I thought that I would do a "quick" article on swingers and the swinger lifestyle. Wrong! When I began to research the topic, I discovered that recreational sex is a HUGE topic and very popular!

AskDanandJennifer.com conducted a poll on their web site earlier this year and the results were quite amazing…

• 35% of our readers (1060 votes) said that they would be willing to try swinging with the right group of people
• 20% of our readers (599 votes) said that monogamy is the only way to go
• 16% of our readers (492 votes) were strongly against it
• 16% of our readers (497 votes) are active in the swinger lifestyle and lovin’ it
• 13% of our readers (392 votes) said it’s not for them , but they don’t have a problem if someone else does it

51% of their readers were either actively involved in the swing lifestyle or were more than willing to try it!

35% of those surveyed WANT to try swinging! That's a whole lot of "wishful thinking"!

It seems to me after visiting various swinger's boards, that the only thing holding most people back is the unwillingness or hesitation on the part of their spouse or partner.

But, as with every problem in the world, there is a solution. Someone has written the book (yes, there's a "how to" book for everything! ) on Getting Your Wife or Girlfriend To Become a Swinger.

Sorry ladies…couldn't find a book to help you convince your husband to swing! General opinion seems to be that all guys are willing. That is not true of course but, apparently, no one saw the need for a book about it.

I haven't read the book and I can't vouch for anything in it. Personally, I think if you need to "convince" your partner to participate in swinger's sex then, you shouldn't be doing it anyway. Unless both partners are absolutely, 100% in favor of swinging, I can see no way in hell that it could do anything but destroy a relationship. But, that's just my opinion. Perhaps they are just shy and need a little coaxing, who knows?

Has sexual boredom brought us to this? Do we just suffer from some sort of adult ADHD when it comes to relationships? It seems that we are never be satisfied with what we have! Like children, we must always "push" the boundaries and see just how much more we can get away with.

Is swinging acceptable or just more proof that morality among humans is fading fast? I always figure that if something is "right", the moment of discovery will not be awkward or difficult to talk about with others.

Would swinging be easy to explain to your kids should they find out? Would you mind if they had multiple sex partners?

How about your parents?

Your peers?

Your boss?

Maybe you are okay with this. If so, then I guess "The Lifestyle" is right for you. If you are not, then some little part of you is telling you "this is wrong".

Maybe you should listen.




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