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The 50 Mile Rule

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Anybody ever heard of the “50 Mile Rule” with regard to cheating?

I hadn’t until I was introduced to it through the joys of online dating. A lot of the men online that I chatted with were looking to cheat.

I know…hard to believe!





Anyway, some of these guys said they had no problem cheating as long as they stuck to the “50 Mile Rule”. Hmmm…obviously not “up to speed” on proper extramarital etiquette, I looked it up.

I’m not sure who came up with this “rule” but the idea behind it is that if you are more than 50 miles away from the person you are committed to then all faithfulness to your significant other is null and void.

Wow! What a great rule!

Apparently, my ex-husband was quite familiar with it. Now, I know I was nervous when we got married but I honestly do not recall hearing “forsaking all others within a 50 mile radius” when we exchanged our vows.

Now I really feel cheated…if only I had known!

I also stumbled across a book written quite some time ago by Judith E. Brandt – THE 50-MILE RULE: Your Guide to Infidelity and Extramarital Etiquette.

What the hell is extramarital etiquette?

Is there a right and a wrong way to cheat?


“Guilt is a societal construct designed to keep you in line, a feeling you’ll learn to ignore with practice. What really makes an affair right or wrong is the way you handle your ongoing responsibilities – to your spouse, lovers and children. Treating your family badly is wrong. Treating yourself to a little extramarital R&R could be oh-so-right. Who decides? You do!”

Take home lesson:
Cheating responsibly without getting caught is the “right way”.

So, if you are feeling a little guilty about cheating, don’t worry. It is a feeling that you will learn to ignore with practice!

If you are wallowing in self-pity as a victim of an affair, you might as well get over it. Just forgive your philandering partner because as Judith Brandt says…


“Since at any given time it’s generally true that ‘all the good ones are taken’, any sexually active adult beyond age 25 would pretty much have to be an idiot not to realize how slim the chances are of finding someone really cool who’s not already married (of course, hope does spring eternal.)”

Might as well keep what you’ve got then. Just evoke your right to the “50 Mile Rule”.

Get a mitt and get in the game!

I have been such an “idiot”!  


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