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Starting A Wife-Led Marriage – The Orgasm Opportunity
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Last week we talked about how setting up a wife-led marriage in a loving female authority lifestyle can be a wonderful alternative to cheating. Once put into place you will be able to get all the orgasms you want from your man, plus many other fringe benefits. He’ll be attentive, help around the house and continually court you. It will be like those magically first few months of dating all over again!
Many women involved in wife-led marriages report they feel like a goddess because their husbands end up worshiping them both spiritually and physically. The system works particularly well for women who find it easier to climax from oral sex then from penetration – and I know there are a lot of us out there!
Remember, the heart of a wife-led marriage is to make sure you are not denied anything sexually. Instead, he is the one who will have to work for and earn his sexual satisfaction.
The crux of a wife-led marriage is realizing how powerful your sexuality is, and how most men are weaker because they will let their little head do the thinking for them. That can make them easy to train. Remember, there’s a reason we often think of men as dogs.
The first step toward a successful wife-led marriage is to eliminate his ability and opportunity to masturbate. You want to make sure that most of the time he’ll need you to be involved to reach orgasm. There are many different ways to do this. Some women like to “catch” their men looking at online porn and then use his embarrassment to set new rules in the house – like he has to leave the door open when he showers and goes to the bathroom. Other women purchase chastity belts for their partners and keep the keys hidden out of sight and out of mind.
Keeping him from letting his own fingers do the walking will elevate his libido and make him far more willing to please you in order to get the release he needs.
Once you have him in a state of general horniness, there are a variety of ways you can start to introduce the lifestyle. In general the path you choose will depend on your relationship and what makes you comfortable. Remember, this is all about your complex feminine needs and not his silly easy to satisfy masculine ones.
- Suggest the idea as a “game.” Tell him it would be “fun” to see how many times he can get you off before he gets to orgasm. Men are competitive by nature – and you could always “let it slip” that one of your old boyfriends used to be able to get you off three or four times before you did the dirty.
- Buy a copy of Around her Finger and suggest reading it together in bed. When you do so, wear your sexiest lingerie and gently stroke his member. This will get him to associate sexual pleasure with the ideas in the book.
- Give him incentives for doing things around the house. One night after dinner, tell him you are very tired and ask if he’d mind doing the dishes “just once.” When he’s done make out with him and give him a slow, teasing hand job afterwards. Slowly build to whenever he does something you ask he gets a sexual reward. When he doesn’t do anything, make sure you are “not in the mood” so a pattern slowly develops.
- Suggest that it would be “fun” and a big turn on for you if he has to ask you permission to orgasm – even if you are having sex. Obviously the first few times you do it, you’ll want to say “yes” and give him permission. This will make him more comfortable asking in the future. After the third or fourth time start saying “no” every so often. Make him pull out and stop having sex. Suggest that if he goes down on you, you might change your mind. Over time, start saying “no” more often and “yes” much less often. This will ensure that you get both penetrative and oral sex without having to give in and let him have his release.
- Praise him when he keeps his orgasms in check, and act disappointed when he doesn’t. Sweetly mention that he seems like a much better husband when he hasn’t had an orgasm in a while.
- Constantly tease him. Wear sexy lingerie even on nights you don’t want to have sex. Drop things on the floor and bend over to pick them up in front of him. Rub your breasts against his shoulders when you walk by him in the hall. This is crucial. If he thinks you are just not interested in sex he’ll get bored. You have to keep him constantly excited if you want to keep him under control!
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I don’t think nonconsensual sexual manipulation is okay. Men are human beings, not dogs to be trained. How would you women feel if we withheld sex to try and “train” you?
I have to agree with “If he thinks you are just not interested in sex he’ll get bored.”
Example: My lover takes a nap when she comes home from work everyday at 4 till around 6 to 6:30 and then stays on the computer till bed time leaving me to myself. To top off matters, she has not felt well at all the past 2 days, but since she has Friday, tomorrow, off she is going out on a casino boat in the morning gambling. I assume a little alieve and benedryl must work wonders. One must wonder whom she may be meeting on the boat while I am working?
We may be classified as dogs and that will be the way it is…I will be dammed if I am going to be a sex starved slave to be fucked at ones whim. And to top it off, she tells me this isn’t working. You go figure please. Needless to say, when I go to bed there is no interest on my behalf.
PS…she reads the articles on this site all the time and will quite well read this post.
However, I can tell you first hand that if she is trying to make me somewhat of a “cuckold” that she can try her cuckoldrix methods somewhere else cause it isn’t going to happen with me. There are just to many women where we live that want to be fucked without any strings attached…shall we say NSA.
Boss Hawg
Again, these methods are great manipulation tactics, but the women almost inevitably loses attraction and respect for the man who she can wrap around her finger like this. There are better ways to “train” a man to fulfill your needs other than making him completely submissive to you.
Janet,
Train? May I ask what happened to communication, mutual role playing and fulfillment?
Boss Hawg
HAHAHA My wife tried this!!.. She failed miserably. I continuously opted to watch porn and masturbate instead.
Teach her to play head-games with me. In fact, it has made me lose more attraction towards her. A girl who is willing to use such manipulation is more ‘evil’ than i thought. After 2.4 years of marriage, we decided to ‘take a break’. My friend just found her profile up on Ashley Madison. It is 3 months old.
I have never met a girl i trusted/should have trusted. *sigh*
“I don’t think nonconsensual sexual manipulation is okay. Men are human beings, not dogs to be trained. How would you women feel if we withheld sex to try and ‘train’ you?”
Well, seeing as how these articles are written by and are meant to be read by female tops, I imagine we wouldn’t appreciate it very much.
But I’m sure you’d find hordes and hordes of eager petgirls on any of the many maledom communities so rampant on the internet. Get a FetLife account, chump.
I feel sad for you Billy H. I really mean that.
It sounds to me like if you were not such an ass you could have made a happier marriage. Don’t you realize that she was trying to improve things and that she was basically calling for help. She apparently did not go about it effectively. Maybe if you were more giving and sensitive you would not be so seemingly selfish.
I hate the whole idea of sex-withholding. If you want something then maturely work it out. No manipulation games that ruin things in the end.
What I wouldn’t do to have my wife trying to figure out how she could get me to please her! I’m the one wishing she would get more interested more often! We love each other and don’t treat each other with disrespect that is for sure!
I fear my wife has been reading this blog. She definitely incentivises me to do household chores and run errands for her. She also likes to get me to agree to do big favors, like pick her friend up at the airport that is 2 hours way. She’ll do this by asking while she is riding me and if my response is pleasing to her she picks up the pace, if it’s not she stops. It’s fun tease on one level, but it’s also pretty mean. She keeps me pretty horny generally, she doesn’t want me jerking off, she says she wants me ready to go at it, in case she wants it, and she doesn’t like it if I orgasm without her say, and that’s hard if i haven’t had it for 4 days and she’s been teasing me like hell. Occassionally if I displease her enough (which does not happen often) she likes to flirt pretty hard with other guys when I’m around. So, I’m a good hubby!
My Wife keeps me locked in a CB-3000 male chastity device, so she can do as she pleases and I do what ever she wants.
Matt: You are a good hubby? Dude, you need to COMMUNICATE with her that what she is doing is WRONG. If he is trying to manipulate you to do shit, that is WRONG. COMMUNICATE with her, LISTEN to her, but don’t turn your marriage into legalized prostitution. Seriously man, love and love making are about.. you guessed it, LOVE. Love ain’t money (in a metaphorical sense). Love is freaking LOVE. Not something to be bartered, or given conditionally, but a reason for enjoying eachother’s company, and doing your best to enjoy eachother. Please, please, please do something to change your situation!
I’m a husband and I think this idea is clever, but doesn’t really work. Like Billy H. said in an earlier post, if my wife holds out, I am just as happy to watch latenight showtime and treat myself to a relaxing solo time. Just look at the porn industry. It’s a multi-billion dollar busniess because wives across America hold out. Even worse, a husband may start looking for easier participants outside the marrige if he really wants interactive time. I say Kudos for any woman who can pull it off. But in most realities, I am pretty sure there is just going to be another unexplained credit-card charge to HOTBLONDES R US, or even worse, the waitress at the local diner gets a bigger tip than expected. If a wife really wants better orgasms, talk to the husband just after dinner. He’ll be receptive and gives him time to plan that nights strategy.
I am semi submissive to my wife can tell you that more men want this than women do. My wife loves to have control and be pampered lovingly but actually doesnt get into the “controlling” aspect for her pleasure. But through time my addiction to her control has enabled her to see amazing benefits of being pampered. She likes our lifestyle very much and I love it too.
For you women who think your manipulating men with this you are not understanding the sexual intensity that many men have for a dominant sexual encounter with the woman that they love. To be manipulated is FUN when it become SEXUAL. My wife hates to be manipulated thus she couldnt understand why I would. But trust me many men are very into it but way too embarressed to come forward.
Men typically if highly sexual will either want to dominate sexually or be dominated sexually. Why do we like sports? DOMINANCE – women figure that out and you got it going your way – top or bottom
The reason men consent to this is that there is a difference between male ejaculation and orgasim
men can make themselve ejaculate on command, orgasim takes work and can very rarely be done via masterbation, when a women does not let you cum for a week or so and teases you all the time when you do cum it is very very intense and can’t be matched by simple masterbation, infact men in this kind of relationship learn to climax without ejaculatiom.
As we all know, in every relationship there is a dominant partner and a submissive partner. if the woman is the dominant one as it is often the case, it is a good idea to have a Wife Led Marriage. in this article and in her book Around Her Finger, Ms, Sutton lays out a plan of how to train the husband through sexual control to know his place as the submissive, treating his wife / Mistress with Goddess respect that she deserves.
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