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30 Reasons Not To Leave Your Husband

August 16, 2009 by bcalendar · 5 Comments 

Over the past few weeks I've spent a lot of time here talking about why having an affair can be a fun, liberating and enormously erotic experience for any woman. It can recharge your batteries, make you feel feminine and remind you of just how desirable you are. Plus, it can be good clean fun!

But, we live in a monogamy centered culture – which is why people often ask me: “If you really feel the need to have an affair, why not just divorce your husband and simply be with the man you want to be with?”
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Supreme Self Confidence – Reviewed

December 30, 2008 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

Here is a look at a self-help book entitled Supreme Self Confidence published by Slade Shaw.

The reason that I chose to buy and review this book was because I think the biggest and most damaging side effect to a victim of infidelity is low self esteem.

For me, self doubt, feelings of inadequacy, shyness and insecurity all made it very difficult for me to move on or even attempt to have a relationship with anyone else.

Well this book promises to pave the way to supreme self confidence, so I decided to give it a review.
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How Did We End Up Like This?

November 17, 2007 by Cindy English · 5 Comments 

How did it go so wrong?

Have you ever asked yourself that?

Have you ever sat there and wondered how two people who were so much in love ended up where you are now?

Me too. Been there. Done that. "Have the t-shirt"… as they say.

Thinking about my own failed marriage, I realize that each step directly influenced the next which in turn has led me to where I am today.

I'm no expert but if I could sum up the failure of marriages everywhere is one sentence it would be this…

All marriages that fail are due to a series of unintentional misunderstandings!

We don't go into relationships planning to fail…

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Uncle Sam Is To Blame!

October 8, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

This article is just my rambling thoughts about serial monogamy or multiple marriages.

I have been thinking more about "Julie", the woman I spoke of in the article "Children Are The Real Victims Of Infidelity".

Apart from a fear of being alone, I think that money, or rather the lack or it, is a serious factor in serial monogamy.

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Sex Is Really Just A Mind Game

August 19, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

If I had to pick the one thing responsible for both the best and the worst of relationships, it would be the mind.

The mind is a very powerful thing and sex and relationships are very much a mind game.

Have you ever seen a beautiful person with a rather homely partner and wondered why?

If you really think about it, we love people because of the way they make us feel about ourselves.

It's not because they are good looking, or great in bed, or who they are…it is about whether or not they make us feel good about ourselves.

Look at it this way…

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If Your Spouse Is Cheating…

August 12, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

Knowing or suspecting that your spouse is cheating on you is devastating. It can create an emotional tidal wave that you will find almost impossible to control.

You will experience shock, anger, disbelief, confusion, hate, love, self-doubt, fear, depression, and low self-esteem all in a continuous, stomach churning succession. Having been there, I can tell you that nothing will drain you faster both physically and mentally than discovering your partner's infidelity.

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How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams

June 10, 2007 by Cindy English · 1 Comment 

The "Relationship Doctor" – Bob Grant, has just released his newest book – "How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams".

I became a fan of Bob Grant's after recently reading one of his books entitled "How Do I Get Him Back?"

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A Cheating Story – Could This Be You?

June 3, 2007 by Cindy English · 6 Comments 

I was one of the walking wounded…the cheated.

My story is not "unique" by any stretch of the imagination.

In fact, it is almost a cliché!

Sadly, hundreds of good women will see themselves in my story. But, just because it is so familiar, doesn't make it any less painful for each woman who endures it.

Let me tell you what I have learned.

At 20, I married my long time friend and lover. He was a handsome 'bad boy' who was fun and had a terrific sense of humor. He was very spontaneous and he was great in bed! What else could any young girl possibly wish for?

We were young, "in love", and having the time of our lives. We hung out with our friends, we partied hard, went games, concerts and everything else that was 'important' in life.
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Emotional Infidelity – Back Off!

April 9, 2007 by admin · 1 Comment 

Often a man thinks that in order to win back his cheating wife, he needs to dote on her, wait on her and cater to her every little whim.

Actually, nothing could be further from the truth.

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The Anatomy Of An Affair

March 26, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

Dr. Reena Sommer, Ph.D., has authored a very helpful book called "The Anatomy Of An Affair".

I read the book and found it to be very helpful. What I appreciated most about it was a calm and sensible approach to understanding why an affair happens in the first place.

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You Want A Faithful Lifelong Companion?

March 23, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

What creature on earth will…

…Be completely faithful until "death do you part"?
…Offer you unconditional_love and friendship no matter what kind of a mood you are in?
…Always be there to comfort you and support you when you need them the most?
…Not be judgmental or critical of your mistakes?
…Accept you just the way you are?
…Freely give hugs and kisses without you having to ask?
…Always be patient, tolerant and kind?

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Shorts Skirts – Fan Those Tail Feathers!

March 16, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

Why do women wear short skirts? Ruby red lipstick? Push-up bras?

Because we know guys are very visually oriented. They can't help but look. It's just human_nature for them. And guess what? We women count on it!

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How Do I Get Him Back?

March 13, 2007 by Cindy English · 5 Comments 

A lot of women who visit OCW ask:

"How do I get him back?"

At on point, following the break up of my marriage, that question was first and foremost on my mind too.

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Do Marriage Counselors Do More HARM Than Good?

March 11, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

I have never been a fan of marriage counselors or psychiatrists. 125 to 150 bucks an hour is a high price to pay for someone else's opinion.

I have also never been really clear on why their opinions should be considered "right" and mine wrong either.

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Your Cheating Wife Does NOT Mean Inevitable Divorce!

March 8, 2007 by admin · 6 Comments 

Finally, someone who gets it!

I found this terrific article written by Larry Bilotta entitled: Does a Cheating Wife Inevitably Lead to Divorce?.

This article thrilled me to no end because finally, I found someone who thinks as I do about the whole infidelity issue.

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Loving Two Men At The Same Time

February 20, 2007 by Cindy English · 25 Comments 

Have you ever found yourself in this situation? This is not uncommon. Many women have at some point in their lives asked themselves: "Is possible to love_two_men at the same time?"

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"5 Things You Shouldn't Do If He's Cheating on You"

February 13, 2007 by admin · Leave a Comment 

© Ruth Houston

This may be the most important report you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair.

There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do.

You just found out your husband is cheating on you. You’re still reeling from the shock and you're not quite sure what to do.

Before wrestling with that decision, let’s focus first on what you SHOULDN'T do.

Most women react blindly when they find out their husbands are having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret — things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive.

This report will keep you from making a mistake that could sabotage the course of action you eventually decide to take. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doing the wrong thing at the outset can make a bad situation worse.

Let’s look at 5 key things you shouldn't do and discuss the reasons why…
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Now That I Know He's Cheating What Should I Do?

February 11, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

When I first discovered my husband's infidelity I was so devastated. I was an emotional "basket case".

We had been married for 15 years and sort of "grew up" together. I could not imagine life without him and his 12 year old daughter thought the sun rose and set on her "Dear Old Dad".

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