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If The Shoe Fits…
07:00 by TMongtomery · 7 Comments
We should never underestimate the power of visual aids when it comes to the sexual part of our lives. One of my cousins posted on Facebook that she wished that men weren’t so focused on the visual, that there was so much more to us. While that’s true, the bottom line is that the visual is the seed that is the beginning of anything exciting and new.
Anyone who’s pursued someone online whether male or female asks with little compunction for a pic within a short period of time. While it’s only a 2-D visual, it gives an idea and sometimes even a feel for what the other person is like. We all send our best pic because we know that it can mean the difference between having the opportunity to meet our person of interest or not.
I had a conversation with a male friend of mine that stated something that holds a lot of truth; While women are squirming at the first blush of intimacy and wondering if he thinks our thighs are too big, the man is usually ecstatic simply to have a completely naked woman that he’s attracted to in front of him…he’s not focused on her flaws, but on the visual cues that led him to where he is with her in that moment…
Small details sometimes make the difference; for men, a toe ring, a button that’s open rather than closed, manicured nails, or a ponytail, can mean great visual appeal. I know one time my boyfriend showed up in a muscle shirt; he’s usually in his work clothes when we meet, so I don’t often get to see him in casual attire. Seeing something as common as his well muscled arms was quite frankly a huge turn on for me! It’s not so much about looks as it is about the whole look, the way you project yourself, (self confidence is extremely sexy in either gender!) carry yourself, and the image you project to that other person.
It’s also something that with a little imagination you can have fun with. CFM (come fuck me) shoes for instance have been around since some silly man (no doubt) came up with the idea that we would look sexy in stilts and figured out a way to strap them to our feet, teach us to walk in them, and then make them pretty so that we would actually want them. While I’ve had a few pairs in the past, the truth is that I haven’t put a pair on my feet in years; having settled into my marriage, and having kids and a career and having a million things to do each day meant that at night I had no desire to torture myself in that way!
With the advent of my affair however, things took on a different view; I wanted once again to look and feel sexy….besides, I figured all I had to do was strut across the room in them once, right? Hahaha! So I tested the waters a little and mentioned something about them to the boyfriend…I had his immediate attention, in a BIG way! So during subsequent discussions, it was determined that I should have a pair….or two….or more, lol. So I bought a black pair….and then I got bold; forget the black, I’m a red kind of girl! I love red heels and it had been at least 10 years or more since I owned a pair. So I bought them….and then on our next date when we had some time and privacy I threw on a short skirt, a red thong and bra, and a button down shirt…most of the way unbuttoned…
I will tell you now that this whole thing was rather daunting for me; I am almost 50, and while I’m attractive enough, I know that I’m certainly not perfect or 20-something anymore. But neither is he. It was more about being titillating, having fun, and feeling sexy than anything else!
We don’t have to be perfect, but sometimes making small efforts and paying attention to details can have some very rewarding results. Playing dress up as an adult is more fun than it ever was before…
And in the end I was right about those shoes….I don’t think that I walked more than 10 feet in them…
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TMongtomery,
First let me congratulate you on your affair. You certainly put your time in as wife, mother, and bread winner. I think it’s past time that you did something for yourself. You are entitled, yes entitled, to a little fun, excitement, intimacy, and let’s not forget the steamy extramarital sex.
Your comments are so true. So who cares if they look sexy for their husband? Certainly not me! I have no desire to bust my buns in an attempt to be sexy for my husband. But my special guy, the one I share the secret life with, the one that makes my hottest fantasies come true, I’ll go the extra mile to be sexy for him. It’s fun feeling sexy and it’s so good for your ego and self esteem. I’m willing to try just about anything to be sexy for him.
You made excellent choices. Your red, CFM shoes were perfect, as well as the short skirt, red bra and thong, and unbuttoned blouse. I think most men love stilettos, and of course they love short skirts and red underwear. I can easily believe you didn’t walk far in the stilettos! I have no doubt he was ready for sex the minute he saw you. And I’ll say it again. It’s so fun and hot feeling sexy and being sexy.
I found out quickly my guy loved me in heels. In fact if he were honest about it I think he would admit he would prefer I keep the stilettos on when we go to bed. He loves me in them. The most fun new thing I’ve tried for my extra guy is CFM eyes. I was very good with makeup, especially eye makeup in high school and three quarters of the way through college. About half way through my junior year I decided who needs it. I’m educated now and my natural beauty will carry me. Whoa! Big mistake! So I gave up something I truly love. A couple of months ago I bought all new makeup and started playing with it. I fell in love again. So…..on one of our infrequent dates I did the works for him, I had even learned by that time to apply fake lashes. Met him at a cross town bar for drinks and the makeup was perfect. I felt soooo sexy. And his instant erection confirmed I was sexy. What a discovery, he loved it. He said my eyes were smoldering!!!!! Yes I’ll take “smoldering!” Needless to say we rushed to his place quickly.
Men are so different and there are so many little things that get them started and attract their attention. I agree with you TMongtomery. Try something new for your extra guy. Believe me when you hit upon the right combination it will be so worth it.
Andrea, I assume you are American? Is that correct?
PussyEater, Yes I’m American. How about you?
Ok I thought so. I was just wondering…
So what’s a husband, chopped liver? You’ll do anything to be sexy for the lover but have no desire to please or excite your husband! Something severely wrong in this logic!!!!!! Yes the red stillettoes are sexy. Maybe if I had a GF she would wear them for me.
Lol! This site is like a forum for slutty women.
DJJOD – I hardy think women involved in affairs deserve to be designated sluts! If you’re interested in accuracy at all you might want to think along the lines of unfaithful wives, or adulteresses. It’s pretty lame to label all women involved in affairs as sluts. As more and more women look outside their marriages for fulfillment adultery is quickly becoming an acceptable solution. And yes, this website is an excellent source for the unfaithful and those contemplating their first affair.