Why Do We Cheat?
Being In Heat – Why We Girls Need To Cheat!
by bcalendar · 12 Comments
The other day, I was hanging out with one of my girlfriends and she told me she had something she had to get off her chest. She lives with her boyfriend and loves him, but there is this one guy at work that is hitting on her. The bottom line was, she felt guilty because while she wants to be a good girl, every so often she's tempted to tell her boyfriend she needs to work late just so she can jump this stud muffin's bones.
Part of her worried that this meant there were problems in her relationship.
“Don't worry,” I said. “It means nothing of the sort. It just means you’re normal, healthy woman. And, that you should probably have a little fun with him until you get him out of your system.”
Over coffee, I explained to her why I didn't think it said anything about her relationship. I offered to be her alibi and gave her advice on how to be naughty while her boyfriend still thinks she's nice.
Sound shocking? It really isn't. Women are biologically designed to want to partner with two very different types of men. It's in our nature and if we deny our nature we are going to end up very, very unhappy in the long term.
Over the years scientists, medical professionals and anthropologists have documented how and why it's not natural for a woman to faithful to one man. Though, on the other hand it is advantageous for your primary partner to think you are monogamous.
You see, women are programmed by nature to want a solid, reliable long-term partner. Nature did that to ensure there would be someone to protect us from wild animals and make sure our caves were stocked with food, so we would have a safe place to raise our children. These are the men we are emotionally attracted to.
Unfortunately for these types of men, nature doesn't want us to mate with the guys who stick around and protect us. Nature doesn't care if he's smart, funny or has more mammoth hides than any of the other cave dwellers.
Nature wants us to mate with strong, virile men who can beat the shit out of the other men, have strong immune systems and produce the highest quality DNA sperm. These types of testosterone driven men rarely, if ever, make good long-term partners; but they are the ones that get us hot and bothered.
Which means our instincts make us want to marry the types of guys we really don't want to have sex with, but want to have sex with the types of guys who would make awful marriage material.
This is borne out by recent scientific research into feminine arousal. It seems that during the non-fertile parts of our cycle, we are attracted to sensitive caring men with soft features. But, when we’re ovulating, we suddenly find these types of men to be a turn-off and instead get seriously wet for stud boy cavemen. In fact, the women were shown to be very unlikely to orgasm if they had sex with their primary partner during ovulation, but very likely to experience ecstasy if they cheated during this part of their cycle.
These scientists theorize this came about so we'd have just enough sex with our long-term partners to make them think they were the fathers of our children – and therefore help us care for them – while also making it less likely we'd mate with these men when we were fertile.
Ever wonder why in so many upper middle class households, the children often look a lot more like the gardener or pool boy then they do the woman's husband? Nature doesn't care that they don't have great jobs or social graces. Nature just cares that they are real men.
That's why I told my friend not to feel bad about her urges. It doesn't mean she didn't love her boyfriend – it just means she needs to get serviced by a stud a couple times a month.
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You know, I have always believed that women could be in love with two men at the same time for many of the reasons sited in this article but…geez…this article just makes women sound selfish and tacky!
BB,
I don't think it makes them sound selfish – if they are only doing what comes naturally.
Thank God for paternity test's.
What a load of crap. Justifying cheating? Give me a break. There IS no justification. It's still wrong.
This article is nauseating at best. It's not all about you, precious.
And I agree with Kris W. Women like you give men reason to *need* paternity tests.
this is what i think….
science is science…whether it is proven or not. I feel as though you should have advised your friend to rethink her relationship. what if she liked this guy, what if she wanted to make him the long term partner. or what if she didnt, and she just boned him and her BF found out through the grapevine, it would have caused an plethora of problems, he could be damaged emotionally, he could have lost hope in women affecting his confidence and self-image, STD's, or… these days people are nutz, what if the BF god forbid killed them both? two families would have suffered due to the miss use of trust. trust is so hard to find these days, i think if you want to take advantage of you natural instincts, in my opinion…i think that should be discussed with you partner, because that is how mature relationships are handled. a relationship is work…hell yea its hard, but if you want the money ya gotta work for it right?
i would consider myself an attractive male…i date a wonderful girl who i am working on trusting fully as well she is with me. i really care about this girl, and i could easily get it on with another girl if i had the urge…i mean i am a guy…we are suppose too, but i value her trust and our respect for one another…..if you feel like having these urges and following through with them,…id advise you to ponder on whether or not you want to be committed.
next time u advise ur friends….make sure u tell them u walked in on ur mom bangin the gardner and thats why ur views on trust and relationships are like my ass hole….
if u guys agree with this chica…thats fine….its proven…i guess. but if ur involved…and your home making dinner for your man (when ur not ovulating) and he is giving it to another broad…..would u be ok with it
if ur friend went threw with it…she's trash….us fellas are smart…especially us city boys….we sharp
I would advise "I Talian" to lean basic English language skills before he makes a public comment.
out of all i wrote, u talk about my how i typed it? thanks spell check…
I'm not sure whether the science is true but it does make sense to me, however it is well within someone to make they're own jusdgment, whether the friend went out and got laid becaiuse of it just means she wanted an excuse to do it. Its about choices. If the shoe was on the other foot and this article was about man instead of a women there would be a long list of women making outraged comments. Being a women myself I think its merely a case of wanting your cake and eating it- I'm not saying its wrong or right- it's understandable but don't try to deceive others into thinking its about genetic make up. Ultimately you decide which path you go down.
I'm one of the alpha males you girls come for when you're in heat. But at some point (maybe in a decade or so) I would like to settle down, and I sure as hell will not pick one of these well used cum dumpsters.
My advice to all self-respecting guys out there is to just use women however they will let you. Then when you find one worthy of your emotions, sign a prenup. Either that, or just keep a good thing going without making it official. Making it official fucks up your life. Besides, she will get old, fat, saggy, boring or all of the above at some point. Let some loser take care of her then while you go looking for some fresh, tight, young and hot piece of ass.
One a side note, the write of this article put this up not because she believes what she writes or even agrees with it but because she wants to generate controversy and get some hits. If you're hot, I expect something in return and maybe even a sandwich after.
I forgot to add that I love this article because no matter what you say, women are not capable of separating their physical and emotional intimacies. Men are fully equipped to do so. And so, an article like this makes it quite clear that we have been doing nothing wrong and are encouraged to continue along this path.
But yes, as previous posters have warned, always do a paternity test. With the new technology on the market, now you can get it done even while she is pregnant. There is no excuse not to get a paternity test especially after you read about Lord Mansfield’s Rule. You can check it out here or just google it.
http://dontmarry.wordpress.com/2007/06/27/lord-mansfields-rule/
Jeremy;
You are quite the silly man! You obviously have spent much of your time with beta females, and have not tangled with an Alpha!
As an Alpha female, I can assure you that you are so wrong about us not being able to separate our physical and emotional selves. I, as well as many friends, can and do compartmentalize very well! I have had more than one affair, more than one long-term affair, and have managed both them and my marriage quite nicely.
I take care of my family, work hard at my career, cook and clean, and do my "wifely duties".
I then find time once or twice, or sometimes three or four times a week depending on schedules to have a wonderful, hot, messy, sexy, sensual, time with my lover.
I am not a cum dumpster, nor am I all over the place, I am careful in all that I do.
Prenup? My husband should have signed one! I make more than he and most men that I know do!
My husband has fathered two children, and raised only his own blood.
At almost 50 I am in my prime, and am in better shape than I’ve ever been in; I have younger guys approach me all the time. I am not by any means old, fat, or boring. I am clean, attractive, educated, fun and funny, and very fit.
You are so mistaken about the women of today. We have evolved, taking on change better than most men do.
IF you’re hot, you can make me my next sandwich!