Relationships At Risk

Dew On The Lily

October 25, 2008 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

My ex-husband asked me this once when I came home from a little get together at a girlfriend’s house…

"So, is there any dew on the lily?"

Dew on the lily?

Are you kidding me? Nope!

In his own colorful way, he was asking me if I had cheated on him!

Why is it that when the passion fades and lust is once again something to fantasize about, a man’s first instinct is to point an accusing finger?

"You’re not hitting on me so you must be doing someone else – are you?"

There are only two good reasons for these immature accusations…
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How Did We End Up Like This?

November 17, 2007 by Cindy English · 5 Comments 

How did it go so wrong?

Have you ever asked yourself that?

Have you ever sat there and wondered how two people who were so much in love ended up where you are now?

Me too. Been there. Done that. "Have the t-shirt"… as they say.

Thinking about my own failed marriage, I realize that each step directly influenced the next which in turn has led me to where I am today.

I'm no expert but if I could sum up the failure of marriages everywhere is one sentence it would be this…

All marriages that fail are due to a series of unintentional misunderstandings!

We don't go into relationships planning to fail…

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Uncle Sam Is To Blame!

October 8, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

This article is just my rambling thoughts about serial monogamy or multiple marriages.

I have been thinking more about "Julie", the woman I spoke of in the article "Children Are The Real Victims Of Infidelity".

Apart from a fear of being alone, I think that money, or rather the lack or it, is a serious factor in serial monogamy.

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Beware Of The Cyber Affair!

July 15, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

Never believe that a cyber affair is anything less than a serious threat to your relationship.

"I didn't mean for it to happen…it just did."

Have you ever heard that from a spouse or a partner who cheated on you? The chances are very good that they were telling the truth.

It is possible that…

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I Am Likely To Have An Affair – Are You?

July 15, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

I found this interesting questionaire on the BBC Site in the Science & Nature: Human Body & Mind section.





The questionaire was written at the London Institute of Psychiatry and is designed to assess the likelihood of you having an affair.

I have always thought that out of sheer boredom more people would have affairs if they thought that they could get away with it.

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Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat

April 4, 2007 by Cindy English · 58 Comments 

The question is as old as the problem itself…

Why do men cheat?

Is monogamy really a myth?

Are guys predestined to cheat because it is human nature?

Scientists have long explained that men are biologically motivated to seek out multiple sex partners. This natural instinct ensures a healthy gene pool and the survival of our species.

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The Anatomy Of An Affair

March 26, 2007 by Cindy English · 2 Comments 

Dr. Reena Sommer, Ph.D., has authored a very helpful book called "The Anatomy Of An Affair".

I read the book and found it to be very helpful. What I appreciated most about it was a calm and sensible approach to understanding why an affair happens in the first place.

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Are You Addicted To Cyber Sex?

February 25, 2007 by Cindy English · 7 Comments 

Cyber sex, or Internet infidelity is not something to be taken lightly.The Internet is a virtual playground for those tempted to cheat.Email, instant messaging, web cams, and porn/dating sites are dangerous tools in the hands of a lonely or dissatisfied spouse! What starts out as innocent "chat" can quickly turn very personal and sexual.The Center For Sexual Health posted some very interesting Facts About Cyber sex Addiction you should read. Actually, there is a lot of helpful information on this site from Alexandra Katehakis, a Los Angeles based Marriage, Family Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist.Many people are becoming addicted to cyber sex!Are you one of them? If you are excusing your online behavior as a harmless "diversion" from the realities of life, then why do you feel so damned guilty?.You try to convince yourself that you are not cheating because no physical contact is being made. You know you are wrong or you wouldn't keep that second browser on car quotes or ladies fashion open to escape to when your partner walks into the room.I would be far less threatened by a spouse who admitted to a "one night stand". I mean accidents happen right? A few drinks, great music, some harmless flirting and the next thing you know, you're staring at a naked person in bed and you can't remember their name. There is no emotional connection…it was just sex.Cybersex is different. You have spent hours building an emotional and very personal connection with someone who "understands" you. The more you "connect" with your cyber-lover, the more you diconnect from your real partner. You tell your cyber-lover things that you would never consider telling your spouse. Have you ever wondered why?

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Loving Two Men At The Same Time

February 20, 2007 by Cindy English · 25 Comments 

Have you ever found yourself in this situation? This is not uncommon. Many women have at some point in their lives asked themselves: "Is possible to love_two_men at the same time?"

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Why Men Don't Like To Talk About Their Feelings

February 18, 2007 by admin · Leave a Comment 

I really believe that the main reason that men and women have trouble sustaining long term relationships is very simple…

We do not understand each other!

Men and women are from the same species and there the similarity ends.

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"5 Things You Shouldn't Do If He's Cheating on You"

February 13, 2007 by admin · Leave a Comment 

© Ruth Houston

This may be the most important report you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair.

There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do.

You just found out your husband is cheating on you. You’re still reeling from the shock and you're not quite sure what to do.

Before wrestling with that decision, let’s focus first on what you SHOULDN'T do.

Most women react blindly when they find out their husbands are having an affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge compel them to do things they later regret — things which make it difficult or impossible to implement any worthwhile infidelity advice they may later receive.

This report will keep you from making a mistake that could sabotage the course of action you eventually decide to take. Regardless of whether you decide to leave your husband or stay with him and try to work things out, doing the wrong thing at the outset can make a bad situation worse.

Let’s look at 5 key things you shouldn't do and discuss the reasons why…
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Now That I Know He's Cheating What Should I Do?

February 11, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

When I first discovered my husband's infidelity I was so devastated. I was an emotional "basket case".

We had been married for 15 years and sort of "grew up" together. I could not imagine life without him and his 12 year old daughter thought the sun rose and set on her "Dear Old Dad".

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In Love With Two Men At Once – POTC

February 3, 2007 by admin · 1 Comment 

Okay…this one is just for fun.

Is it possible to love two people at once?

I know that "The Pirates Of The Caribbean" is just a movie but every movie has some basis in real life. This issue of loving two people at the same time does come up time and time again in real life.

For those of you who are "high and mighty" come down from your soap box and join the fun. This is all hypothetical, no harm done! Now, you say that if you truly love someone than you cannot be tempted? You will never stray?

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Are You Tempted To Cheat?

January 16, 2007 by Cindy English · 5 Comments 

How many of us if we were 100 percent honest would admit that at some point, we have wanted to cheat on a partner or spouse?

I know that I certainly have and let me say that I consider myself to be a 'good' person with sensible moral values. By sensible, I mean that I do try to 'do the right' thing in most situations.

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Do You Have A Cyber-Marriage?

January 14, 2007 by Cindy English · Leave a Comment 

Okay, I was listening to a little video on 60 Minutes today about a married couple who claim that they do not spend more than one hour per week talking to each other!

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