5 Reasons Why Your Wife Is Not Having Sex With You
So, you've been married for a while now and it has become apparent that your wife doesn't like sex. She seemed to like it before you got married but alas…your relationship has followed the path of so many married couples.
I know, maybe women just "use" sex to trap good men and none of them "really" like it at all. 
The lack of sex in married life is one of the oldest jokes/complaints among men.
"Once you get married, the sex stops!"
Right?
Why?
Well, most men have pondered this dilemma - during half-time - over a beer - with their "buds" and arrived at what can be the only sensible and reasonable explanation…
"Aw…the "old lady" just doesn't like sex!"
How very intuitive!
Do you want to know why your wife doesn't want to have sex with you anymore?
It is about you. Yes, you - husband. It's not about you being the world's greatest lover, or being hung like a horse or having the staying power of the "Energizer Bunny".
It's about how you make HER feel…
I found this little article by Shawn Hill explaining why your wife may have lost interest in having sex with you. Though he doesn't cover all of the reasons, he does a pretty good job of highlighting the major issues…
5 Reasons Why She's Not Having Sex With You
by Shawn Hill
How does a sexual relationship that starts out so hot go so cold. It may take a while or it may happen over night. It does not matter, you just know that she is no longer having sex with you.
Even if you asked her, she may not tell you the truth. She may not want to hurt your feelings or she may not be able to figure out what the problem really is.
The real problem could be that what you did to get her, you have not continued to do to keep her. Check your actions against list to see if you may be turning your woman off.
- You don't tell her how sexy she is. Remember when you first started dating her? She was hot. You couldn't wait to see her. She not only felt attractive, you told her how attractive she is.
Now that you have been with her for a period of time you have gotten used to seeing her. You don't have the same excitement that you once had. She can tell that you have lost that sexy feeling.
- You are not interested in anything else but sex. If the extent of your interest in her is only sexual, she will soon get tired of this. No matter how good the sex is.
Too many times men try to work on technique when they should be working on the relationship. They will read every book about Karma Sutra, Orgasms and Kissing. If she feels that all you want from her is sex, she will be turned off.
- You have changed. Whatever it is that she liked about you has changed. Maybe you were living a lie to try to attract her. Now that you have gotten her, you have reverted back to who you truly are.
Women are very preceptive. No one likes feeling like they are being played for a fool. If she feels like that you have deceived her, she will turn cold.
- It may have nothing to do with you. Unlike you, women are usually not able to enjoy sex if there are other problems in their life. These other concerns will affect how sexy she feels and also how much she will want to have sex.
- You are not listening. She may have tried to talk to you but you didn't want to hear her. You took this as just more nagging. Now that the sex has stopped, you are ready to hear her. Sadly that ship may already have sailed.
Too many times we as men think that we can fix our sexual issues by learning new tips, tricks or techniques. We really need to look at our actions and see where we have gone wrong. Only after we have identified what the problem really is can we turn back on the fire in the bedroom.
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One More Thing…
To a woman, "having sex" is a chore but "making love" is an emotional and physical intimacy that she needs and craves.
Are you making love to your wife or just having sex? The answer IS important!
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Wayne said:
Good article, but it is a double standard. If a man cheats, it is his fault; if his woman cheats then it is still his fault. Why should any man even bother being in a monogamous relationship? I personally feel that monogamous relationships are the way to go with a good woman. But it seems that once monogamy begins the woman's sexual desire disappears. And it is our fault, I suppose we made the mistake of going into monogamy when she should have been "one of many."
mr. jones said:
I am very frustrated on this topic. This is sad, but my wife and I have only been married over a year and already we have run into big differences on our sexual desires. I don't know what to do. I just don't, and I am very frustrated. .. I am committed to stay in this relationship and be monogamous, but I know it will be difficult if this is not resolved.
Steve said:
this is why prostitutes have been around. men, biologically need sex. if your woman cannot provide it then pay for it. maybe women need to understand this and accept that men have to go outside the marriage.
hasan said:
here here!!! bartender round of beers for that man!
Sally said:
I am a woman and it has been the opposit for me. I have been married almost 7 years and me and my husband only have sex 1 time per month; I nag his every week about us not having sex but he tells me he is tired….I know he's cheating but he won't admit it.
JW said:
I am tired of the double standards. Stop letting women off the hook. When you do so, you are being silly and encouraging them to continue to act in ways that cause more problems. Please do not tell me that we have to be interested in everything else about a woman and then sex. Frankly, why would we talk to half of the women if it was not for wanting to have sex with them? Women should actually have to answer this question as well. What is it that most of them have to offer a man aside from sex? If this question is answered honestly, people would realize that most women today have little to offer and little to really complain about.
Jayson said:
I agree with JW about the double standards. But alas this is how it has been for a while.
JG said:
If you seem like you are having an affair than a womens natural instincts to screw her man to keep him kick in!!!!
If you seem like you are won and done.. so is the sex..
The trick! always seem like some other women wants you and her natural instinct to keep you will work in your favor. Once you are won, so is the challenge..
I have tested this over and over… Purposely do suspicious things.. make her think she may be at risk and she will react differently.. if she doesnt than really……. find a mistress…because if she doesnt love you enough to pretend she wants to have sex even when she doesnt than you married the wrong women…
If I didnt want to have sex with my wife but i loved her I would be the best actor you ever seen.. I would want her to be happy…
Chris said:
I am also lost. My wife and I had regular sex up until 3-4 years ago. Now it seems to be only a weekend thing..Yes, we have two kids, and she is in a demanding job. She says I don't understand how tired she is at night. I say that I do, so I say what's the reason in the morning or in the middle of the day. I told her I really am starting to think she just doesn't want to have sex with me. I tell her she is the hottest thing around to me. I have never in my life been too tired for sex. I have been extremely exhausted, but if she reached over and touched me I would be raring to go. I told her this morning that we have sex an average of 4 times a month, and I believe that 2-3 of those time it is obligatory. I feel if not for the kids and the marriage we wouldn't be together sometimes……