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Married Dating – A Conflict Of Interests?
by Cindy English · 7 Comments
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Married dating – isn't that a contradiction of terms? Or at the very least a conflict of interests?
"Back in the day", you could be married, or, you could be dating. You could not be both!
Now it seems that married dating is very common if not almost "acceptable".
Whoa! When did this happen?
Dating use to be a prelude to marriage. Now it's done before, during and after marriage with the Internet being a gateway to what was once a forbidden zone.
With the wonders of the WWW, we are like kids in a candy store. Never before has it been so easy to "hook up" with others looking for the romance and sex that they feel they aren't getting at home.
Chat rooms, instant messaging, email and web cams are the "tools of the trade" used by millions of men and women to carry on "harmless" cyber affairs. Because no human touch is involved, it can't be considered cheating – right?
Cyber cheaters justify their behavior as an innocent way to recapture some of that lost excitement. The anonymity of it all, gives people the courage to discuss fantasies and desires that they never would talk about with their spouses.
Why?
Online rejection is far less painful than the real thing and if things get out of hand, you can just sign off – no apologies and no excuses needed.
The trouble with cyber affairs is that they often do not stay in cyber space!
Women, generally get involved in cyber affairs looking for romance and emotional support while the men look for sex. The excitement and arousal experienced during cyber flirting often causes good judgment to go by the wayside. Things escalate and first contact by phone is made.
From there, as Dr. Dave Greenfield of Psychjourney reports, 31 percent of these cyber affairs go on to become the "real thing".
It seems then, that cyber affairs are well on their way to becoming the number one cause of adultery and divorce.
Things have gotten so far out of hand that even an innocent lunch between business acquaintances falls prey to suspicion these days. And who can blame us?
Is there a solution?
Marriage therapists believe that pre-marital counseling and discussing what role the Internet will play in a couple's relationship should be mandatory.
Will it help?
Many good people have succumbed to temptation despite forewarnings. Eve did.
Seems a lot like telling your kid to stay out of the cookie jar while you are away!
Yeah…right!
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I am actually in an emotional affair with a married man, I am also in a committed relationship. I never met the married man in person, don't know if I will. Unfortunately I have to disagree with you say "Online rejection is far less painful than the real thing and if things get out of hand, you can just sign off – no apologies and no excuses needed."
We've had our share of arguments and "ending it" and it hurts very badly, the worse pain I felt is via this relationship with him.
Thanks a lot for touching the theme of cyber affairs! I'm more than assured that the online relationships most of the people are engaged in aren't so "innocent" as it may seem. Moreover, the adult industry is going all out to make the cyber sex conversations "realistic". Every now and then I come across the service suggesting not only to chat, but also to manipulate a usb-connected sex toy! Just imagine! the person you were talking with gives you the access to her/his hot spots! Isn't it still considered to be a CHEATING?
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