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Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat
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The question is as old as the problem itself…
Why do men cheat?
Is monogamy really a myth?
Are guys predestined to cheat because it is human nature?
Scientists have long explained that men are biologically motivated to seek out multiple sex partners. This natural instinct ensures a healthy gene pool and the survival of our species.
If this is true, then one cannot expect fidelity from a man. It kind of lets guys off the hook when they wander doesn’t it?
So why do they feel guilty? If it is a man’s biological right to have sex wherever, whenever, with whomever, why should they worry about being caught?
Because somewhere along the way, self imposed “ethics” and “morality” placed restrictions on human behavior…including sex!
Perhaps if guys didn’t seem to derive such pleasure from sex, it wouldn’t be such a sin. Think about it. If sex with multiple partners were just another “chore” for men as cleaning house and cooking meals is to women, would we get upset about it?
Probably not…poor guys! 
Nevertheless…men do enjoy sex…a lot…and not always with their partner!
Here are their Top 10 reasons…
I’d like to say that they are in no particular order but, we all know what guys say is the number one reason that they cheat. Remember ladies, the jokes about sex ending when marriage begins, wouldn’t be funny if there weren’t some truth to them!
- Not getting enough at home! Women tend to get caught up in “life” and sex gets put on the “back burner”. She may be bent over helping the kids tie their shoes but he’s still looking at her “nice ass”. God…is that all they think about?
- It’s reassuring to know that he’s still “got it”. Time has a way of making us all feel less sexy and desirable. A little forbidden rendezvous can be a real shot to a sagging male ego.
- The wife just isn’t physically appealing anymore. Face it, women do tend to let themselves go. Often they get too busy raising their families and neglect themselves. They are too tired to put on make up or do those thigh slimming exercises. The result? A sexy new secretary and whatdayaknow…”Honey…I have to work late”!
- Sex at home is boring. The wife doesn’t like to try new things (or old things – namely, blow jobs!). To men, variety is the spice of life and he may have some sexual urges that his wife is not willing to fulfill. He may have some ideas that he would rather his wife didn’t know about. Can you say “manage-a-trios”?
- He just couldn’t say no. The woman was hot and all over him. It just seemed like a once in a lifetime opportunity…too good to pass up. This is where the phrase “thinking with their little head” came from!
- The wife just isn’t fun anymore. She worries, she nags, she fusses and they fight all of the time. He cheats to “get away from it all”.
- He just doesn’t love his wife anymore. And just how do you tell someone that tactfully? It is easier to have an affair than it is to deal with the pain and emotional upheaval of such a confession. On the other hand…if he is caught cheating? Well, the door is then opened for a speedy exit!
- The thrill of the chase is exhilarating. Some men are truly addicted not only to the act of sex itself, but to the hunt. They thrive on the rush they get when they are able to conquer even the toughest “ice queen”. It’s not about love, it’s about control and winning!
- They cheat because they can. Many men know that their wives are insecure and dependant on them. They also know that low self esteem and a fear of being alone will keep her “in place” and “at home” no matter what, or who they do. So, why not? Variety – remember?
- And finally, men cheat to get even! It is an absolute blow to the male ego for his sexual prowess to be in question. Why else would a woman cheat on him? His own affair as a result, serves two purposes, revenge and reassurance of manhood.
There you have it…the Top 10 reasons why men say that they cheat on their wives or partners.
Are any of them “excuseable”?
Mmmm…a couple…maybe (although most women won’t agree).
Are any of them “preventable”?
Of course.
Although monogamy may not human nature…it is a choice!
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Beautiful Enslavement
Dude not all guys are not like that guys that , the guys that are die alone or die because some one killed them. An for the adam guy i just havn’t found the right girl. but then again the way u think. You probly done hurt her too she wouldnt wanna be with some one like that. Even i’d dump u. ur a dick head. i have my family its madion, ziek, an I an no, cheating hurts the realtionship. I’m 1 to KnoW finding out as she was walking out THE DOOR at 6 mts pregnate. shit like that can change people good/or bad depending on the person, Even with guys, cheating on them makes a gap between in ur relationship, u’ll never really get the trust bak either way . I believe in second chances but fool me twice shame on u cheat on me again i cutt ur fucking balls off an feed them to you then ill tie u up an make my gay friends fuck u. ha bitches FACT; all guys are dicks 1/2 of them have respect for us the other haLf , adam BEING onE of them, have no respect just want a place to put his dick
Wemon want love an respect with no lip about it, guys want sex so much instead of cheating so mush why not do ur jobs an satisfy ur grls first, pleasure starts at home cause fo real wemon dont need u there pleanty of u so i mean if u not doing nothing to make us happy why care bout ur needs we no u dnt bout ours. time guys take cheating. they could be at home washing dishes an doing our laundry, making me some good ass super wen we come in. WE DONT NEED U WE WANT YOU AN IF U EXTEND URWELCOME THEN YO SHIT WILL BE IN THE GOD HOUSE WAITING ON U….. LOL FTW MEN SUCK BUT I LOVE ZIEK 4 EVR AN 4 ALWAYS but if he cheated on my i wouldnt be ok k with it. id leave him an maybe once n a while get wats mine but i would be with him. no one else for that matter WE CAN ONLY TAKE SO MUCH
But girls take it far
1. grl wen guys work dont take his whole pay if u pay bills get his bill money it should b 50/ 50 drying a man pay after pay will piss him off an he will run away eventully if he gives it to u then its on him an its more of a dont spend all of put it up cause if he gives you his money hes gonna expecy money when he needs it or even ask for it. i believe its his we pay bills say 100 left 50/ 50 but for grl that dnt smk give them 5 out of ur just to b nice buy him a pak of cig not all guys r the same sum just like us (NOT GAY) THEY JUST WANNA FEEL LOVED, some time they get outta hand an need to be slapped bak to relatily lol naw. just talk to him an if it doent work more then likely bothering him
2. females bitch alot some times with out relizing it some times its in our BLOOOD ha, ya
3. guys a way to avoid conflict sit her down 1 on 1 an tlk to her raising ur voice raises ours. make sure u heard wat u heard before flipping out give us a chance to explain our selves finding the rite words is hard. some times
4. Bitch, Bastard, words like that hit a spot for some people u get hitt. just cool it down with that
5. RESPECT US WE RESPECT YOU
SO REALL IF U WANT A GOOD RELATIOSHIP IT TAKE TRUST, RESPECT BOTH WAY 50/ 50 DEPENDING ON JOBS TOO I MAKE AS MUCH IF NOT MORE THEN HIM SO I PUT MORE IN JUST CAUSE WEMON SHOULD NOT NEED EXTRA MONEY ALL THE TIME A 50 SHOULD BE GOOD EXPECTUALLY IF U HAVE NO JOB DONT EXPECT THEM TO WORK HIS ASS OFF KILLING HIM SELF FOR YOU TO FEED THE GAMES. LIKE I SAID EIRLER DONT TKE ADVANTAGE OF IT.
POINLESS RELATIONSHIPS= BEING WITH EACH OTHER FOR UR KIDS SUM CASES ITS GOOD BUT MOST CASES ARGUING FIGHT MESSES WITH THE KIDS BESIDE IF UR NOT HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER TRY IT APART KEEP IT FAITHFULL 100% OF THE TIME APART OR NOT IT WILL KILLL THE RELATION SHIP. BEING APART MEAN BETTER ATTITUDES MEANS KIDS GET THEIR TIME WITH PARENTS.
ALSO WHEN U HAVE KIDS SPEAKING WITH EXPERIANCE. PLZ THINK ABOUT US BEFORE RIPING THE FAMILY APART LIKE SAY MOM HAS 4 KIDS 2 ARE YOURS AN SAY U WANT THEM PROVING HER UN FIT PUTS UR KIDS WITH U YA BUT WAT ABOUT THE OTHER 2 THEN THE KIDS ARNT HAPPY….. IM SPEAKING BECAUSE IT FUCKING SUCKS ASS I HAVE 2 SIBLING IN DEFAX IM 20 AN I HAVEN’T SEEN MY SISTER CRYSTAL OR MY BROTHER CHAD IN 13 YEARS YAY DAD U WERE FUKIN HAPPY FOR A MIN. WHO FUCKING CARES NOW IM 1 LESS BROTHER AN SISTER IT HURTZ IF ONLY U KNEW.
THINK ABOUT MORE THEM YOUR SELF. MOMS SHOULD HAVE THEIR KIDS UNLESS THERE IS REALLY NO REASON FOR HER TO HAVE KIDS LIKE ON CRACK DROPPING HER KID OR LEAVING BABY HOME ALONE BUT COME ON DONT LIE TO GET WAT U WANT. ILL NEVER GET THOSE 13-17 YEARS BACK .
MY NAME IS SHELLY AN I THINK WAT I THINK I GO LILBIT FAR WITH IT BUT FOR REAL CHILD HOOD IS IMPORTANT TO EVERY 1 IT SHOULD BUT THIS BAD AN OR WORSE.
SO YA DUDE “CAREFULL WAT U WISH FOR” WAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND IN THE LONG RUN .
Now here’s a dilemma, My wife and have been married for only six months, I am actor/model, during the day and work at nights as a steady job. (I only get a gig about once a month.) I’m raising my wife’s three year old from a previous marriage, while she is working her dead end job at a restaurant. I’m home waymore then she is raising her kid, cooking, cleaning; basically a working stay at home dad. When she gets home I don’t feel any appreciation, she can’t understand how much physical touch means to me. I am so Goddamn frustrated with my life, I know anyone else in my situation would cheat in a heartbeat! What the crap can I do?
Again, this article is much more negative toward men who cheat than the article about women cheaters is toward them. Why am I not surprised?
To the women I’ve hurt:
If my posts in any way come off as justifying infidelity, please read again thoroughly what I wrote when responding to Kdkblessed:
“This is actually quite easy to answer: A man being with two women is not okay, and neither is a woman being with two men. I suggested a three-some to the women who feel their man may cheat so that THE WOMEN could have a chance of not having their man stray behind their backs. What the three-some does for the man is open him up to being more honest with his wife, enabling him to feel like he can express his inner desires to be with another woman, to her, and having her (his wife/girlfriend) know that though she may feel like there is no way out, there actually is- that is, if she’s open to it.”
“I never said that this would be emotionally simple for either spouse, nor did I say it was the “right” thing to do- I am only suggesting that it COULD BE a way of coping with the man’s desires, which would result in him being more likely to keep his honesty with you; it was a positive suggestion in that it included the woman who, otherwise, may have had her heart broken by deceit.”
Any previous statement I may have wrote out of anger or trolling, I retract. Infidelity is not okay. Infidelity is wrong and there is no justification for it. I am not trying to be a spokesman or poster boy for infidelity or ruining lives. Infidelity hurts both parties and is stupid. All I want to get across here is that there are certain ways to understand why some men cheat, and that the things I’ve listed, I feel, are some of the more understated and oft-ignored reasons.
Two people shouldn’t be together if they’re going to cheat. If you suspect your relationship is going down that path, reassess it. Figure out what the issue is and whether or not it’s even able to be fixed (some times it isn’t).
We need love in our lives for and we need sex in our lives. Hopefully the two are intertwined (in marriage), secure and fragile; hopefully you and your spouse can build a relationship built on a foundation of trust so strong, infidelity isn’t even a potential issue- but if you can’t, hopefully the reasons I’ve listed above bring you some comfort or closure.
Stay faithful, my friends.
-adamryan
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