Cyber sex, or Internet infidelity is not something to be taken lightly.

The Internet is a virtual playground for those tempted to cheat.

Email, instant messaging, web cams, and porn/dating sites are dangerous tools in the hands of a lonely or dissatisfied spouse! What starts out as innocent "chat" can quickly turn very personal and sexual.

The Center For Sexual Health posted some very interesting Facts About Cyber sex Addiction you should read. Actually, there is a lot of helpful information on this site from Alexandra Katehakis, a Los Angeles based Marriage, Family Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist.

Many people are becoming addicted to cyber sex!

Are you one of them? If you are excusing your online behavior as a harmless "diversion" from the realities of life, then why do you feel so damned guilty?.

You try to convince yourself that you are not cheating because no physical contact is being made. You know you are wrong or you wouldn't keep that second browser on car quotes or ladies fashion open to escape to when your partner walks into the room.

I would be far less threatened by a spouse who admitted to a "one night stand". I mean accidents happen right? A few drinks, great music, some harmless flirting and the next thing you know, you're staring at a naked person in bed and you can't remember their name. There is no emotional connection…it was just sex.

Cybersex is different. You have spent hours building an emotional and very personal connection with someone who "understands" you. The more you "connect" with your cyber-lover, the more you diconnect from your real partner. You tell your cyber-lover things that you would never consider telling your spouse. Have you ever wondered why?

• Why it is so much easier to describe to a cyber-lover what you like in the bedroom than it is to tell your spouse?
• Why is it so much easier to describe your emotional needs online?

Fear of rejection!

If you tell your wife that you might like to try a little "light bondage" she may freak out. Then you are stuck with the embarrasement of rejection and a wife who thinks you're a pervert!

If you tell your husband that you need to "talk" you know you are going to get that "deer caught in the headlights" look.

Rejection.

Rejection in cyberspace is far less humiliating and painful. If your lover doesn't approve of your sexual fantasies or your emotional needs you simply move on until you find one who does.

Sound familiar?

Cyber-affairs seldom remain in cyberspace. When you find that "special someone" who does meet your needs you will meet.

Beware. Often online affairs do not resemble the "real thing". In cyberspace, you can take your time when answering a "tricky" question. You can always use "phone-brb" to excuse yourself for a few minutes. This gives you time to think about your answer and be certain it is what they want to hear.

We don't have that luxury when face-to-face. When you ask your spouse a question, you get an answer in real time, off the top of their head, a first reaction. Often the answer is not what you wanted to hear. Had they had the luxury of "phone-brb", they may have put more thought into their answer and it may have been quite different.

Don't be surprised if your online lover turns out to be quite "human" and not so perfect when you finally meet! You will have wasted much valuable time and risked your relationship with your real partner for an "e-dream".

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