a man will always be a man, but when it come’s down to being with the same girl for the rest of his life..they get spooked out..is this the only one i’m going to have sex with? thing’s like that. sometime’s us women drive men to do that, and we don’t even know it…and that is when women step in and say well if he did it to me once i could do it twice….

I just went through a divorce because the man I thought loved me cheated on me a month later after we got a house for a year. he said we wanted something different but in all actuality he married me for his citizenship. He is happy after all the using he did and still at times wanted to still have sex with me and of course I would fall for it. but now I’m the one all alone with this complex that there is no man that will want me and I have relayed back to being alone all the time with no one, dinner by myself no one to talk to and he is so happy!! and I cry every day when he is smiling and laughing moving on. It’s like it’s so easy for him to detach himself from me but I still have a hard time letting a man that I loved for almost 10 years and still do, let him go. I feel stupid, unworthy and so unpretty. I basically given up on love relationships and marriage. Just don’t want to hurt anymore.

What a stupid article that is so loaded with BS!

I am a man and I can tell you we’re looking for a woman to go with us through lifes adventures!

When a woman decides that other things are more important to her than we no longer feel she’s along with us on the ride and the gap she was supposed to have filled is empty again.

This doesn’t have to be just Sex, it can be time they spend confiding in us or just making alone time (for trips or dates) for us… Yes Sex can temporarily fill the void but it will never replace the other needs.

Ezer-Kenegdo was what was wrtten to describe Eve and God and it translates to something like life-giver or life-force which has so many meanings behind it in regards to children and spouse… When that becomes just Children then the spouse feels neglected.

Oh and I had an emotional affair that I stopped before we went the whole way but it was never about the sex, it was always about the connection I had with this person and the others I’ve talked to all started in a similar fashion so do some research before you print this tripe!

Oh and one more note…

I made the decision to start talking to this other woman and it certainly isn’t all my wife’s fault but it takes two of us to get to this point and neither person in a relationship should ever assume they’re innocent of everything that has gone wrong.

i believe if a man has problems staying commited then the dumb man shouldn’t be in any type of relationship.

and another thing God did not put men on this earth to treat woman bad and be nasty and perverted.

I did a google search just to find out what a male maybe thinking when he goes out to deliberately cheat and lie to not only his wife but the prospective would be ‘other woman.’

I have all the anger towards this man for wanting to cheat on his wife, for presuing me for 9 months and behaving the way he did while presuing me. What upset me as the other woman, was he was dishonest.

Sure the marriage has problems and each to his own. But why be dishonest when your asked point plank, ‘are you married?’ and be told blantantly ‘no, Im single, your the one I want etc?’

I dont think he liked treating me the way I felt though after I found out he was married. I simply said that if he respected me, he would of been honest in the first place and he has reduced me to nothing but ‘fun’ and a ‘whore’ and should treat me as such.

So he now feels guilty and in away, thats my revenge. I dont have to tell his wife. Thats not my job, but hey making him see how much of a slut I am and knowing he has just trivialised marriage and making me one, makes me feel satified in knowing he will think twice before cheating and being dishonest again.

men cheat because we need sex all too much. we really want our spouse to want more sex. we men wake up one day and realize that all this time we have had to beg for sex evertime we get it. and when we did get it, it was so so. sure we need to do more around the house, romance more, buy flowers for the wife…. but for many of us men, we are doing all these good things to no avail. we want our wives to want us. we want our wives to be the ones to show the spank on the butt when we pass by. the kiss and hug for no reason in the middle of the day, the ear listening about OUR day without interuption to a new subject would be good sometimes if the wife would only seem to care to hear it. what does a man do when he brings home flowers, wants to kiss and hug for no reason, does EVERTHING in the book as far as in the bedroom to try to get her to want to satisfy him in return for his satisfying her. nothing he does will make her want sex. we men need conversation too. we cheat when we find a woman that will sit down and LISTEN to us talk of our day with interest. it starts there then we realize this extra woman actually enjoys sex and then wow, we have cheated. put a ring on this new womans finger and TADAH!!! she is now the wife you started with…. why do woman change thier sexual interest once they have a ring on their finger? thats the reason why men cheat.

When we were dating, my wife was an insatiable minx. Within days of the wedding and moving into the home “SLAM”!” went the door to the pleasure cove. I bit down on the hook and swallowed it too. To make thing even worse, not only did I lose the “home court” advantage, but then all the “self-help” books about marital communication started showing up on the bedroom nightstand. Book covers with sketches of a woman hold a string attached to a man who is flying like a kite. WTF? I have the answer to the entire communication issue….. “Pumpkin, let me get the baby batter off the brain, and then I can have an intelligent conversation.” “Because right now, with all the sh* t I have to deal with, I’ve got ONE thing on my mind.”

I have my own theory about what I call the “the indoctrination session” in the fourth grade. (You remember….. the day they separate the boys from the girls for several hours? What do you think really went on in their room?) This was where the girls were told the true power of the world is between their legs. The boys are told about keeping your armpits smelling clean and how to maintain hygiene if you’re uncircumcised.

Women know exactly what they want. Control. Sex is used like a shiny lure to keep you interested and in tune with the task or demand at hand she wants accomplished. Any of us with experience knows women are experts at pulling back the line and winding up the reel to keep you floundering, even though you think you’re fighting.

There’s a lot, and I mean a lot of “girlfriend you too can get yourself a man you can train” books and other literature(?) out there for women. Tactics which run the gamut of putting out like there’s no tomorrow and then shutting off the valve until there’s a ring on the finger, to adopting a couple annoying dogs to see if your prospective mate will be good with children. And of course my all time favorite…. “If you think he is considering divorce, start running up all the credit cards.”

I will say this about middle age and beyond. If you take care of yourself as a man, you’ll age like a fine bottle of wine, and if you so desire, you can attract willing booty well into your 50’s and 60’s for the casual hook-up (formally known as one-night-stand). Meanwhile every gallon of milk has its expiration date. She may have sucked away much of your youth and most of your of your money, but her “best when sold by” days are numbered.

Now of course, women reading my email will snipe and snark that none of what I say is true and that I am elitist or too old fashioned in my thinking and must have been hurt in a previous relationship, etc, etc. In response I say this: My career path and skill set taught me something early on which I used time and again to turn on my wife and other women when they make such remarks as to my thesis. Deny, Deny, Deny, and make counter-accusations. They are indeed masters at it. But if you recognize the tradecraft, you can beat them at the head games they love to play..

Enlightening for a lot of men I am sure.

Reality is, most men cheat on their wifes because they are disrespectful, mean, manipulative, or ignore them. Most men understand that there are grave consequences to leaving their wifes, so rather than leave, they put up with their bad behaviors for the sake of the kids, finances and their outlining families. When they meet a girl that is attracted to them, that does not possess the same traits, or sees them as being special, it’s not hard to see what’s going to happen. Also, some wifes put the bar up so high the husbands no longer can get over it, so they have an affair to “end” the marriage.

It’s not really about sex girls.. It’s about the way the men are treated and respected. What does someone with a hot wife, body, and knows how to treat them, want with another women… Unless, the girl he’s cheating on is a selfish, I come first bitch and puts her friends first…. If so, he’ will cheat..and do so with his middle finger up… and by the way, don’t forget..for everyman that cheats, cheats with a woman… So blame them just as much…