Sex, Lies And The Internet Reviewed 
I finally got around to buying and reading Stephany Alexander's new book: Sex, Lies And The Internet.
While the book is touted as an "online dating and infidelity" resource, I found it to be the most useful as a tool to help women identify and escape from abusive relationships.
So how does that help if you are dealing with a cheater?
Cheating is a form of abuse - emotional abuse - especially if it is repetitive.
Cheating can damage a woman's self esteem so badly that I have seen women who stuck with their cheating husbands simply because they felt that they couldn't do any better. Their husbands had, through mental conditioning and emotional abuse overtime, convinced them that they were worthless and lucky to have anyone, especially him, at all.
If you ask me, I think that a man with very low self esteem himself is likely to be the one to do this. Why? Because it feeds his ego. Whether he bangs the waitress at the bar or strikes out, he has the freedom to try and the security of knowing that his brainwashed little wife at home "needs" him and won't do anything about it. He never has to worry about being alone. It's a control thing.
Anyway…I'm no psychologist…that's just my opinion.
Back to the book…
The first thing that you will notice about Sex, Lies and the Internet is that it lacks the usual credentials of a relationship self help book. There's no DR., LMFT, CSW, PhD, LPC, or any other initials attached to Stephany Alexander's name. She's just an ordinary girl with life experience to share with you.
I liked that.
No book can solve your problems only you can do that. Sometimes you can be so close to the situation that you can't see what your problem is though.
That's where Sex, Lies and the Internet can help.
Through numerous real life abuse stories, you will possibly recognize your own situation and come to realize that it is time to move on. It helps to know that other women have gone through what you are going through. It helps to know that there is something better out there awaiting you!
The book does an excellent job of outlining the types of dangerous men to avoid, things to watch for and ways to be safe. If you are already hooked up with an abuser, she suggests ways to boost your self esteem and make you realize that you deserve better. She helps you to muster the courage to save yourself (and your kids) and leave.
Particularly helpful are chapters 6 and 7 on how to leave, where to go for help, how to secure yourself and your property and how to implement your abuse safety plan.
Once you are on your own, Stephany explains the stages of grief you will experience and helps you to avoid "backsliding".
The book ($14.95) is an easy read and "flavored" by Stephany Alexander's own experiences…
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle, but you have to admit, good ones are great to have around."
It contains solid advice and, if you learn anything at all, it is to be very cautious while remaining open to and hopeful of a new love.
Getting back into the dating game is a scary thing. I know…that's where I'm at!
So, if Stephany is right…
There is a good man out there somewhere just waiting for you and me.
Let's go find him!
Sex, Lies And The Internet
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