I really believe that the main reason that men and women have trouble sustaining long term relationships is very simple…

We do not understand each other!

Men and women are from the same species and there the similarity ends.

We aren't built the same, we don't act the same and we certainly don't think anything alike!

Comparing the two is like trying to find the similarities between a Rottweiler and a Miniature Toy Poodle. Same species…nothing alike!

Women are sensitive and emotional, men are visual and logical.

Women watch the "Pirates Of The Caribbean" movies and see a love story. Ladies everywhere are eagerly awaiting the arrival of POTC III to find out who Elizabeth truly loves - Will or Captain Jack Sparrow. And do you know what? It actually matters to them who she chooses! There are websites devoted to the topic. Guys watch these same movies and see a great action-thriller. Some kick-ass moves, cool graphics, a great ship, a bit of humor and yeah…why is all the rum gone?

I came across a great article by Bob Grant also known as "The Relationship Doctor".

The article, entitled Why Men don't like to talk about Feelings uses a rather humorous scenario involving Speedos and bikinis to illustrate the differences between men and women…

"I want to illustrate something to your wife so if you will indulge me with a little experiment, I'll give you $1000 to slip into this tiny little Speedo bathing suit. In the next room there are 20 women whom I want you to dance around and make a fool of yourself in this little bathing suit."

His article is "right on"…take a minute to read it.

My thought on this article was "wow"! Wouldn't it be great to be that uninhibited? This guy made a fast buck doing something completely fun and harmless. A woman just can't seem to let herself go like that. We are too guarded, we take ourselves too seriously and we worry too damned much about what others will "think".

I think men and women each bring valuable qualities to a relationship. There is a time and a place where a woman's intuition and "gut feelings" are needed but there are also times when a man's logic and rationale are better served.

We balance each other out.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could learn to understand our differences and use them to work together instead of fighting to determine who is right and who is wrong?

Cooperation does win over control in almost every situation in life - why not with men and women?

I think men and women need each other, because of our differences, not in spite of them!

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