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Why Do Men Leave For Younger Women?
00:01 by Cindy English · 15 Comments
Recently, an OCW reader made the following request…
My husband is 46 and leaving me for a 29 year old woman that he has been seeing off and on for a year. I would love to read some articles concerning men who leave their wives for younger women. He says age has nothing to do with it.
Since the topic affects many women, here are my thoughts on the subject…
Many men leave their wives for younger women and I do believe that age has something to do with it, but not necessarily because of the physical aspects.
While the popular phrase, “men like eye candy” is true, I think men have a serious need to be admired, looked up to and respected, particularly by their spouse or partner.
Beauty will not sustain a relationship but the emotional aspects will.
I think that after years of marriage, we all tend to take each other for granted. We get comfortable and lazy.
We stop telling our partners how wonderful they are, or how important they are or how much they mean to us. We stop doing those “little things”. We tend to say nothing when things are going well but are very quick to point out each others faults and failures.
When we stop giving each other positive feedback, self doubt and insecurity set in.
Although guys do not show it or express it well, they have emotional needs too. Younger women look up to older men. They see them as providing wisdom and stability financially, physically and emotionally.
The younger woman needs to feel beautiful, adored and cared for while the older man wants to feel admired, needed and important. For a time, each satisfies the other’s desires.
But, as with all relationships, the new wears off and reality once again sets in. Things become stale and boring, just as it did with the previous relationship. As the woman becomes more self sufficient and less dependant on her husband, the man finds himself attracted to a new younger woman who once again “needs” him and restores his feelings of self worth.
Donald Trump is a perfect example of this scenario also known as serial monogamy.
Here is the link to an excellent article on why men leave. It is written by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, a New York psychologist and relationship expert.
If after reading the article, you visit her site, you can download a free book entitled “As A Man Thinketh” which is quite good. Her site is full of information which you may find very helpful.
She also has written an excellent book called Why Men Leave. This isn’t just another self help book for women who blame themselves for their men leaving. This book contains lengthy interviews from over 40 men who explain, from the heart, exactly what went wrong. You get the answers straight from the horses mouth!
Surprisingly, the men accept their share of responsibility for their failed relationships and they feel badly about it!
Visit the sales page for the book – seriously! Even if you choose not to buy the book which is $33.00, Dr. Shoshanna provides a wealth of information right there on the sales page!
Without buying a thing, you will find out the primary reasons why men leave their wives. You will also gain some real insight into the male mind and learn the eight most common mistakes people make in their relationships. Made a few of these myself!
Spend a while on her site, you won’t be sorry.
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Whatver they say, it’s all crap. If they truly felt bad, they’d at least take care of business, but most don’t. They are animals, and need to be treated as such, and never, ever relied on!
I think that if men really love their wife, have moral values and do everything they can to keep that love alive, they will find the true rewards of long term, dedicated relationships. As it takes two to build a true loving and lasting relationship, this also applies to women.
Unfortunately, in today’s world, love is very rare. It’s all about sex, power and money.
Mr. Trump is a perfet example of this. He finds one beautiful woman, sleeps with her, eventually marries her and once he has become tired of his new toy, he drops her for the next fashionble and sexy toy on the market. The fact that he does not know what to do with his money gives him easy access to the sexiest barbie dolls on the market. He, like many, confuses love with sexual attraction and fulfillment of sexual desires.
If he was starving to death, his perception on life would change. If he used some of his power and wealth to make this world a better place to live and alleviate the sufferances of the sick and poor, his priorities would also be different.
Although physical attracftion has a role to play in a relationship, moral values, a dedication to commitment and really caring and taking time for the other person are what is required for long term relationships. I think that serial loves kill the innocence of our heart and our capacity to stay faithful to the one we love and in the end numbs our souls and leaves us alone and empty.
Though I am scared of the fundamentalism and intolerance of religions, I still think that religions (the monogamous ones) taught us the principles of a fulfilling, happy and righteous life. Fulfillment of sexual desires will never bring lasting joy, only true love can soothe the longing of the heart and help us build meaningful and truly happy relationships and lives. But those require commitment, truly caring, truly loving, dedication, dialogue and humility.
That’s my take on the subject and I know because I have paid the price of the world we live in, the emptiness of the our society and my own mistakes.
I truly love someone once. I never knew if that love was shared. But I still long for what could have been.
In the end, it also has a lot to do with the values we were taught in our younger years and keeping them no matter what.
Im really upset and hurting- my boyfriend who i Lived with (was a roommate turned boyfriend- mistake umber one!) gave my own 17 year old client his business card while i wasnt there!! we then had a huge argument about it- he cried telling me to look at his track record…that he was upset because i mean a lot to him, etc. and then we made up (and made love).
6 months later, after we broke up, i discover that not only did he accept her “friendship” offer on facebook (something i knew while we were still dating but somehow didnt question enough- omg!!) but he writes to her while were still dating and after we broke up- he posts on her wall …and then SHOWS ME HIS WALL!
i m not sure how to feel better about this- if he felt better about himself and proud to walk around with her, why didnt I MAKE HIM PROUD? im the same age as him (36) but am considered an unbelievable beauty (sorry- its true, though) so im really quite perplexed.
he comes from an Incredible and very moralistic family- so im just at a loss for words at this need and what to think.
Men want younger women because of the perceived naivetee of younger women. They can be impressed much easier. they have been exposed to less so can be fooled easier. Theri view of the world is not yet realistic and jaundiced by what older women have seen and know. Older men are superheros with every little effort to younger women. Because younger women are not quite established they need and will take more help. This a man wants and needs because the bar to prove masculinity is lower to younger women and thus easier to meet.
Well I think the only way to have a lasting relationship is to be with your opposite. Like, for example, a below average man for an average or above average woman / a below average woman for an average or above average man.
For about 8 years now since I turned 40, my husband has been exhbiting all the signs of interest in younger women, and he KNOWS hes appreciated. My husband told me that he would be with a younger woman if he thought he could keep up sexually. I told him to invest in Viagra, and leave. They simply leave because they want a newer model. Less wrinkled, less worn. Nevermind that they are fat with a face like a roadmap.
They just want newer, tighter, fresher—-younger. They dont want to face menapause with their wives. period..They are truly pigs.
This is why I stick to casual sex. Why would I commit to be dumped for a 20 year old?
Your husbands leave you for younger women because we are energetic, beautiful, charming, sweet,wrinkle free and we make your husband feel like he matters far too many of you wives become fat ass frumpy moo cows a year or so into the marriage you no longer give a shit you don’t work out, get your hair done, wear bras to push up your old saggy tits, you don’t wear make up anymore and you don’t suck his cock enough all you do is get pregnant become another fat ass sitting on the couch stuffing your greedy asses and gain a pound every week unfortunately for you there are young hot chicks like me that are going to take away your husband from you and everything that comes with it I love being with married men lol omg they treat their girlfriend like a goddess only downside is not being together for holidays but boy does he make up for it with gifts and trips to the caribbean I’m a bit too young now to make him divorce his ugly ape looking wife I just don’t want the responsibility of him clinging to me but maybe one day when I feel like it I’ll have him sign those papers and kick her big ass to the curb maybe soon depends and to all the stupid frumpy wives out there that sit your big ass at the computer all day that’s gonna get on my back for posting my real life comment fuck off and go learn to deep throat your husband maybe he’ll stick around and not leave you for a 20 year old like me
Karen you sound stupid you’re an “unbelievable beauty” LMFAO ! Hahaha bitch your face probably looks like a dogs shitter ” ” unbelievable beauty” yeah that’s why your man is looking to screw a 17 year old lol stupid bitch no wonder he’s cheating take your head out your stinky asshole arrogant bitch
Men get tired of wives who take them for granted, get fat, and who are not interested in sex or their souls. Men need to feel loved and adored. And face it, younger women are biologically hotter. Some men are “pigs” but how many women are all “special” princesses?PLEASE. Men and women can both be disgusting and half of life is luck. I think most people are capable of cheating under the right conditions.
Simply put, many men need to feel they come first sometimes and that their women care. Men love to think of themselves as boys, no matter what their age. Women love to think they are inherently valuable goddesses, no matter what their age. Both sexes suffer from entitlement complexes. But relationships cannot be neglected or sustained on changing premises. Frankly, I think most partners (men and women) in marriages get exactly what they deserve. You marry for money, security, looks, whatever, then watch out once the balance of factors starts to change! Karma.
Dear “I love to date married men:”
Your honesty is something and so I would like to reply with honesty in return…someday…somehow…some way you will get yours. Each day that clock is ticking and your breasts will sag, your face will wrinkle..gravity will pull and you will not remember the last time you were desired. Here’s the thing however, ALL that you took that was never yours to take…who you seduced without remorse, without a conscience well…it will come back to haunt you in your lonely reflection. You will stand in that mirror pitiful because although you may have youth as an advantage now, there is not even a fraction of “nice” pulsating through your veins. How sad youth and beauty is being soiled by your ugliness within. One can assume you to be filled with youthful advantage until you speak and then your words betray the real truth of emptiness within. Mark my words on that someday…for old age arrives quicker than one thinks. I feel sorry for whoever falls into your snare for there is no sort of quality or substance reflected in your words.
I think it’s really horrible for a man to leave his best friend of many years with all the years behind them they shared and all the experiences. That’s dumb. It makes me think the marriage was just about shallow garbage and wasn’t much of a relationship anyway.
I’m 35, never dated in highschool, always been kinda nerdy. Today I am extreemly fit, people don’t even recognize me, I make a lot’s of money, and I’m also dating a 19 year old woman.
I agree with the ladys that men who leave their wives for younger women are dorks! but I on the other hand have never really dated until reacently, It took me a long time to fine tune my dating skills (not maturity skills,) I guess dating and undestanding some aspects of the world or ignoring them was never my thing. For me the world looks weird when I watch the media and stuff, and seeing all these younger people living life the way I never did. Does that make them more mature than me, NO, that just makes them people that lived certain things in life before and younger than me. THEY ARE NOT MORE MATURE. When I see 19 year old guys dating 19 year old girls without all of the things I had to learn to be able to date ANYONE!! It really pisses me off because if they leave their wives in the future than they are fucking jerks!! I believe that there are people who where destined to date and marry in large age gap relationships (LIKE I AM, because I hardly ever dated or got laid in my early twenties) and the reason for it was because It wasnt my time. So in my case, dating a younger woman is PERFECTLY NORMAL, but on the other hand all these dudes that dated their highschool sweethearts are F#@%IING JERKS!! Relationships are more about God’s will than they are about us. Age is a stupid messure for dating.
Same here! I never really dated anyone in my teens or early twenties. My girfriend is way younger than me, and we seem to click togheder like pieces in a puzzle. Maybe some of us where just destined to find our mates this way. And also agree with Fred that if you dated all these teen girls when you where a teen and then married your twenty something girlfriend, and then after you reach your forties, all of the sudden you want to go back to all the things you already lived and date young women again, that your a jerk.