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01:03 by Cindy English · 51 Comments
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Good Grief!
I stumbled across a site today that kind of blew my mind. Now I know that we women can be quite vindictive but, “Geez Louise”…is this even legal?
Ladies…let’s have a little “man bashing” shall we?
Don’t Date Him Girl! has been around for about 18 months. The owner of the website justifies it’s existence as being “sisterhood” where women can warn other women about potentially dangerous or unsavory males.
In reality, this cutesy, pretty pink site really consists of the rantings and ravings of women at their worst. These women are hurting, angry and looking for revenge – with a capital “R”!
What better way to “get even” with a cheater than to splash his profile on a website that has gained national attention through major TV news networks, talk shows and national publications such as People and USA Today?
Some of the posts will literally stand your hair on end. The accusations are graphic and intended to cut to the bone. Many include personal contact information on the “guilty scumbag” as well as their photo.
None of the posted allegations require proof and becoming a contributing member requires nothing more than a “user id” and an email address.
So, in complete anonymity, on a bad day, suffering from PMS, a mood swing or an other “female affliction” that excuses my poor behavior…I can nail some guy’s ass to the wall just because he pissed me off!
I am woman.
I am mad.
Hear me roar.
I do not wish to paint all women in a bad light, after all, I am one of them. But, being one of them does make me painfully aware that the term “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned” did not come from nowhere! We really can be “bitches” at times. 
The owner of Don’t Date Him Girl! claims that she intends to start a male version of the site called “Don’t Date Her Guy!” However, she (you aren’t surprised that the owner is a “she” are you?) has reservations about the new site.
“Men will probably just use the site not to warn other men but just slander,” she says. “You know, insult women, or say, ‘She’s a bitch,’ or something derogatory.”
source: Miami New Times
Really…ya think? Shame on you men! The woman posting on DDHG would never do such a thing! Yeah right!
If you think this site is a good idea, think before you rush off to post.
Pittsburgh criminal defense attorney Todd Hollis doesn’t. He found himself listed on DDHG and wasn’t amused. He has filed a lawsuit against Tasha Joseph (the owner), and seven individuals who allegedly posted the remarks, for defamation.
The DDHG “Terms of Use” seem to cover the site owner’s butt pretty well, clearly putting the liability for false postings and allegations on the author…YOU!
We have yet to see this play out in court, but, what if Hollis is successful? There will be hundreds of men like those responding to this post on Freedom To Differ jumping on the bandwagon.
Can anyone say “class action”?
The Miami New Times has an excellent, in depth article about this site.
Before you post, you really should read it!
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hi nice site.
Guys who abuse women, spread stds, use women for sex and money, should be exposed. Cheating men, like fungi, grow in the darkness. Exposing these guys keeps them from damaging more women and children. Freedom of speech is the right of everyone and if it is true it is okay to say it. Others can choose to believe it or not but at least they have an opportunity. If you don’t want bad things said about you; don’t do them. Quite Simple.
Also, the man who didn’t like being posted on the website was the one who filed the lawsuit. He is a lawyer. He lost his case in April 2007. The website owner has no liability and it is perfectly legal.
Hi Shari,
“Freedom of speech is the right of everyone and if it is true it is okay to say it.”
True, but there is no guarantee of truth here. Have you ever been so angry at someone that you just lashed out and tried to hurt them with words? Have you ever said things that you really didn’t mean or perhaps regretted having said later? I know I have. The difference being that you said it directly to that person and they were given a chance to defend themselves in private.
On a site such as DDHG, the accusation is made publicly, anonymously and in anger as the woman on Dr. Phil admitted. There really is no complete redemption for someone who has been falsely accused in public. Someone will always believe the story even if it proves to be untrue. The damage is irreversible.
I am not saying that Todd Hollis is innocent of the accusations made against him, only that if he is, the damage is unjustly done.
I do agree that the site owner is not responsible for the content of the site. Legally, she is protected, however, the users probably can be held accountable.
There is a new post:
Don’t Date Him Girl! The Lawsuit…
I know the truth. I been hearing Conspiracy theories about Don’tDateHimGirl.com is a attack on straight guys by turning/converting straight girls into lesbian/Gay/Bi girls to start kissing/loving only other women and not love guys. This website seems to be nothing but a convert to bring more straight women/girls into the lesbian religion. This website creeps me out. They make out guys to be jerks but I know really nice guys out there. This website sickens me and makes it harder to marry a straight women.
>>>>” A convert to bring more straight women/girls into the lesbian religion?”
I was unaware that being a lesbian was a religion. I simply thought it was a preference of lifestyle.
Something I am not interested in…I might add. This woman has served in the Navy and Marine Corps. I have seen more bush than a sniper. I’ve seen it in dressing rooms, the barracks and with being a observer in a drug urinalysis. It didn’t turn me on back then, so I must NOT be gay. I have always dated men. NEVER been with a woman.
I think you are just peeved that there is a website like this for women to bring these men to light. I personally really don’t care about knowing if some man cheated on his girlfriend (whom he wasn’t married to). I think that some girls abuse that site sometimes for unnessary bantering. BUT my best friend had her house burned down this year by her estranged husband. He tried to murder her and her three daughters. And while he was in jail, his father bailed his son out (paying $150,00), saying that he wasn’t thinking too clearly when he done it and has mental problems. Now my friend fears for the lives of herself and her daughters.
I am glad this website exists, so she can tell her story to other women, because he is on the prowl, looking for young, naive girls, wanting to fill their heads full of nonsense, by saying his wife was a b_tch who deserved this. Women need to know about this baby killing loser.
I think that you men are just angry because all your gossiping about women, (calling them ho’s and skanks) and ruining their reputations has just turned around and bitten you men right on the arse. I heard how you men talked about other women. In the military, you men gossiped worse than women. But then you are the first to cry about it, if women are gossiping about you.
hi all.
Definitely definitely definitely there is a need for “Don’t Date Her Guy!” The girls complaining guys call them “Skanks” and “Hoes” well, “SOME” girls may just need to not act that way if they are to gain a little respect from the gorgeous men whose hearts they are playing with. Being a mother of teenage boys and seeing heaps of their awesome mates regularly, all i can say is there has got to be a better quality of girl out there for ya guys! They have your heart one week and are then drunk and with your mate the next!! Come on, lets get the guys sharing their stories too, being a female and having a beautiful teenage daughter and another one a couple of years younger I can hardly think i am being one sided here but gee I am so over the amount of books written for the girls when their behaviour can often be so much worse than the guys! The guys could do with a read, some help and support too, just keep it a small book and straight to the point to keep their interest.
Shari:
Very well and simply stated. I could not agree with you more. There is not now, or ever will be, any excuse for what is basically sociopathic behavior which harms and damages innocent people-female or male.
There may be some revenge and retaliation going on on that site, but it looks to me, for the most part, like it is providing a true service for potential future victims.
If it saves even one human being and their familial connections from undeserved heartbreak, financial or spiritual loss, or psychological or physical damage-then it is certainly a worthwhile service that is being provided.
As far as I am concerned, the noisy protesters are just afraid that there may come a day when they are exposed for what they really are…in spite of whatever facade they happen to be hiding behind. People who have nothing to hide, or lose, (at other’s expense) would welcome such a service, not be protesting it.
The owner of such -witch hunt- sites defaming individuals without proof should be be made responsible for their accusations and ultimately shut down.
Period.
If not see you in East Germany or any other totalitarian System tomorrow where your own kids are turned into informers.
“People who have nothing to hide, or lose, (at other’s expense) would welcome such a service, not be protesting it.”-that´s exactly their argument.
I’m not entirely convinced the site’s owner is legally protected from libel. Bit-torrent sites offering pirated software, music, and movies technically only contain links to trackers, hashes and checksums — nothing that’s illegal. It’s the users themselves who participate in the piracy. This has not stopped lawyers from the MPAA and large software vendors from successfully shutting down bit-torrent sites and getting substantial monetary judgments against the webmasters who own and operate these sites.
I’d say there’s a huge precedent for burning the site’s owner a new orifice, if slander/libel can be proven.
Are we supposed to believe the person who wrote the original, opening article above about don’t date him dot com is a woman? Nice try, my boy, but you’re not a girl. John Wayne or James Bond do a better job of convincing me they’re women than you.
At any rate, humans have wined about wanting freedom of speech and no censorship for years, and then when given freedom, this is what they do, they impersonate the other gender, or they set up a situation where lies can be told about anyone with no accountability, and now, not just public figures. A new McCarthy Era is at hand, we’re all targets for death by rumors like Princess Di, because we can’t seem to be responsible with our freedom.
Oh, and speaking of bashing the other gender, the photos of impossible looking bimbos on this site? That bashes 98% women who don’t look like that, (and will eventually bash the bimbos when they sag) because of the media’s consistency in depicting these shapes and ages as the only ones ever engaged in sex.
“Nice try, my boy, but you’re not a girl. John Wayne or James Bond do a better job of convincing me they’re women than you.”
John Wayne is dead and James Bond is fictional – nothing to prove there, but as for me?
Wellll, let me tell ya somethin’ pilgrim…for 48 years I have been hiding behind a set of boobs and a vagina only to be told by you that I am “not a girl”! Damn! I thought I had everybody fooled!
“they impersonate the other gender, or they set up a situation where lies can be told about anyone with no accountability…” (Much as you are doing here by challenging my gender…
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As for the “gender bashing” thing …you seem to be of the mistaken assumption that all attractive females are “impossible bimbos”. You are stereotyping. Some of the smartest women are also beautiful. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. You can have brains AND beauty.
The difference between these women and the 98% (a rather a high estimate) that as you say, “don’t look like that” is that they are smart enough to know the value of their beauty in the first place and do what it takes to keep it!
We’re all going to sag…some just quicker than others!
Oh, and most of the women that don’t look like that…wish they did…and there’s not a darn thing stopping most of them except ambition. Step away from that Big Mac, biggie sized fries and the “diet coke” and go for a walk!
And while the media is well aware that homely and overweight people are having sex too…who wants to “picture” it? It’s bad for business.
“A new McCarthy Era is at hand, we’re all targets for death by rumors like Princess Di…” A bit drastic me thinks!
…”because we can’t seem to be responsible with our freedom.” Everyone is entitled to their opinion. You have yours and you are free to voice it…however incorrect it may be.
I have mine, and damn it…I still< ?i> think I’m a girl!
Do your boobs make it hard for you to shave your mustache every day to fool the world into thinking you’re a girl? And “good looks” are conditioned. You men (and male/female hybrids, like you) are blind obedient servants to what shape the media tells you to want to have sex with. Real men make their own choices. And their love making is like nothing on this planet (I’ve had the ‘male bimbos,’ also. Worthless).
Those luscious, incredibly masculine African men don’t mind thin, medium or fat, but they think the impossible combination of thin bodies with stiff boobs the size of a fat woman feeding triplets (while pointing straight forward) is the stupidest looking body they’ve ever seen. Women’s boobs are the size of their bodyfat unless they’re nursing or are a freak mutation. I’d say 98% was being generous. And deep love and soul understanding changes how we see the other person, anyway. In fairness, the men on this page don’t look like most men, either.
I sure agree with you!
Pardon my mistake above. The comment, “I sure agree with you!” was meant for “Guilty until proven innocent,” who described this coming “McCarthy era” as ‘witch hunts’ so well. I should have scooped up that comment and put it with mine.
As for “admin” you stated it so well, also: “On a site such as DDHG, the accusation is made publicly, anonymously and in anger as the woman on Dr. Phil admitted. There really is no complete redemption for someone who has been falsely accused in public. Someone will always believe the story even if it proves to be untrue. The damage is irreversible.
But you seemed to miss the point here:
I SAID: “they impersonate the other gender, or they set up a situation where lies can be told about anyone with no accountability…” YOU SAID: “(Much as you are doing here by challenging my gender)”
That’s the whole point, you’ve invited comments about your work yourself, your company controls the web site, you and they can remove what I say, and argue directly back, piece by piece if you want. On sites like DDHG, the men aren’t inviting comments about themselves or their work as you have done here, and they have no ability to remove comments by others, nor to even argue directly back on the same site they were made as you choose to do here.
A male with hormone imbalance would certainly call this all “a bit drastic” or perhaps even, “hysterical,” right? We women get that way SOOOOOO easily. Right? Couldn’t possibly be foresight or insite.
It takes more than a walk and less Big Macs to change a body to the “impossible” shape. It takes restructured facial bones to close to Caucasian (a little black or a little asian is okay, but not much), changed height, changed hair, more workouts than most people who contribute to society in smarter ways have time for. and here’s the most impossibe: Fat but stiff boobs with a thin body.
I was that bimbo at one time, thin, lucky enough to have the right facial structure, bleached hair, and got my boobs bigger than normal for my weight through a variety of fake means, and today, my best friend’s daughter is the bimbo, and she is throwing away her brains to cause damage to her body to have fake boobs and wastes her time spending money to go to places to get worthless men to stare at her. Her sex life is not good, she’s not happy, she doesn’t use her very expensive college degree, she feels terrible about herself for as she states ‘having no meaning in life’ and therefore needs more and more “hits” of men turning their heads. What’s more, a quality guy who sees past bimbos that she finally actually fell for didn’t like her because “he thought she was a bimbo.” She (and I at one time) were hardly using our brains to keep our bodies looking that way. The rewards are an illusion. The looks even allowed me to marry the most popular high school football hero, the greatest accomplishment a girl could hope for, to end up later with a loser. Not until I remarried the wonderful person I’m with now, and began an intelligent career which has nothing to do with appearance, did I realize what I was missing in life and how “bimbohood” drug me in the wrong direction, led me to loser men, and into a hell (Uh-oh, there goes the dramatics, the drastics, the hysterics.)
When genuine good health is a priority, most of us do “look” better on the outside. That’s all we really need to aim for, but the media makes it difficult when it appears that only white (or close to Caucasian) facial features, age 20, “impossible shape” enjoys sex. The author of “Female Chauvenist Pig” shows that these bimbos have less sex than most of us. Little girls need to know that before they throw away the baseball bat or the microscope they got for Christmas, that there’s another happier world than this one, and not to be sucked up into this joke if they happen to have the rare freak body most don’t have, and to not try to force it if they don’t.
Hey – did anyone check out the ad on this site “CheatingHouseWives.com”. C’mon ladies Statistics are starting to show that it’s an even split between men and women cheating on their significant other in this country. So if you decide to slander a guy on DDHG, it should only be fair, that we should be able to do the same. After all, it’s all about equality, isn’t it?
DDHG revealed the truth about a man I was involved with and what the other commenters had to say were true. Women can be malicious, but I still believe there is some truth to what is said about some of these guys. My advice is to be very careful, be watchful and be mindful.
John is a liar and a womaniser. He lies, misleads, and covers up his deceit (usually cheating) until you show evidence, and even after that he’ll say you’re crazy, you misunderstood him (you weren’t actually dating-dating, it wasn’t your business who he was sleeping with, the list goes on). Even then, he’ll claim to have turned over a new leaf and “changed” – now he can be faithful to you. And the cycle of deception starts again. He’s been this way for years, with a constant stream of women, and one female best friend with whom he’s been in and out of love and bed for nearly a decade. The ones who are still around from way back are the women who put up with his lies, don’t take him seriously, or treat him the same way he treats them – as objects rather than people. Many fall back into the same cycle because John is so charming. John’s been in jail more than once (drugs and possibly a domestic), and has been fired for being unreliable and/or stealing at least once. You don’t learn these things until you’ve spent some time with him and see the crap hit the fan, unfortunately. John maintains profiles on several dating, sex/adult (especially bbw-related), and social networking sites. He has posted pictures of his penis on the internet before and records himself masturbating. He claims to want an emotional connection, love, and commitment, but in fact he does his best to emotionally manipulate and guarantee your one-way commitment while hitting the sheets and streets with as many women as he can get. He somehow has a constant stream of girls who believe all his nonsense, although it is hard to piece all the lies together unless you reach out to other women who seem like they’re just a little too close to him to be platonic as he’ll claim. John has been foregoing safe sex for years. He has one child he doesn’t see or support which was conceived in a brief relationship after having girlfriends who terminated their pregnancies. He still, reportedly, refuses to use condoms because he can control or “doesn’t have pre-ejaculate.”
I feel that ( don’t date him girl), provides some insight and background on some very seedy losers, that otherwise would be learned by hurt/abuse and tears. A one ( Anthony Chiaravallotti, 49yo, Bucks, Pa) is a primary example to many women that learned the hard way. He is not even good looking and far from adequate in bed, not to mention his other inadequacies. Be warned!!!!
This man is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. He is an Associate Pastor at the Greater Antioch Baptist Church in Fairfield, Alabama. I’m not on here so much so because he broke my heart but I am on here because he can’t continue to mistreat women. This man took his time to tell me he loved me, which was great because at least I knew he was being honest. Later he told me that he was in love with me and wanted to marry me someday. After a year of dating, I ended up pregnant. I was nervous about it since it was out of wedlock, but I knew that he loved me and wanted to marry me. Once he fund out I was pregnant, marriage went out the window and he wanted me to have an abortion. I tried and tried to talk to him about keeping our child, but he would never hear me out. After all was said and done, I felt like he swept me under the rug. I could barely ever reach him, and he wouldn’t call me. I basically had to stop by his home unexpectedly. Months later we got into it over something and at the end of the argument we ended up breaking up which he claims was an accidental break up. Anyway… I helped him with a school project I promised I would help him with despite the break-up. During that time we started back seeing each other. We went back to making love as usual. A few weeks later he calls me up and states, remember when he had that little spat and we weren’t talking. Well I slept with someone and I have Chlamydia. My mouth just dropped open and I began to cry. I was outside of Wal-Mart in my car with my son when he informed me of this. I was heartbroken and hurt. All the while this is going on I have to continue to study for a major test that would be coming up in just a few days. I had to keep my head up for my son and for myself. I had to find a clinic and get in touch with my doctors to see how much it would cost to get tested and I had to continue studying for my exam. Despite all of this somehow, I don’t even know how we worked through that and thinking back on it I was soooo sooo stupid. Just blindly in love. As time went on, our relationship got better, we talked more, went out more, our careers were about to get started soon and we were doing well. In fact these last few months were the closest we’ve ever been. We had started going to church together. I went to many of his games that he coached and everything. WE spent News Years together. We saw each other Valentine’s morning and went to church that day. Never in a million years would I have thought that in a few days I would see a Valentine’s Day card and a photo album that said From Ms. Boaz to Mr. Boaz. That was a slap in my face. He had talked to me about the Biblical love story of Boaz and Ruth and called me my Ruth. We even watched the movie about it and discussed marriage and everything. My Valentine’s gift to him was a plaque and a mug that stated, the love between Ruth and Boaz lives within our love. A bigger slap in the face as we talked through this situation was that the Boaz and Ruth thing was never intended for me and I can see that. That day, he had already text me good morning but then a few minutes later he said good morning my Ruth and I text back who is Ruth and he called me and told me about the story in the bible about Ruth and Boaz. When I got to his apartment that day, he still said nothing about this other women he played it off and said, I am glad that you knew about the story of Ruth and Boaz because then you would be wondering who Ruth is and I knew I wouldn’t being catching it from you. I told him he got that right. We continued with that the Ruth and Boaz stuff. I thought it to be so sweet. Anyway, just a few days ago he told me that he was moving back to Decatur and asked me how I felt about that and I said that I knew that was a possibility. We went on to talk and I said, well I can’t make you stay and I know you are not going to ask me to marry me and he said, you don’t know if I will do that. He said that he told me this so that I could go home pray about it, start looking for work in the Decatur/Huntsville/Hartselle area. He specifically stated that we were not breaking up unless you want to. I said no and we went from there. I asked him one last time how serious he was about me moving and he said that we wouldn’t live together before we said “I Do” but that I could Google the school systems to see what they are like. So at that point I knew that I would be moving with him. Not once did he ever mention that he was seeing someone else. It wasn’t until this past Friday, that I found out when I saw that he had another Valentines card and a photo album that stated Ms. Boaz and Mr. Boaz. We had just made love and he was taking a shower when I saw the card and photo album sitting out. It had no pictures, but Boaz and Ruth. When I asked him, his body posture changed and he is standing their naked. If I am not mistaken, he may have asked me why do I asked that. I can’t remember but I pointed to the card and album and he got it and looked through it as if he was trying to see if there was a sign that proved that he was seeing someone else. He was caught. Ms. Ruth and Mr. Boaz was proof enough. I tell you that was the longest hesitation I have ever seen in my life. I told him, the fact that you are hesitating for such a long time is proof right there. I walked out of the room to go get my things and he said, you are leaving. I said, no, I am just getting my things. We talked and we talked. I asked him when was he going to tell me. I mean we had just made love. In fact we didn’t finish making love because he was tired. He had said he was sick, so I was shocked that he even tried to make love to me but he did. Sex never changed between us. Well.. The last time we did it, he used a condom for the first time stating that this time he didn’t want to come out. I didn’t even know that he had any condoms since we hadn’t used them in a while. Come to find out, he had been seeing this woman since after Christmas. Keep in mind that I bought his kids things for Christmas; he even used one of my gifts that I purchased for his kids to give to his grandson. Keep in mind that his car broke down and I was the one to pick him up, sit with him in the service center and take him to Enterprise. Keep in mind that when his tires blew I paid for his tires. Fortunately, I didn’t have to pay for his car to be fixed, but I had already put out so much money beforehand. I took his clothes to the cleaners. The day he told me about him moving to Decatur he had me wash a load of his clothes. You don’t know how used and mislead I feel. He told me that he met this woman after Christmas and that they have been seeing each other more than we have. In fact, they have been seeing each other every night. Which was a huge slap in the face. When we talked over the phone about this break up as I was trying to put things in perspective and understand so that I could receive closure he told me that when I get in another relationship make sure that you see your man at night no matter what issues you have with your mom. I told him that just like him I wanted to see him at night, but it was always so run sided. I was always the one who had to go to his place. He never came to mine at night. He would never pick me up to take me to his place nothing like that. I know that I live with my mom, but we have a down stairs and we can close the door. I can’t always pick up and leave either. I have a child and the times he asked me to come over were at 9 and 10 at night. I had to be sure to get my son in bed and plus I knew that I had to get up early. You know sometimes thinking back on everything, I felt that he needed to date someone who had no kids. He could pick up and leave whenever he wanted. She has no kids so she can do the same. What hurts is that he goes to her place and I tried to get him to come to mine, but I guess me living with my mom was an issue, but I kept trying to tell him that I was getting things together so that I could move. Just finished my degree. I didn’t want to move out and be like him. He lost his power and his cable and phone and I was the one to turn it back on. I was the one to get his checking account out of garnishment. I paid that. I even helped him pay back child support as well as many other people. This man is a preacher. Right now he is an Associate Preacher for the Greater New Antioch Baptist Church in Ensley, Alabama. What’s crazy is this man has no idea what all information I have on him. After that situation when I found out that he had slept with someone else, I began to investigate him and come to find out he had been seeing lots of women. I saw emails galore and what’s worse some of these emails were full of naked women whom he had taken pictures of and sent it to his email. He loved to take pictures. He would say, “You look so good, keep that pose, let me take a pictures.” He claims he deletes them, but looks like he doesn’t. I tried to contact these women but only one would respond. One of the women who responded to me, never truly got involved with him because she wasn’t ready or something but she told me that he approached her. Said he was looking for a wife and he told her he had four kids. I don’t know what was up with that. But what was heart breaking was that he approached this girl when I was pregnant. He is a heartless and soul less man. I want so badly to tell this new woman he has in his life the fact that her relationship with him started off falsely. She asked him if he was seeing someone, he said no. He made love to me by day and saw her at night. I told him, that made me feel like a slut. It was like I was his whore and she was his wife. All he could say was that he was sorry. He was sorry. We talked about the times he could have said something. And you know what’s really bad. We were watching an episode of “Girlfriends” where Joan was dating many guys at one time and none of them knew about the other and he told me you better not do that to me. I said I would never do that to you, you know that. I later said I hope you wouldn’t do that to me. He turned over and said, “If I ever “God forbid” met someone else, I would tell you and not string you along and that is exactly what he did. How could a man be so low down? The day I found the card and photo album, out of the clear blue sky, he tells me that he feels like the other women is the “one” when he has only known her since after Christmas of last year. Its just February. He said over the phone that he had been praying and praying over everything and his heart was led to her. He said, you don’t know how long and hard I’ve been praying for 6-8 months. I told him that I didn’t see how she could be the one in that short of time. But at the same time I can think back. When we first started off he mentioned marriage to me and that I was the one to marry. That I was the one to and from the various emails that I read, looks like that is his style. He may use it to see how serious women are about him. It was within 3 months he was talking about marrying me and where would we live and what talked about our finances and stuff. That it would just be me him and my son most of the time. I mean we had that conversation on many occasions. He even asked me when I wanted to marry.
This is the man to stay away from. He is misleading and he lies. He doesn’t want you to lie but he can. I heard over heard him tell people he was at church but he was with me or that he was at school and he was with me. If only I could tell this to the new women. She surely has the right to know. I asked him why didn’t he tell her that he was seeing me, “I didn’t want to lose her”. That was the most awful thing he could tell me. That is like the governor who was seeing the women out of the country and calling her his soul mate. That is basically what he kind of told me about this other woman when he said that she was the “one”. This man calls himself preacher ladies and that is one of the first things he tells you ladies. He’s looking for a wife, and someone to help him run his church with him when he get’s one. He then goes on the say that he is a basketball coach an assistant. He never fully discloses the fact that he has five kids much less five from five different women. “Red Flag” Four of which were born out of wedlock. Let’s not forget mine if I hadn’t aborted.
i AM MAD AS HELL AT MYSELF AND HIM! He mislead me. We were watching Girlfriends, the episode when Joan was dating multiple guys at the same time and not letting them know that she was doing that and he told me, that I better not do that to him, when he was doing it to me. I ended up saying back to him that I hope he wouldn’t do that to me. He tells me that if he ever “God Forbid” meets someone else that he would tell me and not string me along. He told me this knowing what he knew, that he was seeing someone else.
DON”T DATE ADEYEMI DEAN FROM ST PAUL MN HE’S A DOG OF ALL DOG HE’S IS A SELFISH PIG WHO ONLY THINKS ABOUT HIMSELF
I recently discovered a posting about myself on don’t date him girl from a past relationship I had in high school. It was a very bad break-up me and this girl went through especially since there was no spoken word to me that we had actually broken up, SHE had actually cheated on me multiple times and then before I even knew about it she was dating another guy behind my back, all the while leading every one of my friends to believe that I knew about it and she told me we were off, but anyway before I say too much, she posted very untrue statements about me on Don’t Date him Girl claiming that I am a stalker and that I am obsessive and controlling. Despite the fact that I am happy and married now I still do not want lies like that out there about me especially since there is nothing to back it up. I haven’t even contacted this girl since I had first heard about this other guy, and I found the fact that she posted this almost two years after the break-up to be purely an act of vengeance and spitefulness. But I have contacted the author about this post and I have as well contacted the owner of the site but have not received the slightest response, I feel like I have to take drastic measures just to get the thing removed, does anyone have any advice for me?
Hi , Not ALL wemen are bad and not all men are either… I went through a bitter divorce after 13 yrs of marrage. I fought long and hard for my son to be in my life. After it was realized a year after my divorce that I had filed for custody I started having EX wife problems.Seems these days if a man wants his child he’s deemed crazy. After being announced to athorities as an abusive stalker and the way the law states in Arkansas .. The statement of a accusation is strong… It’s as simple as saying ” he hit me !” he’s stalking me!” and the male goes to jail! Until a 5 day grace period is served for a ” cool off” then he gets out and has to go to court… Until you’re court date you are ordered to goto a domestic violencetraing course weather youre deemed guilty or not! Seems these days I witness now my eyes are open .. Like clock work if a man wants custody of his children the woman figures if the man is abusive the courts will never grant him custody. After a long hard battle and a life long friend who’s a lawyer and knows my demeanor well helped me greatly! I spent 3 jail cool off periods until this was over. Now it’s over and the truth has came out it really doesn’t matter. The power of words still has me convicted ! Even after trying to date a few times and being so scared and shut down I wasn’t able to give what it takes to be in a healthy relationship. Thus being a woman later on posted the same things because she knows how bad it hurt me to have that done. I honestly don’t believe wemen are all bad but same as for men there are bad ones out there and we should be aware but a false statement will be the demise of someone and can really do damage! Honesty is key here. If they did it ?? Letem have it! If they didn’t? Lick you’re wounds and have a heart
I do know this was a very interesting post thanks for writing it!
I think the sight is of value to women that are about to meet men from any dating sight and wants to feel safe and know if there is anything she should be concerned about. Case in point,” Anthony Chiaravallotti”, he has a criminal RECORD but would not disclose it or the STD’s he had or HEP C, and Abuse I read about on top of everything else I found out about. Thank-you (DDHG)
timothy maurice suggs of concord nc…. will use you, suck the life out of you…still sleep with baby mamas…yes i said mamas and still try something new on the side…he can never be satisfied with one woman no matter how freaky she is
Cheap men are the worst. I was dating an attorney who was very wealthy. I actually fell in love with this man and he said he loved me. Well, as our dating continued, he never ONCE gave me flowers or anything else. Never took me anywhere but to a bar or restaurant to eat and drink, or to his house, I mean LITERALLY nowhere else. Then, here comes the real insult. At Christmas, one year of dating by then, he came over on Christmas Eve with a guy friend of his to “drop off” my gift. First I was TOTALLY pissed that he didn’t spend Christmas Eve with me, but when I opened the gift, I died of total embarrassment in front of my adult children, I was 49 then. I opened the bag thinking I was getting something special, (don’t know why considering how cheap he’d been through our dating), but I NEVER expected the insulting gift he gave me, A CALENDAR AND A TRIVIA GAME. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT? What was I? Sixteen again.?Needless to say, I broke up with him a couple of days later. I will NEVER get involved with a cheap man again. If a man doesn’t want to show you that you’re worth the finer things in life, then he doesn’t think you’re fine. He just wants to use you. Dump him pronto! My dad always said, “if a man doesn’t want to buy you nice things, help you out with money if things get tight, show you the better part of life, help you out when things get tough, then he doesn’t give a damn about you, he’s just planning on using you.” Well, he is dead right about that. I will never have sex with a man again unless we are engaged to be married with a set date. My dad was right, a man who’s no good won’t want to make plans with you for the future, he’ll just use you for sex and then move on.
Have you ever attempted to do everything that was right and were left with all that is wrong? This is one of those sad stories. My mistake was that I was battling bouts of depression anxiety and mispersecution from the world around me, when I decided to try and help someone out, from the kindness of my heart. Another element to this tale is that I am haunted by spirits, and was warned by them about this man, basically, even though I am fully aware that this sounds crazy to people who don’t know these types of truths. I used to be homeless, and not thinking clearly, I let a man into my house for a couple of weeks, as he did not have any place to go. I did not want him here, but I just wanted to help him out. Once here, however, he took out all his hatred for women out on me. I informed him that I did not want a relationship, did not want sex, and offered him his own room. He Jumped on top of me with his penis placed on my bikini line, as I immediately told him to “get off of me”. Too late, now I had contracted herpes. Then he found a way to get my cell phone number and gave my land and moblie line numbers to a bunch of his friends, who called at all hours, for days on end, weeks. He tried to break my house alarm system. I had informed him from the get-go that I had once been homeless myself, and that I did not want a boyfriend or sex, that I was just helping him out. I also helped him in other ways, paying for some of what he needed, including the gas money I used to drive him to and from work, home, bus stops and shopping. After a couple of weeks, he said he had another place to go. He also informed me that his goal was only to find someone to hurt. ( I once again reminded him that I was only trying to help him.) I did not know what he meant, because I was not aware that when he rubbed his herpes stick on me, that I now had the virus as well. When I shaved a couple of times after that, I spread the herpes around on myself. I have not been sexually active for years, and got tested for STD’s on a regular basis. Before he left, he was waiting outside for a ride. He keyed my car, or something like that, maybe he used a rock, I really don’t know. His name is Timothy Hoon, but he goes by Tim, and lives in WA state. He wants to give YOU his herpes.
@Lori….look like you will be lonely for another 49 years, no sucker will buy you nice things for nothing! Are you crazy; what world are you living in? Times are tough, and a woman who expects something for nothing is dillusional!!!
I wanted to warn you of a fella name Joesph Dydra who lives in Modesto,California.This guy what a smooth criminal he is.Ladies he pries upon girls and ladies with his wealth,charming words and so called born again christian B.S. I met him through a friend and I assumed with caution that he was upstanding,established and balanced emotionally. He is a felon who went to prison for “Organize Crime activities “..association with the Hells Angels,Mexican Mafia and Money laundering.He is friends with the local DA and god only knows what the this man has his poor friends do for him? I’m warning you because he dates numerous women from dating sites.Like Yahoo,CraigsList,E-Harmony. His pictures aren’t his pictures..He has a twin brother who’s identity he uses..After hiring a private investigator I soon learned he is bad news. He also dates a young girl name Ariel..thats not his daughter.He is trouble because he is the worse of the worse.! So if you know of anyone in Modesto,Calif,,San Francisco,Calif and Orange County california.Tell them to run from this dirt bag!
This site is a horrible and poor way of people-women and males-dealing unhealthily with break-ups. The funny thing is that most of the authors of negative and defamatory comments of other, probably swear that they are Christians.
for the few of us…that have met men that are sociopaths….this websites gives us the opportunity to warn others. in these times were people do not seem accountable for their actions it is nice to know that we can warn others of the possiblity of danger.
To Seal. NOT TO MENTION IF HE LIVES WITH YOU HE DRUGS YOU SOO HE CAN HAVE SEX WITH OTHERS WHILE YOU SLEEP I KNOW I TAPED HIM!
I am filing a law suit against you, if you don’t remove that bull shit profile about me..
ladys if you live in sandiego ca area please stay away from a guy named nathanal lamison he is a stalker very jealous and he will blow your phone up calling you all day long every minute of the day he is 30 s year ois man is really got some problems he wants to be up under you all day long hes just creepy ladys please stay away he lives in golden hills !
Cindy (or Bill or Tom or Mike or whatever your real name is), you are such a dirtbag to portray women in this light for speaking up. Women get beaten and raped by men every day, but when we talk about any mistreatment, in your mind *that’s* the “bashing.” Women have every right to protect each other and warn each other to end abusive behavior, but you portray it as an emotional snit. What a loser!
What about the new site…..http://ReportYourEx.com ? It’s pretty much the same thing, isn’t it? Except, this one seems to be geared for men and women. It seems to me that it’s important for people to be held accountable for their actions. If you cheat on, steal from, etc. your significant other, isn’t it fair that you can be exposed? When considering hiring someone, you get to look at their previous employment….when considering giving someone credit, the lender gets to look at your credit report? I see both sides of this, and understand that not everything posted is necessarily true, however, if you can see that a site like Report Your Ex or Don’t Date Him Girl has a series of complaints from several previous daters over a few year span, it would seem safe to assume that this person quite possibly may have a problem. I know that if I saw 10 reports on a girl on one of those sites, I would probably avoid her. On the other hand, I am an employer (which is how I found out about reportyourex.com) I did a google search on a potential employee, and found his name on that site. As an employer, I don’t really care that he “allegedly” cheated on his ex. As long as his work history is good, and his mannerisms in the workplace are positive, I’m happy.
Anyway, that’s my opinion.
for any young ladies living in or around dearborn heights michigan do not date a young boy named brad tyburczyk. I say he is a boy (20) & not a man because he still does very boyish things. Like leaving his pregnant girlfriend so she can raise the baby on her own. Calling or texting her @ all hours just to get some more verbal abuse in. Also cheating on her before he left her ~ actually even before she got pregnant. She didnt know he cheated until recently. So young ladies please remember I did warn you. And trust me when I say when you first meet him he is so polite & helpful. But he is the type of verbal abuser that shows 1 face to the world & then the monster behind closed doors.
I don’t see anything wrong with the site as long as people are being completely honest about the person male or female. The last person I was involved with lied and said he was a single father. He had me over to his house for some grown up time and come to find out him and his sons mother still lived together. The best part was when he snuck me into the house for sex while she was home (no I didn’t know they were together) He told me to be quiet; I was thought his son was asleep, but she was home. Sorry, but that is a low down dirty dog and of course there is more. At the conclusion of our little affair he told me he could screw whomever he desires and without protection because his family has the cure for AIDS. No, I didn’t post him on that GirlDont DateHim site; I figure if women want to be so easy and stupid they can get whatever is coming to them, although I told his girlfriend, she is still with him. I found him on four different websites looking for sex (yes he stated he was looking for sex), the last one was just three weeks ago, the way I see it whatever comes her way she deserves it.
why dont all you people save your stories for the website this post is about? sexism is stupid, people are shallow, and people are stupid for getting involved in the first place. you don’t really know someone until you’ve consistently been functioning in their life for years. But you still don’t know someone on the personal level until you’ve lived with them. and I agree with serena. the dumb easy women are the ones who are angry. they aren’t angry at the men. they’re angry at themselves, looking for another holocaust scapegoat.
Ladys seriously stop whining and bitching… Unless someone puts a gun to your pretty little head or threatens/abuses you for $ it is your choice to be with that person who turns out to be a so called loser.. If you have a problem with giving men $ in any kind of way or for anything/taking care of him financially for any reason,if you think he may be a player and you chose to be with him,that is your CHOICE not your next door neighbours or the milkmans and nobody has a right to interfere unless you are a child! Grow up and stop being so vindictive and pathetic and focus on your own lifes and get on with it! Women on that ddhg should consider some serious long term therapy!
Well said stacey!
Does that mean guy’s should make there own site for girls who are easy and spread there legs and open that mouths on the first date? Does that also mean men have the right to post anything that is remotely true about there wifes or girlfriends on a public forum? What has this world come to.. Basically what most women are saying on here is,if it is true thay have every MORAL/LEGAL obligation to let the public know.. It works both ways then doesent it MORONS! I also agree with Stacey,if a person is not beaten/threatened/extorted for $ what is there problem? Even if a man does very wrong things as mentioned above that is why the proper authorities are there for to solve the matter in a legal/civil matter. Things just do not happen for no reason,there are both sides to every story and many gray areas!!
That ddhg site will be in serious strife if men start taking matters in there own hands and create there own justice/revenge… That site is extremely dangerous and provocative and the internet laws should really be reviewed.. I wonder if any people have been abused/murdered because of people seeing there names on that site being ridiculed and talked about like they are not even human beings! Take it of the net,nothing good/positive can come out of that site!
My comment is intended for those of you who can only see these sites as “man bashing”. You all really need to wake up–especially if will be potentially dating and especially if you are in you 30′s and dating but definitely 40 and over and if you date men in your same age range.
These sites are NOT meant to be somewhere for women to vent who got their heart broken or are rejective and are a little vindictive. They ARE meant to warn women of certain men who can be considered dangerous! Listen, maybe some of you are too young to realize that Ted Bundy’s and OJ Simpson’s and Scott Petersen’s and “Craigs list killer”,do exist in the real world!! They dont exist just in movies or on TV and they don’t just happen to “someone else” They can and DO happen to everyday people just like you and me–just like Laci Peterson.
You have to remember that once you get past a certain age and are dating, you and that person have more history than you do when you are 20. Not that it couldn’t be the case then but it’s not as likely. But when you are with a man let’s say of 38 and he has always been single, that is a lot of years of dating and there is definitely a history. It doesn’t have to be a bad history–it doesn’t mean he is dangerous but there are a lot of years when you didn’t know him and if he is really good–really slick and has something to truly hide, he can do it so easily! It happened to me but luckily I lived to tell about it. Other woman deserve to be warned of this man because he is still walking around and he is a ticking time bomb. It was amazing the things I found out about him after we ended and I started to do a little digging on my own. It’s all very scary and I know that he is not the only one like that out there. He looks so likeable and he is very, very charming, he’s intelligent and very educated but the one red flag that I ignored was that he couldn’t hold a job. We are talking about really good, professional, white collar jobs. He has a lot of people who adore him but not one of them are women that he has dated or married. He knows how to get around the system because he once worked in it.
Then there is the very close friend of mine who was beaten to a pulp by her husband. He never showed signs of violence before they married and they dated for 2 years before getting married.
Ladies–wake up!!! This is not about a broken heart!! Unfortunately, I’m sure there are women who will use it that way but that is not the intention of it. We all deserve to know about the individual men who are out there and are truly dangerous.
Maybe you need to hear from the many fathers of daughters out there who were physcially abused or killed by their boyfriends or husbands. Especially those whose daughters married someone who ended up in harms way. They feel a guilt because they “gave their daughters away” to the man and they too were fooled by him. Why is it that when a woman ends up missing or murdered, the husband is always the first supsect? For the first time, I understand the concern parents have for their daughters when they are dating. It’s not just about the sex, it’s wanting to know that they are with someone who will not harm them.
I got through it but not unscathed. I’m scared and don’t trust. He did not take away my ability to love but did take away my ability to trust. It’s going to take a lot of therapy to get to the point when I can do that again but to be honest, I can’t see it.
So please, please. Stop bashing these sites and understand why they are there. They are there to help you and me so you can stay away from these men.
There was a time when I really did not believe in doing a background check before getting involved with someone. I consider it to be a violation of privacy and I wouldn’t want anyone doing it to me. But now, I think I’ve changed my mind and will consider doing a criminal background check first before truly entering into a relationship with someone if that day should ever come again. But even a criminal background check can do only so much if they’ve been good at covering their tracks!
I just have one more thing to add.
After my experience, I found myself wondering if there were other women who had similar experiences with HIM or if there was something about me that caused it. Yes, I started blaming myself. That’s when I went on the web and discovered a site (not this one). And you know what-HIS NAME WAS LISTED BY SEVERAL DIFFERENT WOMEN!!! Our experiences with him were eerily the same. One woman posted after seeing the other posts by women, that he really does need to be exposed somehow. I expect to see him on the news someday…
There were so many red flags that I can see now that I couldnt see then but you know what they say about hind sight…
I love this website…I think it should be official to have a website like this. I believe names of cheaters should be posted worldwide..so they will not hurt another human being again. We should start advertising this website.
Hey ladies if you are in las Vegas beware of Galan Stockton he has many secrets beware!