My Wife Will Not Have Sex With Me
Every day, men visit this site with the same problem. "My wife will not have sex with me. Why?"
This is going to be the most brutal yet honest answer that you are ever going to get.
To put it bluntly, you are just not "hitting the mark" and she is getting absolutely nothing out of it!
But she liked it to begin with right? Right. Here's why…
Sex with a new partner is always exciting. Chances are, that a woman will have an orgasm even if the sex is not stellar just because the anticipation and excitement of the unknown can put her in an orgasmic frame of mind.
Guys should understand this concept. Have you ever wanted a woman so badly that when you actually had sex with her, it was over too quickly because you simply were so excited that you could not "wait"? The anticipation had built to a point where you just could not control yourself. Nothing short of a lightning strike could have prevented you from getting off.
Same goes for a woman. But, here's what happens over time…
The guy thinks he's doing everything right because it "worked" in the beginning. So, he continues doing the same things every time.
The woman, realizing that the first few successes had more to do with her frame of mind, than your technique, now finds that an orgasm is an elusive thing. Often she finds that she is unable to climax at all. To prevent bruising your ego, she will "fake it" to bring an end to what she knows just "isn't working".
"Faking it" is a fatal mistake and the beginning of the end for many couples.
A woman fakes an orgasm with the best of intentions. She knows, that your sexual technique is the problem, but she just cannot bring herself to tell you. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings so she hopes that over time, things will improve. When they don't, false orgasms become a habit. She is trapped! How can she tell you now, that she has been faking it all along without upsetting you? Afraid of you reaction to the truth, she remains quiet.
Sex is now a routine with no surprises and no mystery. You are still getting what you need, but unintentionally, through your lack of information she goes unsatisfied. She will discreetly pleasure herself. With no gratification on her part, sex with you now becomes a chore!
Your questions and her excuses begin. She is too tired, she has a headache, she has too much work to do, she had a lousy day and just isn't "in the mood"…anything to avoid another disappointing bedroom episode.
Now the cheating begins…
You are not "getting any" or the "wife just doesn't like sex anymore" is your validation for going elsewhere. Can't really blame you I guess.
She is surprised to find herself sexually aroused by another man who flirts with her. The unexpected but pleasant feelings bring her back to a time much like when your relationship was new. It is exciting, unknown, spontaneous and yes, for the first time in a long time, she has an orgasm!
Here comes the divorce…
You both are in a euphoric state of "lust" with your new partners. It must be love, so, you divorce and each move on.
Guess what happens?
Yup…when the new wears off…you find you're right back where you started from. She's back to
"faking it" and you are once again "not getting any"!
So, is there a solution?
yes…Yes…YES!
Now that you know what happens, the solution should be so simple. Just talk to each other right?
Easier said than done. Despite an age of increasing sexual awareness and open attitudes, many people are still uncomfortable communicating their needs. They find that talking to their partners about their sexual needs is awkward, uncomfortable and even embarrassing.
Really. How many ladies out there can comfortably describe to their man exactly where to touch, lick or suck to drive them absolutely wild? How many can comfortably describe the pressure and pulse needed to get them off? How about showing him where the elusive "g-spot" is?
It's tough.
Likewise for the men, how many of you actually know if you are doing the right things? How many of you can read her "body language"? When she pushes you away, closes her legs or covers herself, she is trying to tell you something. Do you know what?
It's a guessing game.
This is why I absolutely, 100 percent, think EVERY COUPLE needs to see the videos in the Online Great Sex Guide!!!
I found the web site called Lovecentria a couple of weeks back. I bought a membership because I do not like to talk about or recommend things that I haven't used or read.
It cost me $68.95 and yes, I was skeptical. This site wasn't offering another damned book to read (thank goodness)! They were offering 54 DVD's of real people actually exploring their bodies and having sex while explaining it! Over 100 hours of video…unreal!
Who in their right mind, would or could produce such a thing?
Know what? Crazy as it sounds, these videos are the answer to every couple experiencing disappointment in their sex lives!
I have watched almost everything in the Lovecentria - Online Great Sex Guide now and I am amazed to say that it is an extremely well done and educational video resource for couples.
It's like advanced sex education for adults! You can actually see, hear and understand what to and what not to do.
Guys, please, please, please, if you don't do anything but watch the series called Satisfy A Woman Everytime, it will be money well spent.
You will finally understand a woman's sexual needs - all of those things that she finds it so hard to tell you about! Once you watch this video series, you will know what to do!
Actually, it would be great if you watched it with your wife. It would be the ideal way to "break the silence". When you watch the women explain what feels good and why, ask your wife if this is true for her as well. Then, she will probably be able to say yes, that's what I need from you!
Many sex lives could be renewed if couples only knew how to communicate.
There would be no need to cheat!
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