Why Do We Cheat?

What Is The Definition Of Love?

When you catch your partner cheating, you know that you have to end the relationship. That’s it! You have years invested with this person, all destroyed instantly and for what? A 30 second (maybe less), mind blowing, orgasm that ‘meant nothing’.

You have to leave, what other choice do you have?

It is really amazing to me that we, as intelligent human beings, often rate the success or failure of our relationship with a spouse or partner on only one thing…sex!

Think about it. We can tolerate alcoholism, poverty, unemployment, drug abuse, verbal abuse, physical abuse, even child abuse all for the sake of ‘love’. BUT…just let someone cheat on you and that’s it – they don’t ‘love’ you anymore. Time to go!

Is that rational?

Is that really the most important aspect of any relationship? Is sex, or the lack thereof for many, really the only glue that binds us?

What of our other shared qualities as a couple? Does companionship, familiarity, joint parenting, and working toward common goals not count for anything at all? What about the laughs, the tears, the dreams, the good times and the bad times? Do they mean absolutely nothing either?

We justify ripping apart our families with the familiar old cliché, “where there is no trust, there is no love”. Based on that premise, we fight over who gets the house, the SUV, the kids and even the dog.

Next step: to seek out a new ‘love‘, but guess what? You won’t trust the next person you marry either. Your experience with your cheating ‘ex’ will forever keep you second guessing and doubting. The second spouse will invariably pay for the sins of the first. The second spouse will be jealous of the first. You will fight over the ‘ex’, the kids and your money problems. The stress will lead to angry and frustration. Sex will be withheld and emotions will be withdrawn. Tired of the situation, one or both of you will seek comfort from someone who ‘understands’ you.

And so the cycle begins again. You fight over who gets the furniture (you couldn’t afford a house this time due to child support), the 1996 Toyota Corolla (nope, couldn’t afford the SUV either due to child support), and custody of the new baby (the symbol of your ‘love’). Thank god there were no pets involved this time!

Next step: to seek out a new ‘love’…

So, I am curious. What is the true definition of ‘love’?


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