sex before hand. Anal sex is great because it's taboo and it's something other guys brag about. Putting your ass up in the air and letting him ravage it will drive him insane. If he's never done it before, you'll have to take some of the preparation into your own hands – by lubing yourself up before you get into bed – but if you let him have it he'll love you for it and you may find that you get more intense orgasms than you expect from the sexperience. A good idea is to experiment a bit yourself with vibrators and dildos beforehand so you are used to this new type of penetration. The good news about this? This is the one time that he won't be thinking about getting a blowjob.
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Interesting Post!
Beautiful Enslavement
I wish i could find a girl like that!
I think it is unrealistic to expect women to give men constant BJ's. It is difficult to give without getting anything back, it is human nature. Men will claim to love a women more who give them BJ's and be more connected but that's not true. The average man will not behave any differently in a relationship with a women who gives him BJ's – these women are just as likely to have a cheater or be dumpted or who will not communicate. So why make such an effort with absolutely no gain.
The more BJ's you give the more men will crave and demand them. Some men are very aggressive in this regard therefore, it is much better not to give then at all. The average women do not like BJ's because they are so one-sided and expected as a regular activity even by men who may not skilled enough satisfy.
Probably many more sexless relationships are a result of men's unrealistic sexual expectations from their partner's. Men badgering their partner's for quickies, and BJ's don't understand the basics of human relationships – it is an exchange of satisfactions not benefits to one person and nothing for the other.
No, if she loved you she does not have to give a BJ, actually, if you loved her you would respect her lack of interest in BJ's and concentrate on sexual activities satisfying to both parties. The result is more sex both parties.
that what 69 is for an then you both get mutual pleaure giving and getting head but husband should also set up rules in his hole and the wife should do as he has asked his wife to do and he should also recipacate but also in part the same also applys to the husband as well as the what good book says stated in marriage do not with hold sex from the your spouse.. It mean the both of you are responcable care provider of you're each others own spouse needs and well being…
I means you are both Custodians of your spouse emotional and spirit and hole body and and mind well being in every way this you both grow old together very happy in one another arms To No End…
Marialatin:
I actually enjoy giving a BJ to my man. Sometimes I surprise him with a welcome home BJ or while we are watching a movie on the couch or even in a movie theater. I get turned on by giving head. I know a lot of women do not really like it, but I guess I am an exception to that rule, as I really get into it and don't ask for anything in return. I guess to each their own sexual preference.