Knowing or suspecting that your spouse is cheating on you is devastating. It can create an emotional tidal wave that you will find almost impossible to control.

You will experience shock, anger, disbelief, confusion, hate, love, self-doubt, fear, depression, and low self-esteem all in a continuous, stomach churning succession. Having been there, I can tell you that nothing will drain you faster both physically and mentally than discovering your partner's infidelity.

The events that unfold upon discovery will seem almost surreal. Where do you go from there? How do you get through it?

This video from licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr. Sheri Meyers Gantman provides you with some very wise advice. She is absolutely right when she says "ask", don't "accuse" your partner if you want the truth.

If you approach a cheater in anger, their survival mechanism kicks in. They will lie, deny and turn the tables on you. Before long, you will feel like the whole thing is your fault!

If you approach in a calm, inquiring way, they are far more likely to be honest with you and discuss the affair. Then, you have a choice. You can either work together to repair your marriage or…you can unleash your pent up anger and get even!

It's been done both ways…the choice is yours!





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