How many of us if we were 100 percent honest would admit that at some point, we have wanted to cheat on a partner or spouse?

I know that I certainly have and let me say that I consider myself to be a 'good' person with sensible moral values. By sensible, I mean that I do try to 'do the right' thing in most situations.

However, I do not agree that everything in life is cut and dry, black or white, right or wrong. I think that it depends on the situation and no two are alike.

How many of us have those secret, hidden desires, or fantasies that we would like to act on? How many of us have found ourselves caught up in a moment of forbidden sexual tension with someone other than our partner? A moment that was so heated and so arousing that all reasoning escaped you. Remember…we are being 100 percent honest here!

Hell, if you are alive at all, temptation is everywhere. "Just say no" - right? Easier said than done. Ask any overweight person trying to resist that gorgeous piece of triple fudge chocolate cake. Ask the smoker who has just flushed a whole package of cigarettes only to race out and buy another pack a couple of hours later.

Same difference. We all have our needs, our vices and our addictions.

Some people crave emotional connections, some people enjoy erotic adventures and some people are just plain addicted to sex.

We all deal with our sexual desires and demons in different ways.

Who is to say definitively that any one of these lifestyles is right or wrong? Your way is not necessarily my way. What's right for you, may not be right for me. Doesn't make either of us wrong!

How we handle the urge to cheat may be the difference between right and wrong. If you feel that you are being drawn into forbidden places consider talking to your partner up front about it.

Surprisingly, many people find their spouse has become just as bored with the routine as you have. Perhaps the two of you will find a way to 'spice it up' together. There are alternatives.

If, on the other hand, you are faced with a partner who is unable or unwilling to meet your needs, you have a decision to make. Do you leave or do you cheat?

The decision is yours and yours alone. No one else knows your situation. No one else (in spite of the drivel in the forums) is qualified to judge you. Woman have been scorned for standing by their men - men have been treated with contempt for cheating on their wives.

The notion that the cheating spouse is simply a selfish, heartless human being while the other is completely blameless is not likely.

Think about your own relationship. For every word there is a corresponding thought. For every action there is a reaction. Everything we do, we do for a reason.

Because that reason is not apparent to the world, doesn't necessarily make it wrong.

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