Do you need guidance on "how to cheat on your spouse" successfully?

As stupid as it sounds, there is a "self help" book called Designing Infidelity written by J. Frances just for you, the would-be adulterer.

She says: "Having an affair is not rocket science; it’s merely a matter of the heart, your heart."

To hell with your partner's heart I guess!

Here is what "Designing Infidelity - A Reference Guide to the Art of Cheating to Perfection" has to offer your cheating heart…

"Designing Infidelity" is a complete, informative reference guide that outlines the do’s and don'ts, fine tunes your awareness to the details that most often slip through the cracks and leads you through the preparation and survival process of your extramarital affair.

Written by an authority on deception and extramarital relationships, this guide provides you with first hand factual information and knowledge that can only be shared through the very personal experiences of people who have dabbled in the art of domestic treachery and duplicity.

Open the book on "everything you needed to know about Infidelity" and lessen the odds of getting caught.

"Written by an authority on deception and extramarital relationships"…

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I stumbled upon this book a while back on Dr. Phil's web site.

Since Dr. Phil is known worldwide for his "relationship advice" through his T.V. show and his own vast array of relationship and self help books, I thought that The More You Know might be a worthwhile read.

Dr. Phil wouldn't risk his reputation by representing a dud book would he?

Well, I have finally had the time to download and read this book from cover to cover and I have to say, Dr. Phil didn't let me down!

The More You Know by private investigator Bill Mitchell, is indeed an excellent book and definitely worth recommending! I would not hesitate to say that it is probably the most practical, informative and helpful book that I have read on the subject of infidelity.

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The "Relationship Doctor" - Bob Grant, has just released his newest book - "How To Get The Man Of Your Dreams".

I became a fan of Bob Grant's after recently reading one of his books entitled "How Do I Get Him Back?"

I liked his approach - don't focus on each other's faults - understand each other's differences!

For any woman confused as to why her man has left and how to get him back, this book will provide some answers.

It will also help to determine if you really want him back!
I highly recommend it.




This latest book is also quite good!

"How To Get The Man Of Your
Dreams" is for any woman who has yet to find "Mr. Right".

What I took away from this book was a sense that women too often allow pure emotion guide their choice in a husband when in fact, a little practicality is needed.

It makes sense!

You don't just buy a car because it smells new and looks pretty, you also check to see if it suits your needs. Does it have enough leg room? Is is good on gas? Does it have a good warranty? Comfortable seats? How about the sound system?

We are picky when making other choices in our life, yet when it comes to choosing our mates, we often let the "heat of the moment" cloud our judgment leaving us disappointed later.

Yup! Been there - done that!

In Bob's book, he leads you down a path of self discovery before you even begin your first date with someone new. He teaches you to identify the "non-negotiable" qualities, the things you "must have" in your ideal partner. This should be a very important step in finding the man of your dreams! I think too many women "settle" for less than they hoped for in a man. According to Bob Grant, it is not necessary for any woman to do this.

Understanding how a woman's behavior is perceived by a man is very useful and the book offers a step by step behavior plan for your first six dates to ensure that you give your prospective husband the right impression!

One very good bit of advice for first dates…

Let him do the talking and do not volunteer too much information too soon. The one who is "listening" is the one who is in control and you want to be the one in control. This will make perfect sense to you once you read the book!

This book leaves no stone unturned. It tells you everything you need to know to find, capture and marry the man of your dreams within the next twelve months!

• Where should you look?
• How long should your first date last?
• What about sex?
• Is he the marrying type?
• What is his "lover trigger"? No…that is not it! I know what you are thinking!

I think the book is definitely worth the money. If I had one complaint, it would not be about the book itself. It would be that, as I have always suspected, men "frighten" easily. You must be gentle with them or risk scaring them away.

Big babies!

What it all boils down to is this…getting a good man requires patience and applied behavior modification techniques.

It is also prudent to remember your mother's warning…

"Why buy the cow when you can milk it through the fence?"

"How To Get The Man Of Your
Dreams"




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Dr. Reena Sommer, Ph.D., has authored a very helpful book called "The Anatomy Of An Affair".

I read the book and found it to be very helpful. What I appreciated most about it was a calm and sensible approach to understanding why an affair happens in the first place.

Often times, we get hung up in the "man vs woman", "villain vs victim" routine when it comes to explaining why an affair happens.

I found none of that in Dr. Sommer's book. In fact, unlike other books written about infidelity, her book does not takes sides or make judgments. Instead, it emphasizes the importance of understanding the dynamics of how affairs develop regardless of which side of the fence you are on.

She makes it very clear that in order to move on, heal or perhaps even rekindle the lost romance, couples first have to understand how their relationship arrived at the point where adultery could have been committed in the first place.

She encourages people to understand their cheating_spouses by putting themselves in their spouses shoes. Not so surprisingly, when this is done, often the partner who was cheated on can see that they played a role in it.

This doesn't mean that your partner "drove you to it" is a valid excuse, simply that both partners contributed to the circumstances that allowed an affair to take place.

"Affairs are not the cause of a relationship break-up…instead they are the symptom of a relationship that is highly lacking!"

This book clearly illustrates as it suggests, The Anatomy Of An Affair with several excellent case studies. But, by not getting sidetracked by the "cheater" or "cheated" perspective, this book gets to the heart of the matter.

This book will not tell you what you should do. That must be your decision. What it will do is give you the information, understanding and insight that you need to make a calm, informed decision about your future.

My advice? I think anyone being affected by the pain of infidelity should read this book before making any decisions about their future. Acting in haste, driven by anger does not allow for clarity and good judgment. This often results in regret.

Divorce does not have to be the inevitable outcome of an affair.
Dr. Reena Sommer's book will help you to see that!

I give it !


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A lot of women who visit OCW ask:

"How do I get him back?"

At on point, following the break up of my marriage, that question was first and foremost on my mind too.

In my search for a clearer understanding of relationships and in particular, "what makes men tick", I happened to cross "cyber-paths" with Bob Grant, L.P.C. "The Relationship Doctor".

You already know that I am not a fan of marriage counselors but Bob Grant is different.

Marriage therapists often encourage a "he said/she said" atmosphere. Placing blame and identifying each others faults are often the foundation for this so-called "therapy".

Nothing is accomplished and more often than not, the couple end up more frustrated and angry than they were before they attempted to "get help". Some couples site marriage counseling as being the final "nail in the coffin". The success rate is very dismal!

Bob Grant takes a much more sensible approach.

Don't focus on each other's faults - understand each other's differences!

I just finished reading his latest book, How Do I Get Him Back and I have to tell you…I liked it!

I give it a definite "two thumbs up!" (Ebert & Roeper aren't the only ones with thumbs! )

Any women who feels that the man in her life has lost interest in her and wants to know how to get him back will benefit from reading this book.

Here are a few things I found that really made sense and became crystal clear after reading this book.

• How to determine whether or not you really want him back. Maybe, he really isn't good for you?!
• The three reasons why men usually leave women. Reason #1 was a real eye opener for me! Who would have ever guessed that being a "good wife" would be bad for your relationship?

  Mental note: stop trying to be so damned helpful…men don't "see" it that way!

• There are similarities between men and women. They are both human…end of similarities!

  The differences? Simply put, men are visual and action oriented. Women are emotional and communication oriented. It's not that we don't want to understand each other, it's just that we can't because, to put it lightly, our brains are on different planes of existence!

• Bob lays out a clear cut plan to draw your man back after he has left you. Sex plays a very BIG role in this but not as you would expect!

  Yup, Bob Grant does confirm what we all knew. Guys will say anything, do anything to get sex but…is it what they really want?

There is a wealth of sincere, helpful information in How Do I Get Him Back for any woman who finds herself completely confused by the man she loves.

I have read it cover to cover. I definitely saw myself within the pages and wow…did I blow it a few times or what?!

Whether you are dating and were unexpectedly "dumped" or you are married and your husband has left you, this book will definitely give you some insight.

Don't waste time hashing your situation over with your girlfriends. They will of course have opinions but they really cannot help you!

One thing that I have always believed…if you want to know what goes on in a man's mind…
…you have to ask a man! Just not yours - at least until you know how!
I give this book It's very good!

P.S.
Bob Grant is currently working on a new book - "Why Do Men Cheat?" I am looking forward to it and will let you know when it is "hot of the press"!

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