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13:38 by Cindy English · 49 Comments
Remember the song “Third Rate Romance” by Sammy Kershaw?
I love that song…it’s one of my favorites.
“I’ve never really done this kind of thing before, have you?”
“Yes I have, but only a time or two…third rate romance, low rent rendezvous…”
So, let’s be completely honest. How many of you have grown bored with married life?
How many of you still love your spouses but are just longing for that “sizzle” that left your relationship somewhere between the birth of your second child and the overdue car note?
I’m willing to bet that a majority of couples who have been married for sometime have experienced the “monotony of monogamy” as Ashley Madison so accurately puts it.
Ever find yourself fantasizing about hot, passionate, steamy sex with a complete stranger? Ever entertained the thought of meeting a co-worker or a friend for a little sex on the side?
Everyone has although, not everyone will admit to it!
I don’t think anyone is immune to those carnal desires I don’t care how devoted to their spouse they claim to be.
We crave passion and let’s face it…that’s the first thing to go in a lot of relationships.
I’m not saying that there aren’t a few exceptional couples out there who have managed to keep the passion alive. I am sure there are but those that have, had to work at it. It does not come naturally.
There are a lot of self righteous people out there who are very quick to condemn sites like the Ashley Madison Agency for “promoting” infidelity. They are also quick to judge people who do stray in their relationships as immoral, vulgar, shameful sinners.
What about couples who AGREE to partake in recreational sex with others?
If you have ever talked with couples who are swingers they will tell you that they are very much in love with each other but they still enjoy sex with others.
Are they immoral, unethical, shameful sinners too?
Perhaps people should just mind their own damned business and stop judging others who do not conform to their idea of what is moral or ethical.
Perhaps all of those “holier than thou” people should consider that married dating sites like Ashley Madison provide a valuable service.
If all of the married cheaters are messing around with other married cheaters…they won’t be out there tempting you and your morally correct yet blissfully bored partner will they?
Whatever floats your boat I say! 
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You know, I don’t condone swingers- seeking other partners while maintaining a stable relationship is, like you stated in your article, something the couple AGREES to do. Ashley Madison doesn’t provide that kind of service. They say (and this comes directly from a radio ad): “You’re in a relationship, right? Want to have an affair anyway?”
An agreement between a couple and an affair are two totally different things. And this site is promoting itself on the basis that having an affair is 100% ok. It’s not “OK”. In fact, by having an affair, you’re giving your marriage a giant middle finger. Why even bother to take the vows if you’re just going to turn your back on them? It’s repulsive.
All in all, what happens between a couple is their business. If they want to seek out sites like Ashley Madison… that is their choice (it’s not my life or my marriage they’re ruining; I’m not even married or dating so I have nothing to worry about)… but don’t put this kind of site out on the front lines for everyone to know about. On the radio? Little kids can tune in and hear that stuff! If I had a child and they came to me and said, “Mommy… I heard on the radio it’s OK to cheat on my husband..” you better believe I would be pissed beyond belief. And you can’t tell me you wouldn’t be either.
I think the whole lot of you are DISGUSTING! Do you take ANYTHING in life seriously? Cheating is for cowards! You people are pathetic!
I take everything seriously Linda…you may go polish your Halo now!
It’s really sad that now people are lowering themselves to thinking that it is a normal thing to do. Cheating is not right, it’s never been right. If you want to cheat, then don’t bother having a relationship. It’s not worth hurting someone else just for an orgasm. And Darlene, if you are a cheater, I’d go and take a look at the mirror, see how you really feel about yourself at the end of the day, and if it’s not guilt, you need some help.
What do I think? Uhhh well, I think it is natural for men and women to want one another whether as a committed couple or not. Ashely Madison facilitates this for those in need.
As for me, I am 54 and have been with well over 500 women as a younger man with never an STD! You probably will say oh my god…well you 3 need put your fingers where it feels good to ya cause only 4 were one nighters!
Come on Jenn, Linda and Laura…haven’t you ever seen a man that just makes your panties wet? Are you women a bunch of prudes with vibrators hidden in the panty drawer? This is national masterbation month and I would suggest you 3 let loose a little and learn more about your true desires whether you want to admit it here or not. I bet you would love it if you could be open with your sexual fantasies and desires. You women are the worst to talk about hot looking actors and what you would do to them if they were in your bed…wicked evil grin.
Jenn, Linda and Laura, get a grip…get out and get some as they say…come home and tell what you did with a co-worker in the supply closet or parking garage. It’s hot and you would love it. Hell, I bet your boyfriends or husbands would love it too! My lady loves it when I come home to her and tell what I did! Makes for great sex at home too!
As for Darlene, I sure would like to know more.
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If your that bored with your sex life or feeling trapped by marriage, then do the right thing and get a divorce. I agree with Linda. Cheating is pathetic. When you get married your taking a vow to stay with the one person your with, and to be with them for the rest of your life. If your going to cheat, don’t bother getting married. Life’s not a garden, stop being such a hoe.
Ashley Madison is proof positive of the decadence and hatefulness of what’s left of our society. It’s fascinating that people who are true to each other and keep their promises are snidely referred to as “holier than thou” while the liars, phonies and cheating hypocrites are now cool people who aren’t “hung up”… or something. The slimy euphemisms make evil good and good evil, or at least boring. War is peace.
I love my husband very much and would lay down my life for him. We laugh together, enjoy nice nights out together, and make good love together. However, we don’t have great sex and there’s the difference. No matter how often I’ve expressed my wants in the bedroom (and yes they are wants and not needs but no less relevant) he reverts to the standard lovemaking techniques that are not always satisfying. Ladies, be real, the same-old-same-old is just that, no matter if it produces an orgasm or not. I started to become bitter and was pulling away from him sexually. However, when I indulged in an extra-marital affair and my other needs were being met, I felt less resentful toward him and could actually relax and enjoy our traditional lovemaking knowing that was his style but that I didn’t have to be limited to it. Having those wild nights of abandon (that he won’t give me) keeps me evenly centered. Call it selfish if you want, but in the end, I don’t want to leave him for anyone else.
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This ad is promoting men to cheat All the ads suggest that the men have a big problem on their hands,their big, fat,and ugly wife. I’m a woman that deserves excellence and I think that his wife has a big problem: a fat undeserving slob.He is probably the one that is to blame for his sucky sex life ever heard of EDD. His wife is willing to stay with him ,even though he is a fat slob,but as soon she puts on a few pounds he is ready to have affair. Well who the fuck is he. This website can go both ways and men out there should be against it as well. Because just like men can replace women they can find themselves replaced too. Beware men, because if u are broken what the hell makes u think another woman wants to fix ur ass.lol peace
Since when is having some type of moral code the equivalent of being “holier than thou” or “a prude”. I’m a fairly young woman and I am not yet married but I know marriage is not something that I’d take lightly. When you get married you make a vow and a contract to your spouse to be faithful to them and only them. Now if y’all decide as a couple to alter these vows between the two of you, that’s your business. But when you sneak behind somebodies back, it’s deceitful and low. I agree with what Jenn says 100%. If you want to stick your thing every where or get some from every Tom, Dick, and Harry then you should have thought about that before getting married. Or talk to your spouse about swinging before you get married so that you don’t have to lie to them later. Now I may be a prude but I know carnal desires are strong but when you are commited to someone you should be COMMITED!
I just can’t believe what I am reading. If you’re having to sneak around behind your spouses back and don’t want them to know then obviously your marriage is over or on the verge. How can someone just disrespect their so called love of their life like that? Vows are meant to be something. I can understand having sex is an issue. Agreeing to be in a open marriage is fine, having threesomes is fine. but sneaking around to get some ass is just wrong. How can people hurt someone they so claim to love? If you don’t have the brains to talk to your spouse or get a divorce you shouldnt have married in the first place. Even if there wasn’t this site people still cheat. I find it wrong, im far from a prude. I have a great sex life and have been married 10 yrs and together 12 yrs along with three kids and all the bills. But I can tell you if I ever found my husband doing this, id leave his ass. You will not marry me based on vows and then abolish them to get your thing wet. I have more respect and deserve more than that. Basically people who do this have no self respect that is so sad that, thats what society is becoming. Cheating is wrong, if both parties agree to it then hey that’s fine. but sneaking around running the risk of disease and giving that disease to the person you so call are in love with is wrong!
I can’t say that I am speaking from experience, well not as of yet. I have a similar situation that’s been on going since April. Where I park off campus I was approached by a very nice looking older man, (I’m a returning student so you don’t think of him as a pervert he’s only 12 years older) I didn’t know he was married the first few times he hit on me. At first I must admit it found it somewhat of a joke which was the main reason I kept returning, I rather enjoyed watching him fall all over himself.
The question that reminded me of him the most was:
(“Ever find yourself fantasizing about hot, passionate, steamy sex with a complete stranger?”)
because in September he did just that, offered himself…. and then subsequently took it back. I being the curious female that I am I decided to play his game and made a counter offer, I just simply told him to let me know if he changes his mind, boy that sure got his attention. The next time I saw him he apologized using the excuse of getting too carried away. The next time I saw him I just ignored him which went on for two months and slowly he started to try and regain my attention which only took a little over a week. Nothing physical has taken place other then his occasional need too rub my arm. I’m not sure what I find so intriguing about him that keeps me coming back, I have no plans on stopping anytime soon.
Ok. I know several people who use Ashley Madison (and my partner and I probably would if we were married, but we are not, so the Ashley Madison people would reject us.) But here’s the thing: if you have an open relationship that isn’t a sketchy swingers type thing, it can be really hard to find partners, because the wedding ring puts them off. Having a dating site where people aren’t bothered about the ring is not a bad thing.
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Please check with your doctor before destroying your ability to be trusted. Before just trying viagra, insist on getting your testosterone level checked. Luckily I have found a doctor with a higher I.Q. than mine and the unusual ability to listen to my reasoning. My testosterone level was low so I manned up and learned that sticking a needle deep into a muscle is a way to show your commitment to fix things with the wife. There are other options but the hypodermic solution is about 7000 times cheaper. The patch is $100 copay each month. The injection is $10 for 30 weeks plus $4 for the syringes. And it is a cool fear to overcome. If afraid to say E.D., tell your doctor about your new found friend Ed. I thought of this before going in and got a good laugh after a weird look.
No one with any integrity in themselves and/or in their relationship with the one they love would need you anyway….. instant gratification which is all that sex is if there is no feelings- just getting your rocks off – is not the same as making love… and you still have to look in the mirror and like what you see. EVEN if I was single, I would not allow this as my standards for myself if nothing else are way high, and it is too easy to live down to lower standards. I would never screw someone that is in a relationship. Love is huge. Not to be taken lightly. It is a part of upbringing, manners, compassion, respect and more, plus the integrity you have within. You really think this is ok? I feel sorry for you. … Besides, I am hell of a lot more woman than you are, …. and way more romantic, so if you want some guy ejaculating all over your leg like dogs do, then go for it. Trust me then babe, I am way more good in bed than you are. lol
This is one of the most poorly reasoned arguments for infidelity that I have ever seen. Firstly, do you know the breakdown of the types of people that use ashleymadison.com? Are all of its patrons swingers or people whose spouses have consented to their joining? I’m going to guess that no swingers use this site (they really wouldn’t have to as there are probably much, much better resources out there for them to find like-minded couples) and that very few, if any, of ashleymadison.com’s users’ spouses have consented to their joining.
Now that we’ve got that really idiotic comparison out of the way (I’m just going to totally ignore your blatant ad hominem attacks on religious people, as I want to leave you with some sense of a justifiable ego after this), let’s get to infidelity’s drawbacks. One simple question here (it’s actually rhetorical): does it hurt those partners who DO NOT partake in it? Yes, it very much does. So, how is hurting someone who has given you all of the benefits of a committed relationship not wrong? This is what I want to hear.
Ultimately, I believe in living and letting live. If you want the benefits of a relationship while having sex with multiple partners, then I wish you the best in finding someone with similar preferences. But, to take advantage of someone who not only has sex with you, but also gives you emotional support in dark times and builds a life together with you, that’s just categorically wrong; I don’t need the Bible to tell me this.
T…”as I want to leave you with some sense of a justifiable ego after this”…
Sorry, but it would take a lot more than your opinion to bruise my ego!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I have mine – you have yours – both have been voiced.
THAT’S exactly what this site is for. Thanks for contributing!
And T didn’t “bruise your ego” huh? Way to prove T right by replying to their intelligent comment with your childish reply. Your are a joke right along with your opinions. I hope to NEVER meet someone as worthless as you…..complete waste of human capital. Did your parents not hug you enough, were they divorced, did you witness “justifiable cheating” growing up, did someone hurt you….what was your excuse that makes you think that YOU are holier than thou? You are just proof that not everyone is cut from the same moral cloth as others with integrity, and instead of striving higher; you throw in the towel and take the path of least
resistance. People like you don’t believe this or even their own BS.
You are all quitters & failures in life who fear accountability but will
justify their lifestyle by attacking others who remain true to their word. Cheating is lying. If you can lie, what else are you capable of justifying? Is stealing or murder next on your list of acceptable behaviors?
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T…”as I want to leave you with some sense of a justifiable ego after this”…
Sorry, but it would take a lot more than your opinion to bruise my ego!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I have mine – you have yours – both have been voiced.
THAT’S exactly what this site is for. Thanks for contributing!”
M…my goodness! A wee bit testy aren’t we?
Sounds like you haven’t had your hug today!
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The Ashley Madison website’s business agenda is deceptive and FAKE. You buy a certain amount of credits to email others. When your credits are exhausted, they send out a bait hoping to lure you back in. It’s generally some vague email from some unknown girl with a nice pic from the website. Once you fall for the bait and buy credits, you never hear from the girl who emailed you.
The Ashley Madison website’s business agenda is deceptive and FAKE.
I saw a commercial for Ashley Madison and wanted to know what they were all about. After reading this article I honestly have to say, i’m disgusted.
I’m a college Junior and couldn’t imagine what my life would be like if my Dad decided to have an affair on the side. It’s a shame that this world condones cheating, even comes up with excuses for it, and condemns those who stand up for their morals. I’m not Holier than Thou, just more honest amd moral than thou.
Some people shouldn’t be married. If you go into marriage thinking that cheatings okay then it definitely isn’t for you. I think a lull in your sex life is something you need to discuss with your spouse. Find a counselor. Nowadays there’s a counselor for every problem under the sun.
Marriage vows are just that, Vows. To blatantly disrespect in the name of good sex is disgraceful to me. If a divorce is needed, so be it. Don’t screw over your marriage just because, especially if children are involved.
I can only wonder what this world will be like when my (Future) children are grown…
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Look here all. If sex is all we,re looking for then so be it. I love my wife with all I have but sex is also a very important part of life. My sex life is lacking so I come to sites like this to fill a part of my life that my life partner cant fill. I would give my life for her but still need more than she can give in the bedroom. Not that I am some sort of sex god or something but we all have needs that need to be fulfilled. If she were to do the same I would understand.
I’ve noticed that a lot of young singles and marrieds have posted comments condemning AM. I don’t think you can truly judge someone until you have walked in their shoes but I wouldn’t expect anyone to condone my behavior. I have been married over 20 years and I myself would not have condoned this type of thing even a couple of years ago. I was a pretty messed up kid when I left home and ended up getting married before I knew anything about what marriage was supposed to be about. After a couple of years I realised that I had ‘settled’ for partner with a few compatibilities and not true life long love. I was determined, however, to make it work and I did work very hard at it while she hardly contributed anything. One of our compabilities was a very hot and satisfying sex life. Over time, while I tried to keep myself fit and attractive, she completely let herself go and had less and less desire to spend time doing anything but playing computer games. We hardly ever go out and I feel like a prisoner here. Now she has multiple health problems primarily brought on by that neglect. Our sex life is practically dead. I would leave her but she is now completely dependent on me financiaIly, emotionally and to some extent physically and I still care about her too much to leave her in that position yet I can’t stand the thought of living the rest of my life so alone. I have chatted with a few nice ladies on AM but have not yet spoken on the phone or made physical contact with anyone. I can’t begin to convey how uplifting it is just to talk to someone who can understand my situation, or to just be able to flirt and play for a few precious moments. I’m just saying sometimes there are circumstances…
Sometimes there ARE circumstances and one of them is the challenge (and the quandary it presents) of being honest with one’s spouse. Honesty can be extremely difficult. Sometimes one is honest because they are being selfish, getting a load off their chest so they don’t have to live with it anymore. Now the spouse has to live with it too. Sometimes one is dishonest and does not tell a spouse what happens because it would do nothing but hurt that spouse and maybe it is something, as wrong as it is, to take to the grave. I might cheat if I am sexually neglected and then keep it to myself. However, the key is to not put oneself in repeated situations, regularly deceiving your spouse. It may hurt you but so what? Why are YOU the most important thing on the planet? The original writer of this article wrote that maybe it is selfish. She or he is right.. it IS selfish and not good selfish. In the end, it’s you that has to live with your choices. If you have to go through life knowing in your mind that you are dishonest and lack integrity, then you are going to be hurt. You hurt yourself. If you don’t believe that, you are either completely ignorant or a sociopath. Take your pick. No one should judge you… but why don’t you just go stab yourself in the eye with a pitchfork? No one will judge that either probably. Same difference.
As for AshleyMadison, I read their website letter. At first they say the most frequently purchased package is the introductory one and then they immediately turn around and say its the least popular. It makes one wonder if this is a prime example of the blind leading the blind.
You crazy people… you would all fold from temptation if the “right” person came along… get off your high horse. You know it would be a thrill to see if anyone else out there was interested in you… you know I’m right… just admit it quietly to yourself…
Oh shut up about vows! What about the vows that say stick with each other in sickness and in health? I don’t say every1 is that way but most people that talk about vows are very selective about what vows to observe, especially when it comes to the adultery part. These people are not much different from fair weather friends and would walk away from a relationship should they find something better. And just because they end a relationship after fulfilling to the letter whatever vows are convenient to them does not mean that they are better than the people who cheat.
You prudes answer this question honesty! What if your partner stuck to every vow and for some reason you’re still unhappy in that relationship! What happens to vows then? I am pretty sure most of you wud walk out of an unhappy relationship in total disregard for the vows of in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow…. Because as far as I know the biggest sin in our society these days is to endure suffering, not flouting whatever convenient vows you holier than thou people chose.
Even if cheating is the worst sin, you prudes are nothing but the Pot calling the kettle blackER
I know in my case if my wife had lived up to what she said she wanted sexually we would be fine. But, somewhere along the lines she decided she would completely change our sex life without my input. Sex is important to me and it is something needed to keep me happy. All of you “I have found my soulmate” idiots are in for a shock after a few years when reality hits. Ladies, feed your man at home and he won’t go out for dinner. Oh and a woman told me that…not a guy.
I understand that life can seem long and full of challenges and difficult decisions but his site to me is just bait for the weak minded and shameless. At the end of the day we all makes choices but a lot spouses on here is making. Choice to two people and not just one. I am reading all of the comments and see people stating there love for there spouse and saying that they do not want to separate from there spouse but what will happen when you spouse make this same decision without your consent because it can happen just like cheating. What I don’t like about cheating is that men often try to make it seem normal but most women with self respect is in not normal and very hurtful. I am not married but hope to be one day and I am a young women who does not believe on causal sex. There are so many different temptation in life and most of them lead u to a very dead road. How many of u are going to really set some kind of boundaries with this site and with the people that u meet from this site because I rarely meet very good cheaters or cheaters with exit strategies? I usually see cheaters with no control and limits. What happens when this fling wants to go to the next level and it will. Is your partner suppose to always be so forgiving because people with common sense usually just cut there ties with people who can’t consider them deeper then the tingle between there legs. To me the Internet is the devils playground and today so many people lack real social skills. America the land of indulgence and the home of he cheaters this is why I want to be more cultured with different experience because we are all on the same sinking ship.
As an adult webmaster, I am part of the whole “extramarital affair” and find the posts on this blog interesting. Do we only cross the line when we go outside the marriage physically or is it the same when a person would go to an adult website?
I don’t think men and woman have affairs just because they have given up on romance or love. I think that for most they are still in love with their spouse, but frustration wears on you.After years of marriage after having a history and going threw trials and tribulations no one is ready to abandon there love, but if you have begged and pleaded for a change in affection what are you left with?
This is a true disgust~how can you after some years ditch your spouse? Okay i know you may wish to have some one else , you do get bored in some time but then actually going ahead n ditching your other half wouldnt do any good to you! It is just insane…you marry someone n promise him a lifetime how can you just be a slut and leave him? I dont think after some years you are so attracted towards sex..its the emotional support and love mutual understanding that keeps you two together..Please…uhhh…
“What about couples who AGREE to partake in recreational sex with others? Like swingers. Are they immoral, unethical, shameful sinners too?”
No, because they’re not LYING to their partners. They’re not going behind their back and lying to their face about where they were last night. Comparing an open relationship to an exclusive one is stupid.
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There is a world of difference between swinging and cheating. One is done in front of the other and the other is done behind someone’s back. All dedicated couples should swing and practice same room sex. Still, it is not cool to judge but most view swinging as very moral and cheating as wrong.
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