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Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat
by Cindy English · 62 Comments
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The question is as old as the problem itself…
Why do men cheat?
Is monogamy really a myth?
Are guys predestined to cheat because it is human nature?
Scientists have long explained that men are biologically motivated to seek out multiple sex partners. This natural instinct ensures a healthy gene pool and the survival of our species.
If this is true, then one cannot expect fidelity from a man. It kind of lets guys off the hook when they wander doesn't it?
So why do they feel guilty? If it is a man's biological right to have sex wherever, whenever, with whomever, why should they worry about being caught?
Because somewhere along the way, self imposed "ethics" and "morality" placed restrictions on human behavior…including sex!
Perhaps if guys didn't seem to derive such pleasure from sex, it wouldn't be such a sin. Think about it. If sex with multiple partners were just another "chore" for men as cleaning house and cooking meals is to women, would we get upset about it?
Probably not…poor guys! 
Nevertheless…men do enjoy sex…a lot…and not always with their partner!
Here are their Top 10 reasons…
I'd like to say that they are in no particular order but, we all know what guys say is the number one reason that they cheat. Remember ladies, the jokes about sex ending when marriage begins, wouldn't be funny if there weren't some truth to them!
- Not getting enough at home! Women tend to get caught up in "life" and sex gets put on the "back burner". She may be bent over helping the kids tie their shoes but he's still looking at her "nice ass". God…is that all they think about?
- It's reassuring to know that he's still "got it". Time has a way of making us all feel less sexy and desirable. A little forbidden rendezvous can be a real shot to a sagging male ego.
- The wife just isn't physically appealing anymore. Face it, women do tend to let themselves go. Often they get too busy raising their families and neglect themselves. They are too tired to put on make up or do those thigh slimming exercises. The result? A sexy new secretary and whatdayaknow…"Honey…I have to work late"!
- Sex at home is boring. The wife doesn't like to try new things (or old things – namely, blow jobs!). To men, variety is the spice of life and he may have some sexual urges that his wife is not willing to fulfill. He may have some ideas that he would rather his wife didn't know about. Can you say "manage-a-trios"?
- He just couldn't say no. The woman was hot and all over him. It just seemed like a once in a lifetime opportunity…too good to pass up. This is where the phrase "thinking with their little head" came from!
- The wife just isn't fun anymore. She worries, she nags, she fusses and they fight all of the time. He cheats to "get away from it all".
- He just doesn't love his wife anymore. And just how do you tell someone that tactfully? It is easier to have an affair than it is to deal with the pain and emotional upheaval of such a confession. On the other hand…if he is caught cheating? Well, the door is then opened for a speedy exit!
- The thrill of the chase is exhilarating. Some men are truly addicted not only to the act of sex itself, but to the hunt. They thrive on the rush they get when they are able to conquer even the toughest "ice queen". It's not about love, it's about control and winning!
- They cheat because they can. Many men know that their wives are insecure and dependant on them. They also know that low self esteem and a fear of being alone will keep her "in place" and "at home" no matter what, or who they do. So, why not? Variety – remember?
- And finally, men cheat to get even! It is an absolute blow to the male ego for his sexual prowess to be in question. Why else would a woman cheat on him? His own affair as a result, serves two purposes, revenge and reassurance of manhood.
There you have it…the Top 10 reasons why men say that they cheat on their wives or partners.
Are any of them "excuseable"?
Mmmm…a couple…maybe (although most women won't agree).
Are any of them "preventable"?
Of course.
Although monogamy may not human nature…it is a choice!
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Gary,
I do not know what you are seeking help for but quite obviously you have not found the right help! With respect to your comment, what could possibly hurt your wife and children more than killing yourself? People who choose this method to solve their problems have NO IDEA of the damage and destruction they leave behind!!! Your problems will be solved – as for your family that you love so much – theirs will just begin!
The Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat, written by some woman. What a joke. If women want to know why men cheat, then just ask them. It's not difficult. Just ask.
Honestly, the reasons can vary. We can cheat because we want sex with other partners. To women, this is a sign that we don't love you, but to us men it's ONLY a sign that we want sex with other partners.
Men don't think of sex as a sign of love. We really don't. We may say it is, and we may even convince you, but we only say all this stupid romantic shit so we can get you in bed. Hate it or not, its the truth.
Men separate sex from emotion in their brains very differently than women are able to (which is why a man can have sex with a woman and ignore and/or degrade and insult her later). We just don't connect the two. Love is how we feel for you. Sex is what we want from you.
To us, love is not something as shallow as just a decision to have sex with someone- our conception is so much more fulfilling and profound. When we love you, our love is what makes us always want to come back to you. We may want to have sex with another woman, but she won't be the one who we want to be the mother of our children. When we desire another woman, think of it as just us drinking sodas- it's what we want on occasion, but we don't view it as a serious replacement for the water that you are to us.
The way you can show that you love us is by NOT being mad over this. Afterall, it's in our genes! Just as you cannot control having a weaker ability to not cry when upset, we can't control our inner nature to seek out multiple partners. It has NOTHING to do with you. We STILL love you, and the women we may cheat on you with probably know that, too.
Just let it be, accept it, and embrace it. We will LOVE YOU MORE if you respond by embracing and appreciating it, rather than crying (we hate it when you cry- it bugs the shit out of us and makes us feel like we're dating/married to a 4 year old) and arguing.
For women seeking a tip on how to embrace their man's inner nature: SUGGEST YOU AND HE HAVE A THREESOME. The beauty in this is threefold: 1) You will see firsthand just how men separate sex from love. 2) The worrying about him going behind your back is diminished- if he can get sex with another woman AND YOU, as opposed to just some late night office fling without, he'll choose the option that includes you (this decision is cemented down the more and more you and your man "exercise" with another). 3) He will love and appreciate you more. A relationship requires compromise- lots of it. Do this for him and you'll be surprised how eager he will be to compromise when it comes up later (though a note is in order here: NEVER USE THE SEX AS AN ARGUING POINT! Do not argue that because you did this for him, now he OWES you anything. This not only will make him mad, but it makes you look like a whore, using sex to gain the things you want.)
If you have any questions or want some points of clarification, feel free to email me: adamryan zao @ a o l . com (remove the spaces).
Cheers,
-adamryan
So.. since guys separate emotion from sex then girls can to. And if woman. Should be supportive after a man has had sex with another women then why do men get mad if a woman has sex with another man. Love is supposibly just an emotion once a woman has sex with another man then men consider it cheating very hypocritical, don't you think?
Adam you are an idiot, sure ,I'll suggest a threesome with my man- only it will be another man not another bitch! then see how good of an idea he thinks it is.
@adam you are straight dumb as fuck. we do connect sex with emotion. if you fuck a bitch that you just met it feels good as fuck but if you make love to a girl that you really have feelings for and really have an emotional connection with it is so much better. dudes like you is the reason ALL men get classified as pigs. so instead of saying thats how men are try saying thats how you are.
@adam you are straight dumb as fuck. we do connect sex with emotion. if you fuck a bitch that you just met it feels good as fuck but if you make love to a girl that you really have feelings for and really have an emotional connection with it is so much better. dudes like you is the reason ALL men get classified as pigs. so instead of saying thats how men are try saying thats how you are.