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Why Do All Men Look At Other Women?
23:55 by Cindy English · 110 Comments
This has got to be the world’s dumbest question
Here’s my answer:
Ummm…because they are not blind???
Ladies, how can you expect your man not to look at that sexy woman that just passed by?
He’s normal isn’t he?
He’s just married to you, he’s not dead.
It is positively stupid, but women do expect their men to just “quit looking” the minute they commit to a relationship.
Is that reasonable? You know that men are very visual. That’s how you snagged him in the first place isn’t it?
Face it, a well tanned, toned, scantily clad female body is a thing of beauty – to anyone.
Everyone knows it.
Guys drool over it.
Women count it.
Advertisers thrive on it.
Why?
I think it was “Sable” from World Wrestling Entertainment fame who said it best:
“For all the men who come to see me and all the women who want to be me…”
Hey guys…here’s a little secret. You know that hot babe that you were just looking at? Your wife was looking too!
What? No way!
Yup. Women look at other women. Women check out men’s magazines. Women watch porn.
No, not “kinky“…you wish! A lot of women are very critical, self conscious and insecure about their bodies. They look because they are curious.
Some women have questions about their bodies but are too embarrassed to ask anyone, so they “compare” themselves to others to see if they are normal.
Sometimes, they just want to know if they “measure up” or if they’ve “still got it”.
As for the porn…
A Ladies Home Journal survey found that 47% of women reported using [tag-ice]erotica[/tag-ice] or pornography to heighten their sexual experiences.
So, the next time you want to gawk at that sexy chick crossing the street try to include your wife in the experience. You could say something like:
“Honey, that woman is really pretty, it’s just too bad she doesn’t have a beautiful, well rounded ass like you do.”
While your wife is appreciating you criticism of the woman’s flawed rear end, you will have a few more seconds to zero in on her nearly perfect boobs!
Seriously though…ladies, unless your husband trips over his tongue and inadvertently pushes you under a passing bus while looking at that other women…lighten up!
Misplaced [tag-tec]jealously[/tag-tec] can create unnecessary problems in a relationship!
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I believe it is the choice of every individual on what we choose to look at and what we don’t, we all should be more accountable for our own actions and respectful of others. I’ve been on the receiving side of this (as a busty blonde) and the giving end admiring a handsome gentleman, but this never really concerned or bothered me until recently.
I have read through 90% of these comments and I appreciate most of your input…even the ones that choose race or social media as the reason behind why men look at other women.
I’m a very head strong, educated and hard working woman. I know there is always someone out there that is smarter, better looking and funnier than I and I never felt threatened by it, until now. I have been dating my current boyfriend for over a year and we have known each other for almost 10 years. We had been doing WONDERFUL, having a great time together, traveling and making plans for the future, up until the point I saw him check out another girl. I don’t mean a one glance, “WOW, she’s nice looking” (that I can handle & think is healthy) but more of a kept looking at her past the initial glance, found reasons to look in her direction so he could steal another peak and then usually try to do something to get her attention. He almost gets socially awkward around her and hopes that she notices him. This hasn’t happened once, but numerous times now and I’m quite fed up. He even did it while in Italy at lunch with my sister and me. I don’t understand why he does it, is she really THAT hot?! Does he want to bang her?! What in the world is he trying accomplish?! And HELLO, I’m sitting right here and I can see you!!! I’m so frustrated I could scream!
The best part is that when I have brought it up how I caught him looking, that it’s disrespectful and I’d really wish he’d cut it out; he denies it and says he has NO idea what I’m talking about! Like I’m bat shit crazy and didn’t just watch this slow moving train wreck with my own eyes! I don’t know where to go from here, he says he loves me, wants to spend the rest of his life with me, can’t live without me…yet he acts like this and then denies it. This has thrown a wrench in my works; I don’t know where to go from here. A little input form you guys and gals would be amazing, I really thought he was the one but these actions are a huge red flag and make me feel nauseas.
I hope everyone has a great day; I’m going to mull this over for a while! :S
Pfffft I check out MEN not women.If men can do it,so can I.
Men are so egotistical thinking we don’t notice other men.
WE do,we just aren’t jack asses about it the way you are!
@ My patience is running thin! I wish I could help you out, but I am in the same boat. Maybe a serious conversation about how you feel truely disrespected and you are questioning your future together? That may get his attention. Perhaps you are just like me you just want justification?
My story comming out of a five year marriage (with a child) in which he cheated on me unexpectedly, it is very hard to trust again. Luckliy my new boyfriend of 10 months understands that but at the same time, on at least four occasions, when he opens his cell phone there is a young attractive woman on it. It makes me so mad! Why must he check out every young attractive woman on Facebook? He too apologizes and assures me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and is so grateful for everything I do for him, the first and second time. I lost it this fourth time yesterday. I said “that is it I am going to do it to you,” right then and there, in front of him I went on Suggardaddy.com. and said “you do it, now I am going to start.’ He was right when he said that is not going to resolve anything, only make a jealous ugly circle, but what will make it stop? I told him normally with men it is three strikes your out and if he were not so kind and generous I would not be with him.
I never seen him do it in public, and our relationship maybe not be long enough for me to observe all of his interactions with other women. I understand how you feel, I too in my mind only reserve my big smiles, laughs, and flirtatious giggles only for him. My ex did not he was alwas cought smiling, and laughing with other woman, (always noticing new girls walking in the door) and I brushed it off, thinking we are married he’d never actually cheat. . and he did
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So I don’t know what to tell you, I am sorry. I too normally don’t mind the glances and think they are healthy and “I do do it too.” I am a very serious person and also want to be the only one who puts that spark in his eyes. You should give him the ultimatum I guess. Maybe someone else can shed some light on the subject.
@ He’s Always Looking, I’m so sorry about your marriage! No one deserves that kind of treatment! It makes me cringe to put SO much faith into someone and a relationship only to get burned later by some sleazy act of lust. (Hence my commitment issues, 32 and never married) I hope you’re a better woman, better off now that the ex is gone! And I completely understand your frustration and questioning when some random, cute chick pops up on your partners phone. Why do men do such stupid sh*t?!?! I’m tired of second guessing them AND myself!!
As for me and my situation, the evening after I posted my comment we had a huge heart to heart and resolved some issues. I told him that when I catch him looking at a broad or in the vicinity of gal more than once it breaks my heart and makes me loose faith in our relationship. I mentioned how I was reconsidering everything and that if he wanted me in his life things needed to change. He explained to me what he was or was not looking at and emphasized that he never meant to make me feel that way. I asked him how it would make him feel if I did the same thing and that woke him up a bit, because that would kill him and he knows it. I think more than anything he didn’t realize what he was doing made me feel like crap, that I noticed and that him looking was THAT obvious. I told him he looked like a giant ass to both me and the other girl and to knock it off. He took it all in good stride, we decided that from now on, if I catch any sort of behavior like that a kick in the shin or slap upside the head is in order.
And now since we’ve been out in public, he’s been a lot more respectful. He seems even better than before! I’m not sure whether it’ll be short lived or not, but I’ve spoke my peace and if he continues to do anything of the sort I will drop him like a bad habit and be done with this whole situation!
I appreciate your response and feedback. I wish you the best of luck reaching out to your guy and making him understand how he’s been making you feel. He’s got to understand what you’ve been through and how leery you are going to be in the future. I hope he realizes you’re worth keeping and knocks it off! Good Luck!!
@ Julia, i totally feel ya girl!
Woman do obviously look at other men, but when we do we dont DROOL over him like we’ve never seen a man in our live’s we just appreciate that there are some good looking men out there… but oogling another woman, specially when your with your signifcant other is abit rude i think, sure pass a glance, but don’t expect me not to “glance” at the bradley cooper look-a-like that just walked into the room… If men don’t want us women to be upset about them drooling over the big breasted blonde, than don’t get all jealous & snippy when a muscle bound man walks into a room wearing something reveling… thats only fair. I’m tired of hearing the excuse of “all woman are insecure if they expect a man NOT to look at a woman” umm… its not necessarily insecurtiy that cause’s woman to be upset, its b/c men often overexagerate the way they look at other woman… if they didnt make it so obvious, maybe their wouldnt be such a huge issue, it really all depend’s on the woman of course…
This is such fing bs. The bottom line is if u have a hot gf or wife and u love her so muvh, why look at anything else?
@ My patience is running thin. My husband looks at other women when he’s with me. Maybe, he doesn’t do it to the same extent but sometimes while I’m talking to him, I realize that he didn’t here the last couple of words that I’ve said in the last 2 seconds because he was looking at another woman and probably was sure that I didn’t notice her. To be honest with you, I don’t feel insecure about myself because I think that he found another woman attractive. However, I do feel DISRESPECTED… You can’t even imagine how many times I brought this to his attention saying, “Don’t think I didn’t notice you looking at her”. He gets extremely defensive and usually says that it’s all in my head only… Anyway, I told him that I didn’t care that much about him checking out other women because I do check out other men too (of course, I didn’t say that). However, all I want for him to do is just to make a conscious effort not look at other women when he’s WITH me… Just show some respect! That’s all I’m asking… Look when I don’t see, but make me feel like I’m the only one in the world when we’re together… I actually said that to him couple of times… Nowadays, he actually makes more effort not to look when we are together but sometimes, I notice that looking for men is like a lower function instinct that they just can’t control like women do… Because he looks and then he remembers what we’ve talked about and then he kind of panics… So, in these times, I kind of let it slide unless he tries to find that woman with his eyes again…
The bottom line here is RESPECT to his partner… Less amount of looking shows more amount of respect…
THIS is what I think: all this talk here about men looking at other women, so women should do the same and look at other men? Please…come ON! What a truly DUMB recommendation that is, folks! There is nothing about a man that shows anything whatsoever…in normal street-dress situations. A bathing suit, well, then, there may be a very slight chance that a woman can see a bit more than if he’s in jeans. In comparison, there IS no comparison! How dense ARE you all? OK…now those women who let it all hang out, either looking like cheap tarts, or exposing their breasts as a simple matter of ‘dressing down’ course…those breasts still show, Right?? That’s my first point. Secondly, when a man who’s married and made a vow to be a decent husband…looks at other women, specifically in my case, other womens’ breasts? That IS insulting, demeaning and disrespectful of their marriage, our marriage. Indeed, it degrades a marriage to such an extent that a woman no longer has the good feelings about the marriage, so destructive IS this type of self-serving male behavior. The bottom line here is RESPECT to that relationship and his wife, there cannot be respect if a man does not clearly see and understand that he’s destroyed his marriage. In my opinion, no looking at all shows much more respect…as Dr. Ann says, but again, many men have little to no self-control and care only for their own habits and desires. My husband, in spite of several serious conversations between us concerning this, still looks at other women, albeit thinking that I don’t note it. I do. It’s made my sexual desire for a relationship with him almost nil…I no longer can be turned on by him. After all, his attraction to other women has simply (self-protectively, for me) set me away from him so that I can no longer feel goodness sexually between us. A twenty-year marriage and not enough loving caring respect for him to simply stop, grow up, and see the real light.