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Wife Led Marriage – Courtship Instead Of Cheating!
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There are many reasons why women decide to be unfaithful to men. Some of us like the adventure of a new conquest. Others feel the need to be constantly desired by new boy toys. And still others are simply mad at our partners and want to punish them. But, for many women, we decide to cheat simply because our men have become lazy in bed.
This is not unusual at all, and relates to how men are hardwired. In general, their libido is designed to look for conquest. When they are trying to get a woman, they will do almost anything to satisfy their desires. That's why at the beginning of the dating process they'll buy you flowers, listen to everything you have to say and take you out to do dinner. They will also generally behave like tigers in bed – because they want to impress you and keep you coming back for more.
But, once you are married, they naturally feel like they have you and don't have to work to “get” you anymore. They may become lazy around the house – and even worse, become lazy in bed.
They feel they've already conquered you, so they don't have to court you anymore. More importantly, because they feel like they can have sex with you anytime they want without effort, they'll often start making love to you less and less.
What's a girl to do? Don't worry, many women have found a way to keep the feeling of eternal courtship and conquest in their relationship through a phenomenon called “Wife Led Marriage” or “Loving Female Authority.”
Discussed on websites like Around Her Finger and Elise Sutton, the Wife Led Marriage movement has shown women how to have all the orgasms they want – without cheating!
The theory of Wife Led Marriage is that men are happiest when wrapped around the finger of the woman they love. In such a relationship, the female partner makes all decisions in their relationship and the man has to earn sexual rewards from her.
It can be as simple as insisting that he give you an orgasm five times before he's allowed to have a single orgasm. It could be that only after six or seven nights of giving you oral pleasure is he allowed to even take off his pants around you. Other women give their men “points” for doing chores around the house and “demerits” for not being attentive enough – and insist that sex won't happen until he's reached a certain number of points.
No matter how you set it up, the main thing is he understands that just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean he can have sex whenever he wants. By making it harder for him to have access to your body, you'll make him want your body more. And, because he'll know that the only way he'll get to have sex with you more often is by making the sex with you better, he'll do anything you ask.
Imagine having him beg to go down on you every night, after he's done all the dishes, taken out the trash and given you an hour-long foot massage! Wouldn't it be great if instead of wanting to spend Saturday afternoon with the guys, he decided he'd rather stay home with you or go out to a romantic brunch?
Those are the kind of results reported by women who have embraced this lifestyle!
Suddenly, your relationship will be just like it was when you were first dating – with him constantly trying to romance and seduce you. He'll never feel like he's really conquered you, so he'll always be trying to sweep you off your feet!
You'll feel like a goddess – and more importantly, start having more orgasms with your partner than you have in years!
So, how do you introduce Wife Led Marriage or Loving Female Authority into your relationship as an alternative to cheating on him? Don't worry, we'll tell you exactly how to make it happen in next week's edition of Your Cheating Ways!
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There was a time when I might have objected to this suggestion, but given that we live in the post-Rules era, I was relieved to see the topic of a wife-led marriage. Everyone can live their own way, of course, but it doesn't seem fair that only men can (seemingly) have the power.
I have rarely seen any of these suggestions stated boldly before now, but given that I tend to be the "bread-winner" in my relationships, it's a handy tool to keep on hand.
Begging to lick my pussy after doing the dishes?!?!?!?! Hell, yes I want to know more!
I can attest that this works! My husband is at home cleaning house right now while I'm on vacation. I also gave him a shopping list. He can't wait for me to get home!
How did you motivate him?
Ug. I think this is disgusting. The whole point of marriage is that it should be someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. All the games and uncertainty are what you have to do to get to that point. I'm fine with a dominant woman, but I have no interest in being a slave for sex.
And why does mainstream media always portray men as the sex hungry dogs? Why can't a man ever be the one withholding sex?!
While I don't think it's disgusting, I do agree with Kevin that the article is predicated on the idea of men as sex-hungry dogs. It assumes that sex is something women can control or withhold, and something men always want. What about sexual disinterest in men and frustrated horniness women? That's not to say the "Wife Led Marriage" might not be a good a idea for some couples, just that it assumes a traditional set of characteristics for men and for women respectively, and reality doesn't necessarily line up with that for a lot of couples.
I think the article is appropriate given the website its on, and its from a womans point of view. Having said that its also a very easy, uncruel way to add some excitment-if he cant cum until she has 5 orgasms her 4th orgasm may be very exciting for him knowing his reward is near. Cheers!
I think that this is a brilliant philosophy, there's so much more to marriage and relationships than just what goes on in the physical realm. So much of what goes on is all about psychological manipulation (is that too strong a word?) and interaction.
Excuse me? Men ARE sex-hungry dogs, but so are women!! This concept of withholding sex is only going to make it more exciting for everyone involved, what's better than mystery and suspension?? Great article
Stephanie…I have to agree. I say if it makes them happy…go for it! If her man enjoys watching her taking a pounding by some nice hot cock…by all means let it rip and bang that pussy like it needs it and let her be the cum slut she longs to be…he will love her so much more! A little intrigue and spice make the sex spicy hot, too, not to mention making their relationship much stronger through the trust and admiration they have for one another. Ruff Ruff
Boss,
I don't think this article suggests that her husband watch her get banged by other dudes.
Bart: Please elucidate!
Admin: If you let others make unbiased posts, then why are my posts deleted?
The problem with this "lifestyle" is that the woman usually ends up losing attraction and respect for the man over time as she becomes more and more addicted to the power that she now has.
This again proves my theory about the indoctrination of women at the age of 9 or 10. Girls are taken aside and told the real power of the world is between their legs. Why such a huge part of the human condition is so obsessed with power and control over another individual, be it a spouse or a subordinate at work is completely beyond me. The concept of "quid pro quo" is one thing. It's another to turn the act of love making into some "treat" for the "dog" if he has been a good boy and done his tricks or chores for you. It's all semantics and feminine power-play bullshit.
I am 47, divorced, (thank god) clean my own home, take out the trash, do the yard work, etc. Nobody holds any sexual power over me to complete these tasks. My "treat" is I can do what I want, anytime I want, all of the time. My married male friends keep telling me to "get hitched" again. Are you kidding? I see and hear about the miserable situation in which you placed yourself. Do you honestly think I would venture down that path again knowing the outcome? I’ve been celibate for over 7 years now. I refuse to date, and I rarely socialize with couples if they are friends with single or divorced women. Once you get used to preparing your own meals, dining out alone, and going to ballgames and movies by yourself, it becomes quite empowering. I’m by no means wealthy, but my salary and benefits are more than generous after 19 years with the same government employer. People ask, “What about your estate and the money and savings from working?” That is all covered. My will leaves everything to an escrow account with a national law firm so men who need to get divorced but can’t afford to do so can receive financial assistance.
Janet I agree with you. Boss Hawg -are you trying to be rude/crude??
This philosophy is fun for only a short while at best with only some couples. Marriage is NOT about power! If the man is complacent then address it maturely. I would not expect to be respected if I allowed my wife to treat me like this! After this happens then you are in a worse situation!!!
Unfortunately this can appear to be just a little fun between two consenting adults. The reality of it rarely lives up to the fantasy over time. Role play can be fun but how often do people know when to stop. Usually just after it has gone horribly wrong. Yes.. men love to make thier women happy. Some men are foolish enough to think this tactic alone will benifit them. Some women may find it fun a for awhile. But a women has to respect her man to love him. Power exchanges like cuckoldry by it's very nature are disrespectful. I dearly love and respect my wife. I treat her as my queen and she treats me as her king in our relationship (24 + yrs). The first time I suspected I was being manipulated or trained, It woud stop right there. Game over! There are simply too many options availible. I think submissive males are simply defective and should no not be allowed to breed. I guess I'm not a submisive male.
This is one of those times where people are taking a fetish or fantasy and thinking it's a great idea to apply to one's entire life or marriage. Sure, a very small minority of men and women may want their marriages structured in this manner…but the vast majority won't. This doesn't mean that the men never fantasize about their wives as dominatrixes, but it's just that—a fantasy, something to acted out once in a while in the sack. Recommending this as a way of life to all but a small minority is going to bring very dismal results.
The fact is that most women want dominant—but not domineering—men as partners. Most women aren't attracted to men they can control, and most wifely cheating happens because the man has become too submissive or can no longer satisfy the demands of female hypergamy. It takes a certain kind of man to acquiese to a wife-led relationship, and most men aren't that guy. Try this thought experiment: Imagine a woman with her submissive husband. Now imagine the same woman in a relationship with Bill Clinton or Denzel Washington—is the relationship still wife-led?? If we're being honest, it's highly unlikely. Women naturally submit to men they perceive as being alpha—whether or not they actually are. If a man knows how to mimic the manners and masculine swagger of a higher status man—his woman will almost always select this as opposed to a wife-led relationship. I would even go so far as to suggest that the vast majority of women in wife-led relationship would currently ditch the submissive husbands for other men if those men were of sufficiently alpha (ie, economic, political, force of personality, etc)
I'm not saying wife-led relationships don't work. I'm just saying that for 99 percent of couples out there this won't be a solution, and talking as if this has wider appeal is just nonsense. It's just a fantasy or fetish for most men & women—something to be role-played every now and again. It's not a sustainable relationship solution, in the main.
"This is one of those times where people are taking a fetish or fantasy and thinking it's a great idea to apply to one's entire life or marriage."
Exactly. Many women have rape fantasies, but basing the entire relationship around that would be a disaster. This is really no different.