A lot of women who visit OCW ask:

"How do I get him back?"

At on point, following the break up of my marriage, that question was first and foremost on my mind too.

In my search for a clearer understanding of relationships and in particular, "what makes men tick", I happened to cross "cyber-paths" with Bob Grant, L.P.C. "The Relationship Doctor".

You already know that I am not a fan of marriage counselors but Bob Grant is different.

Marriage therapists often encourage a "he said/she said" atmosphere. Placing blame and identifying each others faults are often the foundation for this so-called "therapy".

Nothing is accomplished and more often than not, the couple end up more frustrated and angry than they were before they attempted to "get help". Some couples site marriage counseling as being the final "nail in the coffin". The success rate is very dismal!

Bob Grant takes a much more sensible approach.

Don't focus on each other's faults - understand each other's differences!

I just finished reading his latest book, How Do I Get Him Back and I have to tell you…I liked it!

I give it a definite "two thumbs up!" (Ebert & Roeper aren't the only ones with thumbs! )

Any women who feels that the man in her life has lost interest in her and wants to know how to get him back will benefit from reading this book.

Here are a few things I found that really made sense and became crystal clear after reading this book.

• How to determine whether or not you really want him back. Maybe, he really isn't good for you?!
• The three reasons why men usually leave women. Reason #1 was a real eye opener for me! Who would have ever guessed that being a "good wife" would be bad for your relationship?

  Mental note: stop trying to be so damned helpful…men don't "see" it that way!

• There are similarities between men and women. They are both human…end of similarities!

  The differences? Simply put, men are visual and action oriented. Women are emotional and communication oriented. It's not that we don't want to understand each other, it's just that we can't because, to put it lightly, our brains are on different planes of existence!

• Bob lays out a clear cut plan to draw your man back after he has left you. Sex plays a very BIG role in this but not as you would expect!

  Yup, Bob Grant does confirm what we all knew. Guys will say anything, do anything to get sex but…is it what they really want?

There is a wealth of sincere, helpful information in How Do I Get Him Back for any woman who finds herself completely confused by the man she loves.

I have read it cover to cover. I definitely saw myself within the pages and wow…did I blow it a few times or what?!

Whether you are dating and were unexpectedly "dumped" or you are married and your husband has left you, this book will definitely give you some insight.

Don't waste time hashing your situation over with your girlfriends. They will of course have opinions but they really cannot help you!

One thing that I have always believed…if you want to know what goes on in a man's mind… …you have to ask a man! Just not yours - at least until you know how! I give this book It's very good!

P.S. Bob Grant is currently working on a new book - "Why Do Men Cheat?" I am looking forward to it and will let you know when it is "hot of the press"!

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