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Loving Two Men At The Same Time
16:07 by Cindy English · 56 Comments
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Have you ever found yourself in this situation? This is not uncommon. Many women have at some point in their lives asked themselves: “Is possible to love_two_men at the same time?”
Now before you go off on a self-righteous, “no, you are dishonest and selfish” tantrum, think about it!
What is the absolute definition of love? Is there one?
The dictionary says this:
love (lùv) n
1.a. An intense affection for another person based on familial or personal ties. b. A strong affection for or attachment to another person based on regard or shared experiences or interests. 2. An expression of one’s affection. 3.a. An intense attraction to another person based largely on sexual desire. b. The deep affection and tenderness, and concern felt for a person with whom one has or wishes to have a relationship based on sexual attraction. 4.a. Intense sexual passion. b. Sexual intercourse. c. A love affair. 5. An intense emotional attachment.
That’s a lot of different interpretations of love – some sexual, some emotional! Based on those definitions, I believe it is possible to love two men at the same time, but for very different reasons.
One may be dependable and sensitive, appealing to your need for comfort and stability while the other may be adventurous and passionate, appealing to your hidden desire for spontaneity and romance – your “wild side“. We all have one whether we admit it or not.
The trouble with our “wild side” is that we as women have been conditioned through the years to believe that this part of us is unruly, unacceptable and even slutty.
Society, encourages and even romanticizes the “torn between two men” scenario. Pirates Of The Caribbean would be one of the most recent examples.
Elizabeth is caught in just such a predicament. She is struggling with her love for the dependable and reliable Will Turner and the undeniable chemistry between her and the charming but reckless Captain Jack Sparrow.
Is she a slut? Of course not! She is truly caught in an unintentional but powerful love triangle.
Who will she choose? How will she choose? That is a tough one!
- The death of either character, though painful would alleviate her dilemma.
Not a desirable solution. - Unable to decide, she may choose neither and hope to find all of their combined qualities in one man.
Not likely to happen. - She may remove herself from the situation for an extended period of time to clear her head and try to make a rational decision.
To me, this would be the best option.
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Will Turner would quite obviously be Elizabeth’s best choice for a life partner. He is sensitive, compassionate, reliable and loves her deeply. She must realize that Captain Jack Sparrow will not change. Although his passion and unpredictability appeal to her now, as she grows older, she will yearn for sensitivity and stability that Jack will never be able to provide. He is emotionally immature. With time, the very qualities that she now loves, she would come to resent.
One thing is certain. Just as society romanticizes Elizabeth’s predicament, so too, does it demand that she make a choice. She does have to choose between Will and Jack just as any woman who finds herself in this situation will. No one can help you with that decision but society does demand that you make it.
Through our own self imposed restrictions, with the exception of a few cultures that practice polygamy, it is just not seen as acceptable to “love” two men at once.
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When i was a young teenager, i met a girl lets just call her kez. The very first second i met her she told me to come closer and proceeded to stick her tongue down my throat which i enjoyed but i did have my girlfriend around the corner. We were friends for years, i wasnt really interested in her because i believe she had no control over her sex drive. i wont go into her past that her business. As you would imagine though i was sexually attracted to her. Many years passed, she had a child got engaged and moved into a house with her fiancee. Out of the blue we met up, and she kissed me. her kiss stirred feelings up that had been buried for a long time. i was drunk and i told her that i truly feel for her. and i wish i would of told her becuase i really like her, i could grow old with her, or at least go out with her for a while. anyway we started hanging around more often, she said that she didnt know how to take what i had said to her because we are friends. we kissed passionately i love her kisses. she pretty much tried to rape me several times, i wouldnt let her becuase she has a boyfriend. i said i dont want to share and she should make up her mind. she said that she was in love with him ans she is sorry. i politely told her to fuck off. i said it would be best if we never saw each other again becuase im in love with someone i cant have and im not going to share her. her boyfriend doesnt deserve her he owed like a thousand pound to drug dealers and left her to get her house smashed up, they pissed all over her furniture and done some other vile things. if i get hold of them i’ll kill them, i wouldnt want that done to. but with the way she has now treated me, i think i hate her. but i cant stop thinking about her. any comments or responses would be great.
btw my name is owen. and i would like to also say pretty much what “lee johns had stated” Timing seems to always be the thing keeping us apart. And I am just so confused, I know if I continue to see my first love even just as friends, eventually we will end up in another kissing holding moment, that will continue further. I just do t know how we would go in a relationship. I need some serious help!
yeh im not looking for a relationship with her, i would like one if she was isngle but she’s not. i just dont want to lose her as a friend.
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She sounds like baaad news stay away from her. Why don’t you try going out and meeting new people. I really really don’t mean to offend you but you seem to have gotten caught up with this girl for nothing. Did you just write this in hopes that she would read it??
I think in a few years times she will be a distant memory but thanks for the lame story.